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What's your limit in an argument?

If you're in an argument with a friend/significant other/spouse, at what point do you say "No, you CANNOT say that to me, that is NOT okay"? (things like name calling or insults)

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Sensitive subjects. Like for me... Name calling (like you mentioned), comparing me to other people, and commenting on my personal issues.

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I don't like insulting people... :/
It's not in my nature.

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Me neither. I don't like him using... that common term for "complaining" involving a cuss word.... but he doesn't see anything wrong with it.
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I rarely just say "you cannot say that to me" because typically I insult the person back, but I guess it's when I'm called stupid. Because I know for a fact I'm not

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Once the personal attacks start because there is nothing concrete to base their argument on, this is usually when I call at the argument off because it has turned into something else.

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Name calling...and attacking me on a personal level...

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dustee
Hey beautiful...
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FunnyLittleFrog

The minute they start insulting me? Why would that be ok up to a certain point?

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Well other things too. Insults were just an example. Also specific phrases or actions or gestures you don't accept.
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Way before it gets to that point..
Arguing is for the emotionally unhinged

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Arguing is actually supposed to be healthy.

Not excessive arguing, obviously.

But expressing frustration is better than bottling it up.

All depends on how you do it, though.
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Expressing your feelings isn't arguing..
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You know what I mean. Arguing/disagreeing.... without shouting or name calling.
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Once the other person is angry enough to start calling me names I'm done, because the argument turned into a totally different subject, it then becomes about the way they are talking to me.

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true.... ck u email.... and gm
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Kooikie! Hello!
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What about things that may not be as direct as an insult but are still (usually) rude? Like would you put up with someone using the word "[female dog]-ing" in reference to your disagreement?
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Quester, no, I wouldn't, because it's still a derogatory remark, they I'm assuming we are talking about a boy, he wouldn't want to be call a ba$tard any more than you would like being called a female dog. Remember, people treat you the way you allow them to.
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Yup, I know, and I don't put up with it... it's just hard to break him of the habit (for lack of a better term) because he doesn't think it's bad per say, but synonymous with "complaining" or "nagging."
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Hummm.......try calling him what I told you he wouldn't like, when you see the shocked look on his face, just simply reply "See, it doesn't feel good does it" sometimes you gotta fight fire with fire.
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I would say "I don't respond to rudeness" and that would be my last last response.

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It could work, but sometimes I like to be a little $hit too!!! Ha!!
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Yep ! I hear ya... I got kinda snippy right before the Elections... I usually don't get that worked up , but I let em get to me... Lol
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@Sweeterthantea Hmmmm are you any kin to Miss Dustee???;D
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PoisonIvyLeo

The argument itself. I hate to argue.

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Im not really very sensitive to stuff like that, I have been called every thing in the book and still kept my composure, im sure if somebody tried hard enough they could tic me off, but reall who wants the pent up anger and stress of an rabid duck?

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You may be able to teach me a thing or two Guss, sometimes I find it hard to keep my mouth shut.
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I don't get into fights, but I'd say enough is enough at the naming calling. :o

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I totally agree, that's when they've crossed the line.
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It normally doesn't take me long to stay mad at someone . Like with family members I stop when ever I finish with what ever it is I need to say.

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