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How to get back with your ex?

Me and my girlfriend were dating for about four months... she broke up with me Thursday, and did it in a very weird way; She told me she loved me, but had feelings for her ex, and that wasn't fair, so she wanted to take a break. my concern is that while she's trying to lose her feelings for her ex, they'll actually grow, and that she'll lose feelings for me... when we broke up, she specifically asked me to still give her a bracelet that says "B&N forever", and when I gave it to her, I hugged her... then kissed her. She wasn't mad, just surprised. So now they're dating, and I want to make her leave him for me... PLEASE help>.< and thanks for reading this.. It seems like she's using me, but at this point idc

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Why would you even want to be with her after that?

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Same reason she left him for.
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I know what you mean, but I've fallen in love... Like I realize that all my other relationships, I didn't want to be alone, but in this relationship, there's no one else I'd rather be with... I've put so much into making us work, and if it were any other girl, I'd be gone, but it's weird I've talked to other girls, but I get a bitter feeling as if I'm disgusted with myself... Like I still belong to her... In short I think it's not that I want to be with someone, (if that we're the case, I would be dating someone else by now) but that there's no one else if rather date...
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It seems she doesn't feel the same,or shouldn't be leaving you to go with someone else.He ex at that! Time to move on my friend.
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Have you ever been in love doc? If this guy really means it then I feel for him. Love, true love, makes you do crazy things. I would do anything to be with the girl I love. i would completely drop everything going on in my life, even though she put me through a lot of pain. I can move on, but I won't ever forget that.
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^exactly. Love isn't about wanting to be with someone. It's about not wanting to be with anyone else... But I figured out what I need to do, thanks for all y'all's help
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Good luck to you. Hope you're more fortunate than I was.
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Well I say when people break up it wasn't meant to be... If she broke up with you then you can find better. Yea you might love her but obviously she doesn't care to much about you. It seems like your really sweet and care about her your not a boy who just wants a girlfriend. But from that I don't think she deserves you. But that's my opinion. I hope it all works out.

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an ex is past. that is why she's an ex. its nonsense getting back together with your ex.

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I think it would be a huge waste of your time. Move on, she obviously doesn't like you anymore. You'll find a better girl who will treat you better. ^-^ There's plenty of fish in the sea. 8)

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she is using you dont go back to her they call them ex's for a reason

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you dont deserve to be used but if you want her back you should do what you did the first time to get her or make her jealous by dating someone else who wants to help you get your ex back for you you could try being there for her when that guy hurts her or find stuff about the other guy that proves hes not the right guy for her you could simple talk to her about this and see if theres any chance of you guys getting back together. you could be there as a friend and work your way back into her life as a boyfriend or prove to her your a better guy then the one shes dating by doing the stuff that he wont do for her or with her hopefully that works

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Thank you, I've been thinking about dating someone to make her jealous, but my only concern is that it will only make us grow apart... >.<
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your welcome but when ur ex ask you are u dating the new girl just say no shes just a friend and make her look like the stupid one for assuming you moved on when u didnt and then she will be all jealous and also have the new girl say shes just a friend to your ex so ur ex doesnt think ur lying to her either and that should work
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Okay thanks
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anytime :)
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You don't care that she's using you? Do you think that little of yourself that you would settle for her or anyone like her? Forget about her.

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It's not that I think little of myself, it's that I don't really think that's what's happening... It's hard to explain...
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I understand. Women do the same thing when they stay with guys who abuse them.

If your best friend was in your situation, what would you think? This girl uses him for a bracelet and then gets back together with he ex and he says it's ok if she treats him like crap because he loves her. What would you tell him to do?
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Well, I've been talking to him, and he told me I should listen to my heart. As much as I appreciate y'all's help, I think the answer is for me to figure out... And I've thought about it alot, and if she's worth anything, she'll come back to me. "If it's meant for you, you won't have to beg for it."
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She isn't using you because she is with him!
It's time to move on. Be honest, respectful, and Smile at others, and you will find someone else. Life changes, so do bf and gf. You will find someone who really likes you and you her. Good luck.

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You deserve better

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Move the heck on. I suppose there could be a slim chance it could work again. It's not worth the wait. Get over her and move forward.

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She still loved her ex or at least enough to leave you and give it another shot. She knew it was risky, she could end up alone if it doesn't work out with him but she did it regardless. She might even think you'll be waiting as backup. Keep your dignity and move on. Yeah, you love her but it's not reciprocated. Find someone that loves you back.
Anyone that leaves and goes back to dating an Ex isn't that person. Don't look back.

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Hey if u care for her then tell we but not in a way that could be in a cheating way. Let her know exactly how u feel an dont just give up. Break up happen to the best couples an they get together by talking an being respectful of eachothers. If u love her that much then wait for her, let her know what's up an that ur the right choice an ur willing to prove it.
I suggest being a friend more than being the ex. Text her a few times to be friendly but make sure she knows how u feel but also explain ur just keeping in touch an not trying to screw up her relationship.
;) good luck

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You can find someone better and DESERVE someone better!!! Try to forget about her, she forgot about you... Just know that there are girls out there who want a boyfriend like you. Dont loose hope and good luck! ;)

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Not putting your ex down, but, she moved, you should to. Keeping yourself in the past isn't going to help either one of you. Tell her you want to still want to be friends, keep it friendly. It sucks to hear it, but it's probably not ment to be bro.

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