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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months now, he says he doesnt know what he wants but he doesnt want to break up, what should I do?

We have been dating for 4 months, neither of us has said I love you yet. Im his first relationship in 3 years. He lost his mother 4 years ago and ever since then hes never felt feelings of love towards women.

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Ask him what would make him happy give him space until he can decide on what he wants or talk it over and ask him whats wrong or do something fun and new to get his mind off of stress hes probably just is stressed and thats why he has you do stuff to get his mind off of stress so then he will know what he has and keep it and thats you

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up until this point everything was going great or so I thought. He always used to tell me how much he liked me, he always used to ask if he could keep me, and that he never wanted to lose me. He just started a new job and i know hes stressed and tired from it. When i tried sitting down ad talking to him about it all he said was hes never felt feelings for another women after his mom passed away and that we don't really talk when we hang out, hes not sure what he wants, but he doesnt want to break up.
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stay with him be there but give him space meaning when he wants to be alone let him be alone but i just got a idea do stuff that him and his mom use to do together for fun that will make him happy or make food that his mom made for him that he likes make a scrapebook together of him with his mom doing stuff or in general them together things will work out im gonna make things work out great hun dont worry tell me if you like the ideas i just gave you
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I like the ideas, but I dont know how he would feel about them. I'm gonna try giving it a shot though.
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You can't wait for him tell him you won't wait show him that u r the MAN lol

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If it is clear to you that he doesn't know what he wants, you have to decide whether you can tolerate this or not. It looks like he has a lot of personal issues that he needs to deal with first before he can let in somebody else.

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Dont waste your valuable time.

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