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My boyfriend of 4 months broke up with me a couple days ago. I don't understand what happened. Someone please help

We have been dating for four months and he was my first real boyfriend and love and kiss. Pretty much my first everything. We loved each a lot. Our lives revolved around each other. We were completely fine last week and this past weekend until Sunday came and he started acting different. He always sounded bored over text and he didn't want to talk about much. And when school came he started to not pay as much attention to me but he would still hug me and kiss me and walk me to classes and to the bus. Then Thursday came and he said he wanted to break up. I asked him and he said because its not working out and that he doesn't love me anymore. He has been depressed since before we even started talking and he's had suicidal thoughts too but I knew about those and I always helped with those. But lately when I asked him if I could help or cheer him up he said no. I just don't understand what happened. You don't just stop loving someone within a few days. I know that's not normal. We argued a lot but we always fixed it. He said he still wants to be friends and we're still talking but not as much. So can someone please help me figure out what went wrong?!

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He is the only one that can answer that. It could be any number of reasons. Could be he outgrew the relationship, he found someone else, he has too much on his mind, he doesn't feel he can be equal in the relationship if he has other concerns right now, or he could be depressed like you say and just need space.
He might need a friend right now more than a GF, if that makes sense.
The best you can do is get him to talk without pressure, when he's up to it.
If he's talking suicide you need to involve an adult.

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The reason your boyfriend broke up with you might be because of psychological issues. It is best to give him time and let him be. Let him handle whatever is causing him distress and then talk things over with him later. There is nothing much one can do if someone does not love them anymore.

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He never truly loved you...he may of thought he did but he didnt, he either got really bored with your relationship and wanted to move on or he's so depressed that he doesn't find any joy in the relationship therefore got bored? I know this because i used to break up with people if i got bored of our relationship...mean yes but when you're young you live life :P

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The same thing happened to my best friend ...He might have just lost the feeling between you two and just wants to move one to something new because the spark is gone.. dont worry... if its meant to be he will come back but dont just wait around forever.

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If you truly loved someone, you can never "fall out of love." It sucks, but it's true.

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Jus be there for him, give him his space and time if its meant to be hell come back...I no it sux and its hard :( I can relate

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When love separates set it free, if it comes back , than he's yours.

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