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How to stop myself from yelling at my 3 year old?

Ive been really depressed ://

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I have been through this! There are a couple good things you can do. One is when you want to yell, remind yourself: He/she is only 3. They don't know what they're doing, or at least they don't mean it personal to you, so there is no need to personally lash out at them. Remind yourself you are the grown-up and must act that way. Two: This sounds backward, but it works. When you feel like you want to yell, give your kid a hug instead. This will diffuse the whole situation and is probably all the kid needed in the first place. When you don't yell constantly your child will listen better and you will be more at peace.

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i agree i am a single mom of a 3 and 1 year old i get mad alot because its only me doing a big job but i got my daughter and i to say something when im getting mad we will say "im this close from kissing you" then ill give her a big kiss
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Seek help if necessary. Restrain yourself and do not do it. When you feel yourself getting out of control, stop and walk away for a bit to collect yourself.

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Realize that he/she is an innocent child and that they r only 3..wld help if you had a hobby or something like exercise to relieve stress

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Just stop. You will feel so awful later. Just stop the words from coming out of your mouth.

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Just tie yourself in a chair and put duct tape on your mouth and BAM you can stop yelling to people
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lol, did make me laugh a little thank you
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Haha. I just like making people laugh. Cause I hate seeing people sad :)
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Try to stop yourself when your about to yell & always try to think positive! :)

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Try to control yourself. Get some help with your depression and just take some break and relax so you will feel better.

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Don't

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Hi, Sunshine. Life can sure throw some major kinks in our lives, can't it? First, honey, I don't know if you're against this or not, but if you've been this way for quite a while now & it's not just "the blues", you may need to see your doctor about getting on an anti-depressant. You could have a chemical imbalance going on in the brain & there's not a thing you can do about that. That could be your first step. As far as yelling at your toddler, of course, that's a tough age for a parent that's NOT depressed to deal with. So, try not to be so hard on yourself while working on the problem. I, of course, don't know if you're a praying person or not. If so, you can certainly ask the Lord to help you with the problem. If not, then that's okay. Do you think possibly you could learn to be a person that "says what they mean and mean what they say", in that, if you tell him to do something once (in an extremely firm, but normal tone of voice)?

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Then if he doesn't do it, tell him he's got one more chance. If he doesn't do it that time, instead of yelling, just simply take him by the hand and put him wherever a good "timeout" place would be. (If he's a screamer, preferably where you can't hear him so much.) Plus, screaming would also need to be addressed because that would make anybody yell at their child. (But you can't really teach him not to do it if you're doing it also, unfortunately.) My brother is that type of person. If he's angry, you have no doubt about it; however, he'll never RAISE his voice. It's his TONE of voice that does it. It's just like yesterday, I was talking with him and said, "Oh, no, you're not doing that for me," and he simply said in THAT tone, "I didn't ask your permission, Susan." It shuts all of us girls up really quickly. Try to concentrate replacing your "loudness" of your voice with your "tone" of voice and maybe see if that helps. God love your heart, my dear. I do hope things get better.
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You are truly cruel to take out your anger on a baby and should let a family member take care of it for a month to get your life together

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If people are stressed out then they can't really help themselves so it's not her fault and u don't even know the situation she is in so this is kinda rude to say to her... :/
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It is her fault for yelling I'm afraid. I'm not being mean-- most parents yell, I did it myself-- but it was my fault. I'm glad the young mommy is asking for help
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Truly cruel? Not good, not good at all, even bad for the child, definitely. But shutting it up in a closet would be truly cruel. You're the one that's being cruel by telling someone who is at least asking for help with her problem telling HER how cruel she is. Do you KNOW how many things she could possibly have on her shoulders or be depressed about? How many toddlers, how many 3 year-old toddlers have you raised, Richard? And, if any, can you honestly and truthfully tell me that you never, not once, EVER yelled at one of them? If you say, no, I've got ocean-front property in Kansas I'd like to sell you.
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well, she still needs to step up to the plate, even she realizes that because she's asking the question. let's not make too many excuses for her. Personal accountability is important here and I think the asker is showing that.
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Sasquatch, I didn't mean to be making excuses for her. I'm simply pointing out "life". And if you'll look back at my comment, I mentioned the fact that she is here admittedly stating her problem and is asking for help. 8)
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which is a beautiful thing:)
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Not trying to be mean she's trying
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I so glad you can see that, Richard. Thank you.
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**I'm** Sorry. I HATE typos!
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Your 3 year old wants attention and is doing what ever they can to get it. They need to be taught patience, and bargaining for their patience with rewards can help in some instances. It also helps to focus on what they are saying they need, providing instant gratification or redirecting them. Unfortunately we are on their time and their needs are priority. Parenting is a full time job and they are like miniature demanding bosses. That's what most moms don't know they are signing up for when they have them. It's about negotiating for time off, so you can get a needed break. They are slave drivers. The word strict routine comes to mind, and in that routine comes patience because they begin to know what to expect. Remind them it's time for this or it's almost time for that and they will fall into routine. Part of routine needs to be its time for mom and you to play a few times a day and its time for you to play alone so mom can rest. It will be less frustration for you both. Routine is part of day care, preschool, and school and it should starter home at 3. They need to be able to predict what's going to happen so they can focus on what's happening now.

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when you get to that point put yourself in a "time out"
your house is already been baby proofed, you know you love your child, lock yourself in the bathroom where you can still hear your child and take a five minute time out for yourself. it will do wonders for you. :)
good luck! I'm sure its just a phase

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