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Stand toe to toe and say "No".
If he beats you up he beats you up.
Take it.
Then stand toe to toe again and say "No".
If he beats you up again he beats you up.
Take it.
Then stand toe to toe again and say "No".
Repeat this for as long as it takes.
We are not measured by how often we get knocked down but by how often we get back up.

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Take it? If you are 9 years old? I say the second time, push that person out of the way and then ignore them
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No.
Take it.
And stand back up.
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Great answer wicked!
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You cannot defeat a bully by becoming a bully.
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You also can't defeat a bully by getting beat into a pulp over, and over, and over, and over.
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Tell a teacher or get an adult to help?

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That might not work because some bullies don't care if you tell.
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Do it with some back-up..... enough to back you up,,, that is

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I agree. Get some back up...like a teacher, your parents or a whole bunch of your friends band together and confront the bully. But be prepared that if you are the target the bully will probably seek you out when you're alone. Never back down but be smart and never turn your back to the bully!!! I had to stand up to a bully in 6th grade and I was terrified but I was even more tired of the fear I felt every day at school. Be brave!!!
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Stand up for urself and fight back. Don't be afraid

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i agree peace.
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Dim his lights with the first punch. Or chair. I would use a chair.

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I know it does.
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Lol :)
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XD Nice
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DON'T, talk to a parent/guardian or teacher (if the problem is during school hours), afterwords, do everything in your power to avoid the bully for maybe a few weeks, to give them some cool-down time.

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wickdpissa is a hundred percent correct

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I don,t know what that means.
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take defense classes, karate or theirs others close 2 your local community. ...what abt ymca, or boys/girls club....talk 2 some1 u trust...older siblings or close relatives. ...talk 2 your parents 2....good luck n stay safe....

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Take boxing,kick boxing classes or karate . I have taken Brazilian jujitsu and this summer I want to take kick boxing or boxing this summer. good luck .

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By the way: If you have took those class, you know very well that are have to sign a contract not to use it for bodily harm. I know someone who did that and they went to jail. I SERIOUSLY DO NOT RECOMMEND THIS!!

IT IS ACTUALLY ILLEGAL!!
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If someone is trying to hurt you self defense is not illegal . What's illegal is walking around starting fights because you do know how to fight.
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Exactly Shane.
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how are you being bullied?

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Bullys feed off fear, The more scared and fearful you are themore your going to get bullied. Keep standing up to him. The reason why he bullies you is because hes insecure and not happy with is own life. Hope that helps, Im praying for you and God Bless :)

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I wish I could give you more than one star for that....
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haha thanx :) I just hope I helped the person who posted this question in some way :)
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If it it were me that had asked the question, I would certainly be inspired by your kind and supportive words... I know this because I was inspired even not having been the one ask.....
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Aww well thats very nice of you to say :)
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It was the least that I could do, given such a Heartfelt response such as Yours.... Mine was a bit quick and shallow, Thankfully, You had something more enlightening to add.... :)
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well I appreciate it :) and at least you took the time to even respond some kind of way :)
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As I appreciate your added kind words on My behalf.....
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:) Take care and God Bless
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Tell a bigger sibling to the dirty work

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Talk to your school counsellor. That's why they're there. Each situation is different. It's very likely that your bully has been physically or psychologically abused and is in desperate need if help! Don't take it personally, and if you must then take it as a compliment. People only bully those they're secretly jealous of in some way.

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Be crazy & take no crap. Be willing to fight, if you have to. Don't ever let them get away with hitting you, you need to hit back, smash the crap out of them & don't stop. Don't send them to the morgue though, I'm not saying that. What happens is, no one will hassle you anymore. if you need to do kick boxing.

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Well depends on the situation if it's serious kick her\his butt but if it's stupid just tell an adult or teacher

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First tell the teacher.If she/he doesn't listen tell the principle.If they don't listen tell your parents if they don't listen teach the bully a lesson or to that way if you get in trouble you won't feel bad about yourself because you told them and they didn't listen.

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say NO

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Don't fight, and get back up and witnesses, like friends or a teacher. And don't listen to anyone who says beat the crap out of them because thats just stupid. It'll only make the bully mad, unless you knock the kid out, and then you'll get suspended.

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worth it, if you hit them hard enough they won't come back that's what I did haven't been bullied since.
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Yeah, but it's different if you CAN'T knock the dude out.
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you don't have to, walk up to them confront them and don't let them get a shot on you even if you don't knock them out they still know if they do it again what's going to happen. i mean yeah being able to knock them out helps but it's not needed :)
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I know..... ;)
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hey YOU suggested it :P jk
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haha true ;D
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Bullies are cowards, something in their own life is wrong. Rather than dealing with their problems in a mature way, facing up to it & looking for a way to solve it, they take their frustrations out on other people. Usually not someone who will give them a fair fight. They'll target physically weaker people or shy/timid souls because they expect they won't stand up for themselves. Take a closer look at your bullies life, try to figure out is causing them to act this way. Then use it. "The truth hurts". A bully confronted with the truth about their lives will usually back down as bulling is a coping mechanism to avoid their issues. Stay strong & don't back down. You're right in this situation. Don't forget that. Taking them aside & trying to talk to them & resolve it peacefully is always best. You might even be able to turn the bully into a friend. (though don't get your hopes up.) Otherwise, just walk away. The more attention & time you give them, the more it fuels the fire. Find an adult/someone in charge & let them know what's happening. Most places have zero tolerance on bulling. As well they should. No one has the right to bully anyone for any reason. Good luck. Keep us updated.

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This is a very mature answer.....
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I am a very mature woman. ;) Thanks. I've just been through a lot is all.
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Great answer, LittleWish!******
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Thanks wittepier! <3 I responded to your posts about Baby Doll by the way. xD I responded... a lot. Heehee
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The answer to your question is in your question. Bullies ARE ALWAYS, BY DEFINITION COWARDS AND THEY KNOW IT. (WHICH IS INTOLERABLE TO THEM. SO THEY LOOK FOR SOMEONE WHO IS AS YOU STATE "AFRAID TO GET BEAT UP". THEN THEY CAN ACT LIKE A NON COWARD......ONLY BECAUSE THEY KNOW BY THEIR SELECTED TARGET'S ATTITUDE AND POSTURE AND INITIAL RESPONSE TO THEM YOU WILL NOT FIGHT BACK! AND JUST TO MAKE SURE THEY USUALLY AREN'T ALONE AND USUALLY BIGGER THAN THEIR TARGET. SORRY BUT THERE IS NO RULE OF LIFE THAT SAYS ONLY SOLDIERS HAVE TO RISK THEIR LIFE. SO I THINK YOUR BEST CHANCE OF ENDING THEIR SUPIDITY AND THAT IS WHAT IT IS.....JUST
STAND TALL AND SAY LOOKIT "BOY" PERHAPS YOU CAN BEAT ME UP WE WILL SEE. SO IF YOU ARE GOING TO TRY..... GET ON WITH IT AND STOP TALKING. OTHERWISE BUG OFF.....I'VE GOT OTHER THINGS TO DO WITH MY LIFE THAN DEAL WITH YOUR STUPIDITY.
CHANCES ARE OVER 90 % THAT THEY WILL FIND SOME EXCUSE TO BACK AWAY. NOW YOUR NO FUN.....AND IF YOUR WILLING TO FIGHT......YOU MAY HURT THEM IN THE PROCESS........AND COWARDS CAN'T STAND BEING HURT!
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Best way to stand up to a bully is to continue to live a great life opposite of the bully life that they live continue to be a kind caring person because people like to be around people that don't dwell in drama also make sure your there for the people who they pick on never outcast them, in the end no one remembers the jerks just the really cool people, cause in the end you cannot get a job or make new friends being the person who picked on weaker people you become the outcast and I have seen this happen to many times in the past no matter how big and strong you are there is always some one stronger they made a show about it (bully beat down) hope this helps.( AND TO EVERYONE SAYING FIGHT THE BULLY NO! THERE IS NO PROMISE YOU WILL EVER WHEN ANY FIGHT AND IF THEY PUNISH YOU,THEIR EGO GETS WORSE.
To those that said that I do respect your answer.

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As long as you DO NOT live in Illinois, have a small voice recorder in your pocket and record the bullying, then copy the recording a couple times at home, then tell a teacher or principal IF the bullying happened on school grounds. IF the bullying happened off of school property, tell the POLICE, call them and report it. OR, you could tell the bully that if he hits you, you will report it AND sue him and his parents for money. That is likely to scare the bully.

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Whats up with the "If you DO NOT live in Illinois" stuff? I live in Illinois....
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Make sure to have an adult with you or have a camera and let the bully see it so he will be scared to be mean/bully you.

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Bring friends tell him to get away if he beats you up try again then kick his a**

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Shut up Philip! You'll make it worse AND get her suspened!!!
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Yes.

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tell a teacher or parent but the most important dont let him know i bothering you

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stand up 4 you take the beating be strong never be scared of any one but god after you cant take it tell your parents or teacher I prefer parents I hope I helped u

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Collect all the other kids who have suffered from the same bully, and organize a union. Then plan your strategy, and all of you ambush him. It works for grown-ups, and it'll work for you.

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call the cops and get him arrested.

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If you're having trouble with sticking up for yourself, pretend you're someone else. Pretend you are a tough, kick-butt, coolio person that doesn't give a crap. If you can tell yourself that this dude/chick isn't worth the oxygen they breathe, you can tell them that they need to get a life and leave you alone! Tell them to grow up and find another person to pick on. If this is physical, get adult help, like if they punch you or steal from you, but if this is all intimidation, be the alpha dog and verbally bash some skulls!

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You fight better than the bully does, and when he picks that fight, you beat him into the dirt before he has the chance to do it to you. Standing up to a bully will almost always involve a physicaly confrontation, be prepared for it if you decide to find the courage to do so.

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kick 'm' out

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show them your not scared or tell some one dont be scared or embarased

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Nice people can never be as mean as bad people: just cannot sink that low, so don't even try... Looking them in the face and saying "I wish you wouldn't do this" or showing fear or crying is really okay. Seeing how awful it makes you feel does take the fun out of it. It is the victim's struggle to run & fight back that increases the pleasure moment for the bully. Every word & every action you find hostile should be written down with the time, date and what happened. And EVERY time you should give a copy to the principal of your school and either your parents or a trusted adult. They have more power & resources than you. Trust me, you will become very unappetizing to the bully if they have to answer for their actions against you. I wish you well. Know that these are the future losers and low-lifes in the adult world. xo

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The best way to beat a bully is to take away his fun: if he calls you short you say, ya I am and laugh. If he says you stink you say ya I do and laugh. See what I mean, he will quickly realize he can't get a rise out of you and move on to somebody else. Then you can help them if you choose to.

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Make him feel like he's the worst person in the world... Tell him what he's doing and say that he's not any better .

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you can't. if you tell them to stop, and they don't, you really don't have any choice. what will telling an adult do, really? they can't do anything about it, and even if they can, you become 'the snitch'. kick their ass. really. don't even make it a big deal. and remember, there is no shame in a NECCESARY hit to the groin.

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as one of the smallest boys in my grade school class,I simply would look the bully dead in the eye and say" If it makes you feel like a big man to pick on someone smal like me,go for it!" He walked away and never bothered me again. Life lesson, Words can Kill the opponent!

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Good for you!!:-).
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Make sure many adults are around, what ever you do, don't punch back.

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Don't listen to all this "tell parents,teachers,cops" S*%T!!!!! Wrekage is %100 correct. This is 2013, NOT 1913. The only way they will leave you alone is for you to make an example out of them. You MUST not allow yourself to feel any fear when the time comes for the confrontation. The one that isn't worried about getting hurt can better focus on the actual physical action. As a former US Army Ranger, one thing that was always and will always be a constant, is that an unerring commitment to win,absolute purpose, and swiftness and VIOLENCE OF ACTION will defeat even the most determined enemy. Be more worried about inflicting damage than self or winning. You can lose the fight and still win the war if you cause him/her enough pain. By the way, taunting them,trying to reason with them,hoping for compassion, or trying to appeal to their sensabilities WILL GET YOU BEAT UP!!!!!! GOOD LUCK. RANGERS LEAD THE WAY!

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Tell a grown up. Don't fight back. Be peacefulness love the people who curse you.. Don't hurt them, .

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Those not willing to fight back when the situation demands it are doomed to be eternally ruled and bullied by those that prey on fear and inaction. (Jews/nazis, hebrews/egyptians,native americans/english settlers, etc.) RANGERS LEAD THE WAY!
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I respectfully disagree; ll a bully needs is help, and love. They are probably coming from broken family's. There is a difference comparing it to war.
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I was once bullied a lot and it is a tricky thing to deal with. My best advice is to:

1. talk to maybe a friend who may know the person who is bullying you. If there is a middle man, it can help defuse the situation.By the way, if the bullying happens when you are alone, find a trusty friend/hall monitor/Student Council member. I can tell you personally.. Being with people makes it harder to be picked on.

2. Talk to a teacher or principle if the bullying is aggressive. Feeling in danger at school,work or home is not something anybody should go through.


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3. Try to talk to the person one on one(IF POSSIBLE) ONLY if the person is verbally bullying/cyber. Meet over lunch in the caf or in school. MEET IN PUBLIC AND WITH PEOPLE WHO WOULD STAND BY YOU.

4. Ignore them is possible. If you act like it doesn't bother you, and you keep your head high.. sooner or later, they get bored and it stopped.

**If you walk home, find a buddy or get a ride with someone who is trust worthy.**

PLEASE TELL A GROWNUP!! I KNOW THAT YOU ARE SCARED BUT THE CHANCES OF BULLYING TO CONTINUE AFTER AN ADULT GETS INVOLVED IS EXTREMELY SLIM.

YOU ARE NEVER ALONE!! <3

please message me if you need any other help.

Your truly,

"Big Sister"

krystle.parra@gmail.com
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if u are at school stay close to a teacher bring out mp3 player or something do this for about a week or so wait until the bully bully's someone else then tell a teacher

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DO NOT STAND UP TO A BULLY! EVER! If you have a heart then you know whats right. Don't be a smart Aleck.

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stand up for yourself or tell an adult.

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The best thing to do is to stand up for yourself, depending on what you are being bullied for. If it comes to the case where you do get beaten up, then take it further to an adult, being a teacher/parent/guardian

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Tell your mother or any adult, get authority involved!

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Just ignore that jerk, literally.

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The thing that they look for is a reaction. If you show no reaction and ignore him you should be fine. Don't even talk to your friends about it. If he/she still doesn't stop then confront him/her not in a rude or tough way, be mature about it. If you get beat up then bring it to an adult.

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whoop ther @#$%

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ok dont listen to anyone have been bullied and all i did was just ignore him and he did it more and make this worse but i showed him i did not care at all and he stopped

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I wqs 18 when i did this i was strangling from a guy and je threatned for rape or to give him somethng from my jewlry or kill a guy and he tried force me into the first suggestion instead i kicked him then 8 other guys came after me then i kissed the leader and kicked him in the nuts and ran off luckily i made it i hate him!

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Just rise above man ,show them your better than them by not giving a s**t about what they say lol ,but if u want you can always take martial arts :)

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tell an adult about what's going on. It's better than getting a black eye and a broken nose.

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Just say I dont have to put up with this and walk away and then tell a teacher or parent

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go to the gym get buff go to this guy/girl and beat em up this will get u fit, stops the bullying, and you get a bunch of ladies/ guys whatever this happened to me before and now i am a bodybuilder/car dealer great life

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Just ignore them! If they are saying anything about you. Hey, we don't wake up everyday to impress other people. Just be yourself, and be confident. The people that bully you don't matter. And their just probably jealous. If they are physically bullying you, tell a parent or teacher you trust. Don't let them effect you! :)

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If it is as bad as you getting bruises I suggest you tell a nice teacher, the best thing to do is tell, you won't get beat up more but it will stop, or call a helpline, if it's verbal abuse you could tell a peer mentor or teacher... Bullying is not permitted in schools and bullying is when someone purposefully harms you (verbally or physically) more than once, also I found a video on YouTube called "to this day" it's all about bullying and you may find it helpful :3

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You can say "Bullying is useless!"

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Never start the fight, but finish it. No, really just stand firm, stand your ground, try not to get into a physical alteration. NO FIGHING! However, if you feel your life is in danger then you have every right to defend and protect yourself. Don't instigate it either, in other words don't be annoying and asking for trouble, best bet is to walk away and tell an adult for assistance even to the police.

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whenever they bully you just laugh at them; then sneak in their house at night while they are sleeping and slit thier throat with the sharpest knife you can find~ jk, don't do that last part. but whatever you do, dont let them get you down. Just make sure they know that you aren't scared of you, but don't start a fight. Tell an adult if necessary.

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