If you have been in a monogamous relationship for 19 yrs why would it be important to tell the names of past people to your current spouse?
I just dont understand why its so important and he says if I wont tell him then I am hiding something. I am hiding nothing, its the past what good does it do for our relationship now? This has never been an issue before, but now its to the point that he is angry with me for not revealing names to him that he is barely speaking to me. He says most men want to know. I dont understand and I dont want to give him names. I would have no problem telling him if he had even the smallest legitimate reason for knowing but when I ask him why all he says is, "I want to know." That is not a reason that is a person being curious. All that should matter is that Im with him, I havent been with anyone else in 19 years. So why now after all these years?