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I recently got married and had a baby. I am moving to be with my husband. Do I have to notify my son's father of the move? He's noncustodial

He has not seen his child in 2 years and only spoken to him once in those two years. He has not paid child support since our son was one. He is now fourteen. I am moving with my children from Arkansas to Georgia.

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You may notify the father of your child about the movement because he has the right to know. This is because he may want to see is children at some point in time.

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no but would be the right thing to do

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I have no way of contacting him since he hasn't left me an address or phone number to reach him. I guess I will have to have a lawyer do some paperwork on it.
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hmmmmmm.....I wouldn't worry about it then. Don't see how he got out of child support. I payed for 15 years here in NC.
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The bigger question here is why haven't you forced collection of child support from this man? Yes notify him. Many states now require it, to prevent denying the noncustodial their rights to visitation.

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To answer your question: I never enforced child support on him for the fact that after we split he married and had 4 boys within a few years apart. I know that he didn't have the money to give to me. I am financially stable enough to care for our child on my own. I didn't want to take money from him knowing that it would be taken from the babies that needed nutritious meals and a roof over their heads. I'm sure many feel that I am a sucker for thinking that way but that's the way I feel. I will just contact him through my attorney since I don't have his address or contact info.
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Sounds like a plan. And I totally understand. Do what works best for u and ur fam!!
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how nice of you. see you didn't ask for no assistance from any agencies or the state would of went after child support. what NC does.
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ALL fathers regardless of the number of children they have need to fully support all of their children. While your act appears noble, it doesn't send the right message your ex needs, which is, he doesn't need to breed like a rabbit! :(
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I know he doesn't need to procreate like a rabbit. I know that he should care for his child and it doesn't send the right message to him to just let him get away with not paying for his child. My concern has always been for him to have a relationship with our child which for whatever reason I don't know why he chooses not to at this point. I have never spoken ill of him in front of our child and only recently has he questioned why his father doesn't pay child support and doesn't see him. I simply said that is something you must ask your daddy. My husband has taken the role of father figure to him for the last 5 years. My son has expressed wanting him to be his dad and have our last name. I don't think that is a decision for me to make but only his father. I didn't want to go through the court system just to notify him that we are moving. I was just asking for opinions which I appreciate greatly. Thanks!
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I'm just an old man that believes all men need to care for their children, sorry if I came off so harsh. I guess as my life is slipping from me I only wish I could do more to guide and help. Take care, you ARE a noble person and mother.
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Update: I went and sought the advice of my attorney on my current moving situation with my child. I was told that there was nothing in my custody papers about contacting the noncustodial parent and that in the state of Arkansas the custodial parent ha the right to move out of state. It is the burden on the noncustodial parent to prove that it's not beneficial to the child. With all of that information, I typed a letter to my child's father and gave him the date we are moving and all of my contact numbers and new address and sent it to his last known address certified. He received it and signed for it and I have yet to hear from him. Thanks for all of the advice. My sons and I will be happy with my husband in Georgia. No one will fill my sons fathers place but at least he knows there is a man that loves him and is willing to step in for his father for whatever reason he chooses not to be a part of his life.
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well, what I figured on not needing to contact but don't do what my ex did to my children, she bad mouth me and now my children don't want anything to do with me even though the now know that she lied to them all the years she had them. that is how mentally abused that helfer did to them.
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He may not have custody, but you should at least let him know.

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At some point, god forbid, u may need his medical records for ur son

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I have contact with the paternal grandparents.
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Maybe just let one his relative know.

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If you were married to this man and divorced, what does your final dissolution of marriage order signed by the judge indicate about your child, if this was addressed?

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We were never married. We have custody papers but it doesn't say anything about moving.
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Thank you Maria. Unless you do not want contact with him since apparently he is an irresponsible parent according to your post, if you have the time and it is your desire, I would contact Children and Family Services in your area as well as the court so they can go after him for child support. However, they would provide him with your new address. You are not obligated to inform him of your move. I am not giving you legal advice and although I am am a paralegal, in the State of Florida if a parent is non-custodial and nothing is stated in the custodial order from the court re informing him you are moving, enjoy your life with your new husband and good luck in your new endeavor. Enjoy your weekend.
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Thanks for your opinion! I appreciate it. You have a good weekend as well.
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You're welcome. :-)
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Yes. Tell him.

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I know considering the time since dad has last contacted or been around his child it would seem easier to just move on and forget about him but for medical reasons it might be a good idea to keep in contact with da or his family at least. Also I understand your reasons for not filing for support, it shows a great level of compassion but still your child deserves the right to know who his real dad is, if dad can manage to father and support 4 other kids then what's the reason he chooses to forget about your child? Maybe forcing the support issue would have made him attempt to be a real father. Either way he sounds like a real piece of work.

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It might would have forced him to have a relationship with his son if I would have forced the issue I support. I do not feel that his father is a bad person and I would never speak negatively in front of our son. I think that his father has had extreme lapses in judgement and that is for him to deal with on his own with his son and with his God. My son does deserve a father but I cannot make his father want a relationship with his son. My husband has stepped in for the past 5 years and has been a loving father figure in his life. We have a child together as well and he doesn't treat the two any differently. I was jut asking opinions of whether I have to notify him. I will notify him I'm just not sure if I should try to find him and talk to him or go the legal route.
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If it were me I would pass the message along to his family or get with the family and tell them you need to speak to him and give him the new address/info and if he chooses to make a big legal issue if it so be it, Ed the one who will have to answer to attorneys/judge why he's been absent for most if his child's life, I doubt any court would deny you the right to move to a different state just based upon his lack of concern for that child.
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