When a man takes a sacred vow to his wife .. He should keep his promise however .. He should also honor his mother. If there was ever a tug of war between the two .. He will have to weigh the circumstances and figure out what the "right" thing to do is. Choose a side because it is right and just ... And for no other reason.
Wife always comes first. You leave your family to be independent and grown up and start your own family. You wife deserves to be held in the highest regard as the future mother of your children and the partner in your home. your mother comes just behind your wife, she raised you to be independent and should relinquish all but love and respect for you and for the woman you chose to spend your life with. ( one would assume that is not your mother) When your children are born your wife and children are most important. It's your responsibility to take your wife's side and support her if you mother has a problem with her. You step up and say that your wife and happiness in your home are now and always will be top priority for you now. That's what you promise when you marry. That's what you promise to her parents when they give their daughter to you in marriage, that you cleave only unto her and protect her.