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I told my mom that I am going to join the army and she has been extremely mad at me all day because she says that a girl needs to do stuff like being a house wife or taking care of children and cooking and sewing and stuff... I guess she thinks it still the 1800s. How can I explain to her that my dream is to fight in the army without her getting so mad about it?

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Phlorence_602

Just talk to her when she's calm, and explain your reasons.

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But she doesnt listen. She always thinks she right. But Ill try. Thanks Phlo!
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Psh :)
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Keep trying ! That's the way ALL Mom's are ! Mine was too ! Always on me for killing Dinosaurs ! She'll listen . Right now you're scaring her !
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She is worried you will die. Just tell her it is not the 1800's and you won't sign up for the army if she starts being in the 21st century!

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Il join no matter what her decision is.
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She is surprised. Regardless, prepared or not every parent knows the possible danger involved. She will get used to the idea. She's proud of you,she just had other plans. Let it sink in, do some research, show her what it's all about. Good luck !

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Hi Bubb !
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Look, I know how that can be. My grandmother, the person I live with, has to always be right even though I bring up proof in my favor. Just have a talk with her and tell her that she has done what she wanted with her life, and that you are going to do what you want. My grandmother never approves of what I do, but I just go on because it's my life and not hers. If she loves you enough then she will realize that it is your dream to join the army, and people that love you will help you achieve your goals, not keep you from them.

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She keeps telling me that Ill die and Ill get r@ped and stuff. I already know the dangers. I still want to join. Thanks so much!!
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Mothers think of the worst when they know their child doesn't want to stay at home. My grandmother won't let me go off anywhere without an adult because I will get kidnapped or some other crazy thing, or at least she thinks that. Just remember that all women have a tendency to be a bit over-dramatic.
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lol. ive noticed.
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Let her cool off and then talk like mature women.

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You have to understand where she is coming from though. To most mothers their children are their whole world and the army is dangerous. That however I am sure you are aware of. People die. Mothers are afraid of losing their beloved children. The being in which they have devoted their lives to take care of and raise. If you are really serious about this, take some time to think of why you are making this decision. Then calmly present your reasons to her. Once you become an adult she cannot stop you from entering the army.

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She's a little stuck in the past. Just wait for her to be calm, if she brings it up in a calm way you can talk to her about it. You don't have to make her change her mind, but she should understand you without getting mad about it. Don't get defensive or angry or critical of her - stay calm yourself and it'll be easier for her to understand what you're saying.

Trust me it's a pain to handle people who still think that the different genders have very specific "roles" especially about women (you should've heard the guys' astonishment when I was working construction *rolls eyes*.) The best thing you can do is just be confident in yourself and keep doing what you're doing. You won't have to change their minds, but don't let their attitudes change yours.

But also think about how scared she must be that her little girl is going off to the Army. So don't forget how hard that is for her.

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She's just worried and probably upset. Being in the US Military is a huge risk to your life, and she probably is just worried. Even so, it is your life. If you want to join the army, go for it. As for your mom, if she truly is that mad, you need to talk to her. Let her cool off, and later tell her why you chose to join the military. Yes, women do have other responcibilitys then being a US Soldier, but to tell you the truth, anyone can become one. And she is talking about the 1800s, but she just needs to be talked to. Just talk to her when she is cooled off, and just talk to her.

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Just be persistent about it ! She's afraid that you will get harmed . Talk with her and be as nice as you can be and tell her when you're 18 that it's your choice . I'll admit she sounds old fashioned , but maybe that's the way she was raised ! Tell her your reasons and be as calm as can be . Show your maturity by talking and listening ! She just loves you and wants the best for you ! Stay at it and stay calm and nice . You will get her to understand ! You can do it ! Just remember what I've told you about war ! It's no game !

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I have memories that would make these kids puke !
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Thanks Mr.Wayne!
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Let her calm down. She is scared for you and that is a reasonable thing. You are putting your life in danger, and you will be far from home. Mothers think they need to protect their children, especially daughters. She is going to need more info direct her to them website the Army has for parents, http://www.goarmy.com/parents.html

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She can get mad all she wants ... Its not her life after your 18 you don't need her permission if you live under her roof then thats different but joining the military thats honorable ... Best of luck thor = )

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Thanks hawk!
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she's your mom, so that's all she wants to does protect you. no parent REALLY wants their kid to go fight, not knowing if its the last time they are going to see them. its only natural for her to react like that, but if you just help her accept it rather than getting all defensive on your part (I'm not saying you are), she will soon understand and accept that you feel that's what you are meant to do. hope this helps, and thank you so so so so so much for serving!

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All of the above are excellent answers and suggestions...Hi..Loki....Remember this as a mom of a dead son....We all worry about our children and she's just wanting the VERY BEST for her "little girl"... give her time to adjust to your choice...Stay strong... I thank you for wanting to serve and protect us and our country..

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Aww. Im sorry for your loss. :( And thanks! Ill keep that in mind.
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She's worried that you will get hurt and its maybe how she was raised and taught that girls should do that talk to her

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Let her know that maybe you don't want to do that. And that you want to do something else and your gonna follow YOUR dreams, not hers. Once your 18 she has no power over what you do.

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