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My friend killed himself last night, and i am so upset. any ideas of what i should do to keep my mind off of this?

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Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry. My best advice is to be open to feeling the whole weight of your grief right now. You are probably in shock and soon I'm sure you will be going through a lot of different emotions. Cry when you are sad, laugh when you are happy and try to understand that distraction is not an effective tool. You lost someone important, you owe yourself time to come to terms with it. Talk to those that you love, write your feelings down and do things that help you feel happy. Good luck to you.

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First off, I am very sorry for your loss. But maybe listen to music, read, watch funny videos to cheer you up. And spend time with other friends and family. Hope I helped. :)

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It takes time to heal, just remember the good things about him. Sorry for your loss.

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I'm so sorry sweetie... Think about all the good times you had together, talk to someone...

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It's so so sad right? :(
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There nothing u can do. Just have to work thru it an figure it out on ur own. Things effect people differently so u just have to find out what works for u an not be a sad for too long.
But I know how u feel. My best friend since the fourth grade was killed in September an killer was never found.. So at least u know what happened to ur friend an I'm left with a big mystery

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im sorry about ur lost and you could listen to music,draw or sleep i hope this helps ...

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I'm so sorry. I wish I could help you.

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You are so sweet.
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You too :)
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<3 thanks. Why are you always depressed though?
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Cuz no girls my age that I know like me.
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Well then you obviosuly know like 1 girl your age then. As far as I have seen, you are an amazing person. Super nice, funny, smart. And you are attractive. Take this advice from a 15 year old girl! You are amazing!
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Lol. Thank you :)
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seriosuly?! whoever said eat a pickle has problems!!! somebody is really upset and thats what you say?! alright!!! anyways dont listen to him..and my friend says hes about to kill himself because hes mad at me so i know what your feeling because i havent heard from him in a while and idk if hes alive or not!!!! im seriously freaking out but im just listening to music by Florida Georgia Line to get my mind off of it..im really sorry about your friend but he's in a better place...

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Find a hobby. Something creative. I love painting, crochet, pottery, and that kind of thing. It just takes your mind off of everything for awhile. Sometimes I just make things for other people and their appreciation can make you feel so much better.

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he did why but have fun and I have a loss so I feel your pain

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If only I can do something sorry

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Talk to someone your close to and tell them how you feel. Also you could try to talk to his or her parents and talk about how you feel and talk about good times and maybe go through some pictures of when your friend was little. And just remember your friend will always be there with you and his or her family. Also you could make a gathering and put candles and pictures of your friend and stuff.... I haven't ever had a friend kill themselves but my brother has he's lost 3 friends in the past year and a half... But, if your religious whatever you do DO NOT TRY TO TALK TO THEM THROUGH A OUIJA BOARD. Because you have a 75% chance that you aren't talking to your friend and instead you could be talking to a demon. But anyways Im immensely sorry for your loss.

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I'm sorry that happened...There's a lot you can do to get your mind off of this, you could listen to music, draw, talk to someone, build something, take a walk, watch a funny movie, or you could just cry it out. I know what it feels like to lose a friend that way, but whatever you do don't follow in their footsteps...no matter how upset you are. I hope you feel better soon. Stay strong!! <3

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Talk to someone in your life that you know has a positive attitude. Don't keep your emotions bottled inside. The overwhelming sadness will pass. It's only natural to feel sad. At least you acknowledge your feelings. Not hide them. Take care

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Take it to God in prayer

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Give yourself permission to grieve. It's better for your healing process if you do feel.

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Oh sweetie I'm so sorry. I've known people who've killed themselves, it hurts. Don't try to brush your feelings aside. You need to deal so it doesn't pop up on you later when you least expect it. Try writing your feelings down. It's a real good way to sort things out. And pray, for you and your friend. They must have been in alot of pain. God bless you!

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You should confront your feelings about it. Your thoughts and emotions will manifest themselves regardless. Embrace your faith, if any, and spend time with friends and family. Cry if you need to.

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I lost a friend a month ago. I'm sorry about your loss. Try joining sports and doing other things differently than your usual daily routine. It really helps.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. It will take some time you you to recover from this. Take as much time as you need. I know you may not want to hear this but time heals all wounds. In the meantime embrace your friends and family, remember all the good things about your friend, laugh as much as possible, pray.

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JamesKaeberle

Sorry for your loss. It's ok to grieve it's natural and part of life. Just spent time with God and ask Him to comfort you and your friends family. God Bless!

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Im so sorry. It is so recent that keeping your mind off of it will be 2 things: 1) close to impossible and 2) harmful. You need to confront the situation and your feelings. talk to someone. Part of the healing process for you will be to grieve. its important that you do this. you should also deal with the emotional scarring that comes with those close to someone suicidal. I suggest you do try and seperate the two-greiving your friend and aftermath of suicide. Im so sorry and best of luck

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OMG, sorry for your loss, only thing I can think of if that'd happen to me, I'd talk to friends to try not to think about it. Also, as many others said, pray & write down your feelings.

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(You will have good and not so good days for a while). When i had a loss and was at work/id try not to think about it- then when id go home..... Id cry. That went on for a while. Id sleep to forget when i could!
I talked to that persons close friends
We'd dicuss that person-cry and laugh with them.
It might help to understand why they did this!
Jesus said: he never lets us go thru
Life with hardships and pain that wasnt common to man(meaning He suffered more that we can ever understand) and we CAN get thru it!
I am sure there are others who are hurting just like you! Form a bond....
Then slowly things WILL get better!
Your pastor will know some scripture to help you!
Psalm30:5 weeping may endure for a night(season) but joy comes in the morning!

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I am incredibly sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you. One thing I will say is NEVER underestimate the power of prayer. 1 Thessalonians 5:17 says, "Pray incessantly." Communication with our heavenly Father is important, for He yearns to hear what is on your mind. Even if you can't formulate a formal prayer or tell him everything on your mind, sometimes just saying "God please help me" or saying His name will bring you closer to Him. (Psalms 83:18 tells us His name is Jehovah) I assure you that He will help you through this. You may also find comfort in the words of Revelation 21:4:

"And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.”

Try focusing on the positive: your friend lived a good life, and he was surely a happy person. Try to surround yourself with positivity, and never forget to pray!

Hope I helped!

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Let me say how very sorry I am to hear u lost a friend. When my father killed himself 12-23-01 it was hard for me, but I turned to God and asked for peace within my heart & soul. God gave me that and he can give it to you to. All you have to do is ask. Try reading scriptures in the bible or just open up to God. My prayers are with you.

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Are you okay? I am so sorry for your loss of your friend and I am sorry that he thought his only option was to take their life... I just wish someone would have known how to save a life...mabye your friend would still be there and I hope you will feel better soon!

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Talk to god ask him for a clearer understanding of why did your friend do that! Pray for his family for stregth to get through this time! Be with loved ones and wen you find yourself getting down about it even more just tlk to god he can give you the confort he is like millions put together trying to confort u but he can heal your heart JUST LIKE That and yu wont have to worry about it! But keep your head up it will all get well. JESUS LOVES YOU!! Im Veryyyy SORRRRY FOR YOu!! <3<3<3

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I am so sorry for your loss. There is really nothing to do or say that will help you get over this quickly. Time is the only thing. When you think of your friend try to remember the fun times. You may not believe it now but as time goes on you will feel better. The same thing happened to me when I was a teenager and time and prayer are what got me through.

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the same happened to me. it is gonna hurt for a while but just know wherever he is, heaven or nirvana or whatever, hes in a better place. try and keep from becoming to depressed and never hurt yourself because wherever he is he wouldnt want you hurting yourself because of a decision he made, he would be in more pain if he knew that you were hurting yourself becaus eof what he did. stay strong friend. im here for you if you need someone

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hazzbear

I know how you feel Tabitha I miss Ricky to. :( but it'll be okay..............do you think that going to the auditorium helped? I thought it did.

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No, those priest just talked about the bible. they said nothing good about Ricky
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Yea I miss Brandon to, I got to talka about him though.
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I'm so sorry for your loss, I would really like to help you.

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Find someone else who seems like they are having a lot of trouble in their social or family life. Being with someone else can cheer you up, and you never know, you may have just saved someone elses life by being there for them.:)

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This happened to me too. Today is the 2 year anniversary. Honestly, it does get better, and I know you hear this a lot but, my friend killed himself too so I understand your pain. Try to go on with life like normal, don't push him out of your mind; you're going to keep thinking about him. I just got better with time. I'm so sorry for your loss

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