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Long story short.. a romeo and Juliet situation.. No, we wont commit suicide...

My best friend is being forced to marry a mormon through an arranged marriage and its sorta like romeo and Juliet because her dad hates me because I'm Russian-Arab, i need a solution and i need one fast! she does NOT want to marry him.

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What solution could there be but running away together.

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With all due respect, I do not understand what the issue is if you are not liked by the father since you are not the one getting married. If you could clarify, perhaps members could assist you.

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Well if she's good with it then its her choice. But if she wants out then try helping her talk to her parents. Sorry, I dont know much about arranged marriage and I'm guessing its cultural in your friends case

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Shes white, and im russian arab so.. Yeah..
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Oh, and thats f***ed up that her parents dont like you jjust coz of yur culture :(
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Yep..
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My parents are rasist and I dont understand why. It matters on the inside not out.
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Exactly
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go to LV
marraige bureau open 18/7,$55 cash

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What... The buck..
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It's a free country your friend has a choice. Freedom and adulthood or be a compliant child.

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Its against her will, shes nearly turning 18.
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If she is under 18 some people have been prosecuted for such forced so called marriages. Regardless if it is against her will its rape everywhere.
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Ok this is 2013! She doesn't have to, and shouldn't be ''forced'' to marry anyone she doesn't want to! She may have to leave her fathers household. He does not own her!

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i agree 1000000%
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Who's attention can i bring this to who can put a stop to this?
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a governemt offivial that deals with civil liberites, because the right to mary is a civil liberty. if the father is very controlling, talk to the police
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When she is 18 she can walk out of his house and never look back.
She needs to stand up to her dad....
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He is abusive.. So she's scared.. If he comes i may not be able to defend her from him..
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Ok when he is gone, get her to a women's shelter. She needs to get away from a person like that before it's to late.
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Oh and no matter what, be there for her. If she needs a shoulder to cry on, give her yours. This situation has to be horrible for her.
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CaLl THE POliCE!
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We're en route to my aunts.. I hope he doesn't find us..i will tell you guys how this all turns out.. Good, i hopez
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try to talk to her father about it, she doesnt have to marry him. if anything, she has rights and the ability to leave. her father cannot control her, just make sure you keep supporting her and offer her someone to talk to

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Hi. This is a difficult problem. Right now she's what...17? And has been raised with those parents and way of life. This is not up to you to try & change her father's mind, because he's already decided on her future. The wisest thing you can do, is to tell her how you feel about her, and that she is the one who must confront her parents. Firstly, she is way too young to marry anyone! She should be able to move out and have her own place for a while to find out who the heck she is before marrying. Let her know you will be there for her, but it is she who must decide her fate. She needs a job and probably more schooling. Her father thinks he's doing the right thing for his daughter, but it's not your job to change it. It is HER job. Unless she grows up fast and dares to live, she will be stuck for a long while.

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Arrange marriages wow thats crazy... If she loves you as you say then its easy go to her house or try and talk to her and run off together.... If you guys are over 18

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There are organizations that help girls in this situation. I don't know the names offhand, but you could look it up. they provide housing and a way out. I know if I were in her shoes, I would leave as soon as possible.

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She should talk to her parents and if that doesnt work then run away together

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