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I have been married almost 2 years now and its a bad marriage can i legally run away from my marriage if abuse is involved?

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No one is forced to endure abuse from their spouse. You are not stuck in this relationship. You deserve better. Contact your local women’s center. Every city and county has one. They will provide you with counseling, support groups, and practical help to women in your situation. Many even have shelters.

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im sure you can leave and get a divorce and possible get him behind bars

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You have a valid reason for leaving such a marriage but to make things official you should file for legal separation. This is quite important especially if there are kids involved. You can consult a family lawyer for advice on the best way forward.

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Why wouldn't you take a whack at trying to solve the problem, or just ending everything if not solvable, except running away?

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Not only can you but you damned well should. Get out abuse does not get better over time, only worse. Cut and run quick and far. You life is precious to you and your family not your spouse. Get the hell out! Stop at nothing. Abuse is unacceptable in any situation.

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Abuse should never be tolerated in any situation, marriage being at the top. He should be your provider, protector, not someone you fear.
Get out now!!
If you don't have the means contact police, church, women's shelter, city mission, any help you can get. Besides being unhappy you are in a potentially dangerous situation.

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I think you should leave and change your cell phone number and lose all contact and file for a divorce live with family until u can get yourself back on your feet but also if kids are involve you should get your kids out of there go to a family member house change ur number and all contact with your husband and press chargers so he cant come close to ur families house and file for divorce explain it to ur kids and dont run away until he has left the house.

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and also call the police because you cant do this alone by yourself you need family and officials and support from others especially when there are children involved or not
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Good answer... You forgot one very important detail in an abuse case....
File a Restraining Order. This is soooo important !
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Of course. You can go wherever you want. You are free and don't let this abuse make you feel like you aren't. Married people have a right to go wherever they want, even if their spouse doesn't like it. If you are scared, then go.

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You can leave .. married or not married. There is nothing stopping you. You can file for a legal separation and then ultimately a divorce, you can even get a restraining order by reporting physical abuse to the police .. You do what ever it is you have to do to get away from your abuser.

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Call the police its simple.

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All the answers above have been good ones... The number one thing to do first is File for a Restraining order so he isn't allowed to be anywhere near you or your children. The school will then make sure he cannot take them from you or bother them at school. It's very common in your situation that the woman does not have money or even a bank account sometimes. If you don't have funds or family help, there should be a local Women's shelter where you and your kids can stay temporarily that is kept a secret. They can also help you file any needed paperwork if you are to upset to think . You can overcome this, you reached out to the Ask community and you can reach out for help in your community. If you have relatives far away that's even better, but the first step that is the most important is File the Restraining Order!! That will protect you, but you still have to be very careful. Good luck to you my dear, I send you love and prayers your way......

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yes it's legal it's called a divorce if he's abusing you get out now don't wait for divorce. no one deserves to be treated that way. good luck

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Carissa, I sincerely ask that you view this brief article at the link I have copied & pasted for you below. You are not alone when it comes to this issue. Please, when you are online copy & paste the link in the search bar. I really hope this helps & I am sorry that you have been going through this.

http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/102013126?q=domestic-violence&p=par

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