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why are marriages so hard?

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helixaqua

It's only hard if you rush into it...it would be wise to be financially set and emotionally/ physically ;) there for each other.

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Very wise answer!! ;)
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helixaqua
Thanks!
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You are welcome my friend!! :D
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Phlorence_602

It's not.....if you have found the right person...don't rush too much

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Agreed!
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Mr_FadedGlory
Try being married, then answer the question
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Phlorence_602
Mr_fadedglory?
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Yes?
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I somehow didn't get what you said -_-
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There only hard if you choose make them that way.

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Marriage is all about the commitment it's not hard if you learn how to talk things out and come to an understand meant

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yeah your right but if the other person just shuts you out all the time or won't talk
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because you are stuck with one person for life

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Life

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They're hard because they require work. No one gets married and lives happily ever after. If you're not willing to put in the effort to communication and respect each others feelings, it will be a difficult partnership. And "till death do you part" is a long way away.

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yeah well im the one that ups a lot of work in my marriage and my husband doesn't really put work into our marriage which makes it hard
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...and good for you for doing so. But I'd be willing to bet that if you asked your husband if he's making an effort, he would say he is. Everyone has their own opinion of what they're bringing to the party - right or wrong. If you don't feel that's enough, that's where the communications comes in. Talk it out. Nothing gets changed unless it's discussed.
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There's nothing shady about that answer! Awesome!
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Because many people think of marriage as love and fantasy and they don't wake up in reality. When reality hits! That's when most divorces happen.

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that's what my husband thinks
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Yep that's why marriages are hard. When a person marries not only do they need to spend time with each other but learn to take their roles in their family. helping each other and supporting each other.
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Sometimes I think it becomes more of a business arrangement as the years go on. Love takes second place to profit. Not all, but some. Maybe that keeps some marriage together, so it could be a positive also.

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it's not hard if both sides will understand each other, honest to each other and fix problems together.. :)

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because sometimes people forget that marriage is a partnership between two people that love each other. Also, because people take each other for granted.

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I wouldn't call it hard .. because it's not ALL hard.

I've been married to the same man for .. almost 37 years .. and I have experienced everything .. some bad, but mostly good. I never entered into this marriage lightly .. and even at my young age of 18, I wasn't so naive to think that there wouldn't be some shaky ground.

It's a roller coaster ride. Filled with laughter, tears, disappointment and elation .. We built our life together .. and I want to emphasis .. 'together'. We entered into a mortgage, we raised kids, we built a business from scratch, we argued, we made up, we laughed, we cried, we experienced growing up and growing together, and now we are just growing old .. all at the same time. Now having said that, however, I'd like to point out, we never lost our individuality. WE are here because we choose to be here. WE stayed because we chose to stay.

Life is what you make it .. and marriage is no different.





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The adjustments each has to make in order to achieve a fair balance in the newly formed partnership are at times difficult for one, or both. Honesty,fidelity, and communication are essential elements and even these are challenged by hormonal changes. If the storms are weathered together, and the difficulties forgotten, marriages can become golden and last for 50 years and beyond, as Ours did.

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Phlorence is correct its not hard if you marry the right person who understands you and will do anything to see are your dreams fullfilled ... In 3 years or so depends on the weather = /

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