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I need help! my parents won't believe me and I'm homeschooled so I can't talk to a school counselor! what should I do? (details)

I am depressed and suicidal, I used to cut myself and now I smoke (don't tell me to stop smoking because I won't listen, I'm not even addicted or anything, I smoke once a month) I've told my parents that I'm depressed and suicidal and they know that I used to cut but they don't think anything is wrong, they just think I want attention! and sense I don't go to school, I can't talk to a counselor or anything, I talk to my friends and my boyfriend about it and I even talked to my boyfriends mom but there isn't much they can do! please give me some advice? also, I meditate, keep a journal, pray and exercise so don't suggest any of those! I want to know how to convince my parents that there is really something wrong so that they will take me to a doctor! thank you for any answers that you may give! :) (ask.com mods: please don't delete this Q)

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First off, I'm not about to tell you to quit doing anything, ok?! You're obviously stressed to the max...I can sense that in your question. It probably won't help to hear that I've been there, too...but I have. I am so sorry for what your dealing with. There is nothing worse than being so stressed and depressed and being brushed aside when you are begging for help. I wish I could talk to your parents and tell them that your life is very well on the line right now. That your future happiness is in their hands and they are shirking their responsibilities to you. At this point you NEED to see a professional. There is nothing wrong or bad about needing professional help at times. I have a question for your parents...feel free to show this to them. My question is...Do you love your child and want the best life has to offer for your child? If yes...then get off your high horses and take care of your child.

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Haha they don't know I have an ask.com so I can't really ask them! And they say all the time that they care and love me! And what makes this whole thing worse is that my dad is leaving us...:/
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Oh geez!! I'm so sorry! If you need to talk, let me know. I can promise you that I'll listen without judging.
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Thanks! Do you have kik?
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Ok xool!
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I'm gonna find out what kik is...I have a friend who is way tech smarter than me!
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Haha it's in instant messenger!
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Not smarter, just have teenage girls. Raven, beg your parents to get you help. Talk to them at a time when everything seems calm. Ask them to please listen to what you have to say, without interupting. As a parent of a girl just your age, well, sometimes we may not want to admit that our child may need help. We too are afraid of being judged. But if you are calm and sincere, they will listen. Just breathe, things can get better.
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I have done that, they didn't believe me :/
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Truckerlady! Glad to see you're still around.

I'm returning after a few months. - salad man.
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It appears that many of you have come back from the great beyond. ;)
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i also use to cut but was never suicidal. There's not much you can do if your parents wont give you their attention. You can try to get ur bf's mom to take u to a dr. ur parents do not have to be with you if u know ur insurance info. good luck to u hun

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Ill think about asking her! Thanks!
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Your welcome and im here if u need to talk
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Ok thanks!
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Girl, this sounds like my exact life when i was a teen. How old are you? What are you parents reasons for not wanting you to go to a doctor? Have you attempted suiceide? and last question. When you cut, where do you cut and why? how did your parents find out?

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I'm 14, it's been going on for about 4 years! They won't take me because they think I just want attention! Yes I have attempted! I use to cut my wrists and wear gloves but one time my glove had slid down and my mom saw them...then for a little while after she saw I cut on the side of my stomach! And I used to cut because it feels good!
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it does feel good!! Then when my bf saw the cuts he told me that would be the one thing that made me leave him and i couldnt stand that
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Yeah my bf said that if I ever cut again he'll break up with me, that's why I stopped!
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Girl, you need to see someone asap. You are cutting because there is something on the outside that you can't deal with. I am 25 and I still have problems with cutting. My sister saw my cuts when i was 15 and told my parents. They refused to take me to the doctor. I faked being sick so they would take me to the doctor then when i was there i told my dr about everything and she told my parents that i needed to see a therapist or they were going to lose me. I had attempted suicide (which they didn't know) obviously it didn't work but this is something you will have to battle your whole life. Its not something you can just stop. When the pressure and stress and pain becomes too much you will cut again. Tell you parents that you need the help if that doesn't work fake it and talk to your doctor she/he will talk to your parents. Maybe they just need to hear it from an adult. stay strong girl. I know how hard it is. I've been there... Hell, i'm still fighting it.
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Ok I think I'll try that! My mom has been saying that I need a check-up soon so ill tell my dr then! Thank you!
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I was homeschooled and had strict crazy parents so I know how to get around a lot of things. Def talk to your doctor then. They will insist that you see someone to your parent. :) good luck and stay strong!!! Post and update afterwards!
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When your cutting, your body releases endorphins into the brain. These have the same affect on ones mind as doing heroine, and we all know how addictive that is. Try to find a youth suicide hotline, or clinic that will take you. The sooner the better. Take care, gods speed.
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Haha yeah ok, I will!
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@rusty: yeah my bf told me about that! I've stopped cutting though (thanks to my bf) I will try that!
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Maybe a phone call to a suicide hotline would help. At least somebody there might have some good advice on who to talk with or how to get your parents to listen to you. I'm just thinking that they might have a bit more experience dealing with this issue then the people on here.

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I'm not aloud on the phone :/
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is itpossible someone could call someone for u?
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I don't know...I guess I could ask my boyfriend but I think he would just tell me thy I should do it for myself!
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What about somebody on here?
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That would be a little weird but I guess!
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Weiird? how? We could get u the help you are seeking. email me lilbobbyyoung@gmail.com
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i cut everyone tells me to stop but i dont want to i wanna die ik how u r every body says oh she just wants attention but no i hate it! they think we love to cut ourselves no we dont usually we just are depressed and then by the time we kill our selves theyre be like oh maybe she is suicidal duhhhhh but ik how u feel they just dont listen

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I know right?! It sucks that they won't listen, it's like they don't care!
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ik thts how if feel but watch were commet suicide just like my brother did n they finally listended to me when he did! i was like it a lil late
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ik my brother commeted suicide but they didnt listen till he did i was like really a lil late
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yea ik my mom and dad didnt listen till my brother died i was like really
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Yeah :/
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Lollipopslove

How old are you? And you should sit down and tell your parents everything. Tell them you smoke tell them you cut and tell them you are suicidal. If they dont listen find a close family member and tell them. A VERY CLOSE family member. Make sure you tell them everything.If your parents dont listen even if your close family member tells them then you need to get out of the house and go to the nearest hospital or police station. Tell them EVERYTHING and then they will be able to help you. Good luck :)

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I'm 14! I have done that, they won't listen! And if I tell them that I smoke they'll lock me in my room for pretty much forever! And we live in the middle of no where, there aren't any close hospitals or police stations!
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Ok you have no family members you can call? Any friends or adults you know? If not then you have to call the child services. The number depends on the state you live in.
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No all of my family thinks I'm just a little kid who doesn't know anything about anything! They all treat me like I'm 5 -.-
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Lollipopslove
Ok well go on google and type in child services in (Insert state you live in) And call them. This is a serious problem.
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Ok! Thanks!
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You are a good help lollipop
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It's really strange that both parents don't see the problem, especially since you were harming yourself.
Do you act out, need constant attention, maybe they think you are crying wolf. If the cutting wasn't getting them to take you seriously I doubt anything will. You can find help in your area, people to talk with over the phone. Please start with suicide prevention. 1-800-273-TALK
1-800-273- 8255. They are available 24/7.
Good luck!

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nice im usin these #s!
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Yeah they think I'm crying wolf! When my mom saw my cuts she called my dad and said "I think she is just trying to be cool" wtf!! Lol!
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Oh and I'm not aloud on the phone!
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oh wow! thts bs! cant u do it when there
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Find a way, if you want help you need to find it, no excuses, use a friends phone next time you are out.
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Ill try!
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u better

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luver, I'll try my best! :)
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ok thnxs!
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http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
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this is a link to the national suicide hotline. it has phone numbers to talk to a real person, plus many more options. try looking them up, they would be able to give you better and more personal help than i could. keep talking, and good luck.

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How would you feel if your boyfriend killed himself? So don't do it snap out of it your chemical imbalances are probably out in your body you should asses your diet and nutrition and tell your parents you would like to see a doctor... One day your parents won't matter when you have your own life so stop worrying what they think and rather look after yourself...

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It would suck if he did! He is the only thing that keeps me from really killing myself! But it still hurts! I'm only 14! I can't take care of myself, I don't care what they think I just want them to help!
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He won't be your last boyfriend in life remember that everyone will experience other partners... It's natural to go through life and experience break ups and whatnot the thing that I'm trying to say is as much as you wouldn't want him to take his life is as much as others wouldn't want you to take yours... Imagine you have kids one day wouldn't you want the opportunity to improve and do better for them what your folks are not doing for you?
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I know! But that doesn't help the fact that there is something medically wrong in my brain!
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Then seek medical help contact a helpline or talk to your mother tell her you want to see a doctor to see why you feel so down. If she says no then sleek to another family member to talk to your parents...
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Sorry don't mean to sound like I'm telling you what to do its just its concerning when people say they want to take their lives... I've had friends do it and they where also threatening and no one believed them at the time. Do not hurt yourself it will only really hurt others, hurting yourself to get their attention is also silly. There are more affective ways of getting people's attention. Rather spend more time working out what things make you happy and keep finding new things to make you happy! You are in control of your own destiny and if you feel like taking your life is the only way out then your not fighting for yourself! Posting this question was a good step in the wright direction. The fact that you are seeking advise means you do care and you are headed in the wright direction. Things will work out and you will be ok. Just hang in there...
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Also your folks might seem like they don't care when in actual fact possibly they are putting the problem under the carpets... Maybe they don't know how to handle it and by ignoring it they might think the problem will go away... There is no school or book given to parents when they have a teen teaching them how to handle all situations. Well there probably is a book it's just no one has given it to them... I don't think it's worth hurting yourself to get them to listen. They probably will get hurt and confused if you did that... To understand your situation a true psychologist needs to talk to you. You also need more friends to keep you busy sounds like you might have a little cabin fervor being home schooled. Do you know why they don't let you go to normal school?
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wow! that's a lot to respond to! I understand what you're saying! and I have a tun of friends and I see them twice a week! and yeah they won't let me go to public school because the kids there are bullys. and because they don't actually teach kids anything! (Sorry if that was rude or upset you but it's kinda true)
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Don't bother with your parents anymore, contact a local shrink

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How? I live in the middle of no where!
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Sorry, didn't mean to report this answer!
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It's fine, no one knows it was or who did it anyway :P
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wow. you sound like me. right now. ummm, well first, there are online sites that will give you a counselor, live, to talk to. i went inpatient a few months ago and they told me to check the internet for a counselor. so, i guess check around till you find something. ooooorrrrrrr, you could try and convince yourself that there's nothing wrong with you. try the internet first tho

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Haha ok will do! Thanks!
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yup. no problem
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Baby you are adorable!! Don't let anyone hurt you, especially your parents

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But how?
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My mom doesn't care that I used to cut so she won't do anything about it! I want to run away!
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That won't solve anything, just ignore them till they give in, every parent is different
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:/ my dad left about a month ago...he was emotionally and verbally abusive...my mom is kinda caught up in all that right now and doesn't have time for me...plus if I bring any of that stuff up, she'll get mad :/
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Oh...I'm sorry, get your mom in a happy mood, make her breakfast or even ask her to go out to lunch then over time she will pay more attention to you, get her mind off of your dad
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I'll try, but I really want to spend as little time as possible with her :/ see my most recent question for details on that.
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Anything is worth a try, get her in a happy mood
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Okay...thanks
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No prob baby doll, stay beautiful ; )
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Haha well first id have to become beautiful lol
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get your parents to just chill! http://www.ask.com/answers/509821081/what-is-the-best-yacon-syrup yacon syrup helps with stress relief and weight loss i think. get them some.

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Like they'd listen to me enough to go to the link. I'm not even supposed to be on ask.com...
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