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I need some relationship advise. Grown-ups only please.

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Me and my boyfriend of a year lost our virginity to each other about six months ago, and we rarely get time alone, so we haven't done it a whole lot: only three or four times. Even so, I really thought it was supposed to feel good by now. It doesn't hurt anymore, but it just feels awkward and clumsy with not much pleasure (for me, anyway. He seems to like it just fine). Could I be doing something wrong or did I just let my expectations get too high?

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Try different positions and foreplay. Just try different things until you guys find something that's pleasurable for both of you.

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Could be a little of both, doing something wrong and expecting too much. It could be a number of things, such as his performance, compared to someone else. Different people do it different ways.

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you are under too much pressure. if you have no alone time, have to sneak around, etc then your mind is not there and for a female the biggest "sex organ" is her brain. you will enjoy it more when your mind can relax.

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For starters this might sound off but in order for the female to feel better usually they also need to relax a little. Having foreplay helps in this matter most of the time. But as far as I know maybe you aren't fully comfortable or you did set your expectations really high.

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no. practice makes perfect. he just needs guidance from you and you need to let him know when you like something more or less. AND relax and enjoy each other. rent a room 4 the week end and take your time

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I don't know how old you are , but it is usually that way when you start to young , the guy always likes it but doesn't have a clue how to please a lady .

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Very true. And young girls think that is how it is suppose to be.
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Yep , how you doing Sugar ?
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Doing good sweety, how about yourself?
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Doing a lot better , thank you !!!
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That's good to hear. Getting a little antsy for spring, want to get back into my flip flops. lol
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Considering that y'all are each others first & the fact that you've still only did it 3 or 4 times, sounds like all you need is some practice. Men usually enjoy sex just for the simple fact that we're having sex. It may be a little different for women but bottom line, right now, it sounds like all you need is just more practice

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are you two just doing missionary or are u experimenting. the key to a healthy sexual relatiinship is experimentation. try doong something you think will feel good for YOU. just know that a man will love sex no matter what way. you have to let him know what pleases u. good luk!

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Okay, you asked this very exact same question, to the t 2 months ago!
Your still having the same problem 2 months later?!

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Try a new boyfriend!

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Lol
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That's terrible!
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Hi city
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Sounds like he doesn't know that a women's needs come first then his ... Your first time should of been magical not rushed ... Talk to him hope it works out for you good luck

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This is not uncommon. When I first had intercourse, I thought, "That's it, really?" It wasn't until later in life that I really enjoyed it. For guys it's a bit different, it doesn't take much for them to climax. You and your boyfriend may want to focus on what happens before sex, to make it more enjoyable for the both of you.

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Im not an adult but I am also not a virgin so I would say to try differnent positions and different speeds.

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