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I need help being strong against constant batter of my spirit! I am at my wit's end! Please help! Your advice would be cherished.

she is using my housing against me, i am as single Mom who has relocated, and running 2 houses, as too care for my Grandma. When is enough enough!?

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When is enough, enough?? Sounds like NOW is enough. When you start asking this type of question, it is safe to assume that you have had enough.
I would either suggest that you move in with your Grandma.... or look for a place for her that can help her out. Is she disabled? Does she have medical issues? I hate to say it but.... if you cant get any other help with Grandma.... it might be time to put her in a home. I do realize that that should be a last resort but... You seem at your wits end. Your Grandma wouldnt want you to be at your wits end.

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Does your grandma not appreciate your help. Is that the problem

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Pursue good. Know that what you are doing is right & Godly.
"The upright will live forever, their recompense with be with the Lord, & the Most High takes care of them. So they will receive the glorious crown, & the diadem of beauty from the Lords hand; for he will shelter them with his right hand & with his arm he will shield them".

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Nice answer again Shay wow! ***
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Thanx again. It's all for Gods glory.
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Unsure of your question. Are you living in one house, while helping to maintain the health/housing of your grandmother? Does she wish that you move in with her or she move in with you? Having been there, I'll do my best to help. Financially/emotionally, it is a big sacrifice, to be applauded. Does she need constant medical assistance or reassurance of her safety due to her age/medical condition? Due to housing size/contents of both domiciles combining space can be rather complicated. Perhaps, reassuring her in the best manner available, that she being watched over is the avenue to take. My mother liked her independence. It seems you both do as well. If that is the case, a give and take approach needs to be adapted by both parties. Not knowing the location/distance between homes, daily contact via phone/physical is highly recommended. Losing one's independence, is disheartening to those priding themselves as self-reliant. Hope this helps. A bit ramblin', but sincere.

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Thanks for the vote. Good to hear from you. Hope all is well.
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Neanderthal and howlinwolf already said the most practical and helpful suggestions, so I can't add much to that.
I do have 1 more for you, though:
You are running yourself ragged!
I've been in similar situation, so please hear me!
You really really need to carve out just a teensy bit of "recharge time" for you, every single day. You've got to make it a hard-rule in your schedule or you know you'll get "too busy" for your own recharge!
Plus, you need to make this time Special for You in some way.
Here's the kind of thing I mean:
-- Plan for and reserve a specific 20 min. at least, or 1/2 hr is better -- but do it every single day.
-- Put kid(s) to bed, and definitely turn off TV/radio. (if you want, soft instrumental music is ok, but silence can be sweet and healing)
-- Light a little pretty candle -- just for You. A scented one, if you like.
-- Make a cup of tea or hot chocolate.
-- Have a light small snack, even if it's just 1-2 pieces of your very very favorite candy. Savor it, slowly.
-- Just sit quietly, all by yourself, and mentally let the busy busy thoughts and worries fade away -- just for this little bit of time. (If you remember something really important you're afraid you'll forget, keep a notepad nearby to jot it down -- and then tell yourself to let it GO completely "for now".)
-- Take some deep slow breaths at times, while you're drinking, savoring, or just sitting -- and mentally pull inside yourself all the positive stuff in your life. Take a moment to cherish what is truly fine and good.
-- When your time is up, stand up and take a big stretch -- and then blow out that pretty little candle.
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I learned this from a Caretaker support group, when _I_ was at my wits end. At first, you don't think you "have time" for this kind of wacky nonsense.
But, trust me, if you force yourself to try it a couple if times, you'll be _amazed_ how much it helps.
Good luck!
(P.s. peppermint herbal tea is amazingly uplifting, too..)

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I gesture a lot when talking aloud, so plain text seems inadequate to communicate without emphasis of some kind.
Heh, why else would a lot of people add emoticons? Same reason. :)
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Some time in life we just have to do what we have to do. As long as you're not doing anyone wrong and your conscience is not accusing you but excusing you, then do what you have to do to be a happier you.================If our conscience condemns us, we know that God is greater than our conscience and that he knows everything. And so, my dear friends, if our conscience does not condemn us, we have courage in God's presence. (1 John 3:20, 21 GNB)

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Take it to God in prayer.

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