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Is a girl that is 12 years older than me a too big of age difference?

There is this girl that is 30 and im 18, she looks young, shes attractive, and we get along very well and have much in common. But is 12 years too much?

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Well, Age difference is a very difficult thing to judge, seeing as most people have different thoughts on the subject and what they deem " a vast age difference". For some the answer is "yes, others "No". But in the end, what do you think? Only you (And your partner) can decide whether the age difference is too large for the relationship.

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I remember seeing a story of an 18 year old and a woman in her late 30's/ early 40's, and they married, and have been living happily together since then for over five years, lol.
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I totally agree with you. My parents have a 14 ear gap and my husband and me have a 8 year gap.
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Yes.

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Sounds like she was just waiting for you to be legal :P. Like you're her prey.

Haha jk

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Lol Star! ;)
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Ha kinda cute!! My husband did that lol and now we been together for 5 year's and been married going on one year this march!! :)
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Awh:) Congratulations! Hopefully many more to come!
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I know a married couple 15 years apart from each other.

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Um I'd say yes, but that's just my opinion.

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Yes. But I guess it's, ok in your age, to date her.

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Yes. Too big of an age difference.

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Come on! Does that matter? I don't think so, as long as you guys get along and have fun together.

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Your grown now 18 young adult legal age so yes you can date her.go.for it

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How come I never had this problem at 18? That's what I'm thinking

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No, it's not.

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What is age but a number? true and actual love is unconditional, and knows no boundaries, for it is infinite, regardless of height, weight, age, whatever it may be. As long as you are up to par with her maturity and intelligence level, it should be fine.

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sometimes that number represents how long you will be in jail for!
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Travis, in this case, it doesnt, and in the cases where a twelve year old is in love with a 20 year old, it is never love from either party, the 12 year old isnt old enough to understand what true love is, and the adult would only have a pedophilic lust for the child, please look at my statements in actual context, it brings far better understanding.
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I am sorry but travis you know nothing my parents have a 14 year gap. I agree with preppy boy.
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nice preppyboy
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Best answer so far, preppyboy!
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Sounds like a cougar to me ;)

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Hahahahahaha wow
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Lol
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That was funny. YOU ARE FUNNY
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Yep. Too bad girls my age don't like funny guys :,,,(
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You're 18 right?
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Yes.
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Oh. I thought all girls liked funny guys. Especially teenage girls.
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Apparently not :,(
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Aww its ok. You'll find someone
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Pretty much yeah

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At 18, twelve years is too much. At 18 you haven't lived enough life on your own to know who you are. You aren't in the same place in life as a thirty year old.

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Wouldn't say that..
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Age is just a number...it all depends on maturity levels. Sometimes in relationships like that the older person will always try to control the younger but that's not always the case. I say if y'all are happy together then that's great!

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go for it. age is a number unless you are going to be imprisoned. then that number represents how long of your life is gone.

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How is he going to be imprisoned and what for???
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when your in love, height, distance, weight, and age are just numbers. listen to your heart, i say go for it :)

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I agree :)
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In my opinion I think that is too big of an age gap. But, since you two get along well and have much in common it's okay. :)

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Just know is good for friendship not for marriage just in case you know

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No, I don't think the age difference is bad at all! My dad 40 and my mom is 49. Age can be a hard thing to overcome, but if you really like her and get along with her, why not? Age shouldn't be something that breaks two people who like each other apart! If you think that the age difference is too much, then don't go for it. If you don't care about the age difference, go for her and enjoy every minute of it! Who says age is such a big deal?

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No it dont matter my mom and dad are 28 years apart they started dating when she was 13 (i know illegal) but no it does not matter the age difference

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my opinion is that if y'all are happy then its good
your an adult so do what ever u want

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No it does not matter cuz my mom is 49 and she is dating a 23 year old guy ( wich he could go out with me cuz im 13 ) and they love each other alot

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I had an aunt that married a man in his fifties. They were married for over forty years, raised a great family, and he was the most favorite of all my uncles. He passed way at 92. My aunt was 18 when they married! She loved him so deeply, that she never remarried. So ask yourself, does that age difference REALLY matter? ;)

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You tell us. It's your relationship with your own rules

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You're of legal age.
_Assuming_ that you've graduated from high school ... Then:
Why are you asking other people?
It's your choice, your decision.
If it turns out great, you are the one who will be happy.
If it turns out not so great, you're the one who gets to learn a life lesson.
Make up your own mind. It's time.
-- If you haven't graduated yet ... Wait to start anything until you graduate. You have to keep your own life on track and not get derailed by anything.
After you graduate ... You decide for yourself.

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18 and up, age is nothing but a number. 18 to 80, blind, cripple, crazy, can't walk 'em, drag 'em.

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10 years between my husband and I

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Mine too.. :)
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Well, let's think here a minute, she's 30, and your not even old enough to legally buy a beer when you go out...
Age doesn't matter as much when your past your 30's, but it does when your still a young adult who is just beginning to live and learn things on your own... You may find there's only one thing that you have in common... But then again, this is your decision. It can be a good thing, or a bad thing....

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Probably

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Here is the Ethically (but unofficial) accepted rules and guidlines:
1. If two people are under 18, there can only be a 4 year difference (sometimes only 2) between them and it still be ethically accepted
2: if one person is over 18, but the other isnt, it is alright if the latter person is 16-17, though sometimes it is only 17, depending on the communities preference.
3. both 18 and up: fair game

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If yall have alot in common and there is a spark then no.

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Age is but a number brother = )

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When you have a connection with somebody if they are over 18 if you feel something special with this person then have fun even if its for a moment.... But i guaranty that your going to compare all the other girls you date to this one live with no regrets ......
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Yes. That is called rap e

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It's not rape. He's at the age of consent.
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Depend's on how you feel about it!

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I don't think so,you're an adult now.You can do whatever you wish really.If you wanna give it a shot,go for it! As long as you and her are comfortable with it,that's all that matters. :)

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no, go by weight

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Your a legal adult who can (probably) cover your own ass and you have the right to do what you want

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Age shouldn't matter in a relationship

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way to old

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well kinda i think it okay if there 7 or 8 at the highest but 12 thats a little to far

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yes

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HELL YEAH!! she is a cougar!! and will molest you............

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Age doesn't matter in LOVE :)

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no i think that if you love someone and care it would not matter so if you love her and she loves you it wont matter as all as you guys are happy

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Im sorry but i dont think a 30 yr old woman will go for an 18 year old. The difference is FAR to much. A 30 yr old women wants to go out on dates and to partys and going on a date or a party with an 18 yr old might be embarrassing for her

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Age is just a number, find true love is my pursuit of happiness.
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You must be a hottie with a body to catch a 30 year old, just saying ;) my guess would be that it probably wont last. The chances of her being fully invested in someone so much younger than her aren't very high- but good luck to you.

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I don't think so, as long as your happy, That's all that matters!!! Better than being lonely... Good luck hope it lasts!

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It shouldn't matter who you fall in love with. Age shouldn't be a factor.

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Go for it!! If y'all love each other the you better get
On that like a spider monkey!

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Age does NOT matter. it is frowned upon if under eighteen though.. but that's okay. its okay that your 18 and they're 30. its fine. i am 16 and with a 21 year old so. i am a strong believer in the fact that age is just a simple number that can not determine whom you love

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i think not i only date older ppl and im 17 ive been doing since i was 12 and your grown now that your 18 so go for it

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This culture is messed up , think about it. 30 year old men dating 18 year old women is accepted. We can't help who we love

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i dont think so bud i am a freshman and i'm dating a sixth grader

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age is not anything but a number. go for it

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It's all about your internal age. My fiance is 19 years older than me. I am 25 he is 44. He is a wonderful man. We compliment each other wonderfully. Once you're an adult, your relationship is your choice. You can't put a number on love. :-) I say follow your heart. Do what feels right.

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Nope. Have fun!

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Age difference is something that is hard to judge, some people will judge you for it and some people won't. I have a sister that is 6 years older then me and it feels like she and I are really different and that's only half of the age you are describing. I know a sister isn't a relationship, but you have to ask yourself...are you comfortable with dating someone that has been on the Earth 12 years more then you? Who has 12 years more life experience? Are you ok with the fact that the day you were born, was probably just a day of middle school for her?
If you are ok with that, go for it...because it's your choice...
If not, you just answered the question yourself.

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You are only eighteen and you are still a kid to love a 30 year old experienced woman.Though she looks young,she is far different than you and she is very experienced.Try to look for a teenage girl of your age and those girls will be cuter,prettier and more attractive than that old woman......

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No age does not matter. My parents have 14 years and my grandparents had 15 years. Me and my boyfriend have 8 years. Age is a number but I would date her for a while she might just be looking for sex.

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yes.....what were you thinking

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Everyone's opinions of age difference are going to be different. I say, love is love no matter where you find it. Follow your heart. I knew of an 80 year old man married to a 60 year old woman and it worked. They lived happily ever after. In the end love is love and nothing else matters. Age is just a number not a limit.

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I think yes, it kind of is a BIG age gap.

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if you looking girl to look your auntie than you can go ahead, nothing wrong except she might enjoy more than you...... lol

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*yawn* Depends on situation ^_^ Seems like it would be ok lol!

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Age is just a number
Love is what you feel
So if you like her than its ok :)

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It depends on how old you are.{-18 then yes][18+ then no]

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If you're 18.... then YES... you're still young... go have fun and meet someone your own age!!! you have the rest of your life to be old! also, if she's interested in 18 year olds then that's a big red flag in my book

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well keep in mind she looks young and attractive now, but when your 30 and young and happy, without makeup she'll look 50.

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yes

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i would say so,yes.

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yeah

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Do you really like her? If you do, go for it. If not, well I say find someone closer to your age.

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think of it this way............................................................................................................................ age is just a # so go for it

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I don't think age matters. As long as you love each other.

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Well depends on how badly you love her

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GO for it :D

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It's socially acceptable, as long as it's the woman who is way older. It would be a different situation if you were 30 years old, and had an 18 year old girlfriend. No one would say "Go for it!" then.

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Go for it man!

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As long as you love each other, you wouldn't have any problems with your relationship. But before getting married, you should make sure that your ideas match with her ideas.

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yes

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No, age does not mater

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technically you're of legal age so i suppose. I think its alright, because in a few years you will be 21 years old, so your fine buddy

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it matters if you like her that much, it does not
matter about age. It matters if you love her or not.
hope this helps

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yes its a big difference dude when ur legal she is gonna pounce on you like a lion does a zebra

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yo if you want a long distance relationship ill give u my number
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ha i dont have a phone
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booooo i got an email
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want it?
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want what silly
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my email?
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Dude, just listen to your HEART!! "The heart wants what the heart wants" :D Good Luck!!!

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how old r u?

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me i'm 17
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dont talk to him hes a duck
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y i think hes being nice to me
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hes sitting next to me........... lol jk talk to him
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yeah tyvonn i'm being nice

do you want to be my friend
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shure tehe
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do you want to e-mail me jw
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or u can have mine
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shure prolem solver and shure tyvonn
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mine is zacksnyder95014@yahoo.com
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age is just a number DEPENDING on the age of both of you.

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You're barely in college. You don't have a full time job. You probably haven't paid a bill yet. She has been to college, probably has that full time job, and has paid bills. She is so much more responsible and mature than you are. Having an age difference of more than 2 years is difficult. But, 12 years... that is just impossible. I'm sorry, but that's the truth. I have had a relationship with a 2 year ago difference (I am 17) and that was hard.

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