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hi...the thing is...my mom and dad forbid my relationship with my bf because they found out that we were intimate....so eventually we kind of broke off,well i did..and i miss him so much ,we went through alot..hes my everything ,i love him,,,i cry almost every night..i know he loves me 2...cause its hurting him and by all means i cannot contact him...what to do,before i loose him ..i <3 him *tears*

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You were going out for 2 years and now suddenly your parent are making you break up. I hate to say it but it sounds like you two did this to yourselves. You had sex with him and you're only 16, believe it or not they're trying to look out for you. Whethe you love him or not you disobeyed your parents and got caught and now you have to deal with it. Trust takes years to build an seconds to lose.

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how old are you??

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i am 16,i know thats young...but those things happen
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well get a drivers license, and enjoy freedom, and quit being intamate.
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lolz...where im from you dont get drivers license that early
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well here in america when your 16 you can get your drivers license and see people you dont see on a day to day basis, and some of the best relationships aren't intimate ones
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yea i know....thanks though....
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well you could tak to them about it but if u r under 16 then u might have issues

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how long have you been going out? thats important because if you say you love him to your parents and you only have been going out with him for like a month then they won't take you seriously. Talk to them like an adult. and you HAVE to give your word not to sleep with him.. and you have to follow through with it!!! ask them what you should do if they were in your shoes :)
GOOD LUCK!!

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we have been goin out two years now...but they say i am too young
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my parents taught me that if i really love someone then i can... you know... do that lol just let them know how you feel about him
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ohkie thanks alot
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no problem ^_^
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Well, I know 16 is young. Were you and him using protection? How old is this guy?

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he is 16 yrs of age....and yea we did
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Congratulations on both! You need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your mom. Let her know that you don't make it a habit of sleeping with him, but you did use protection. Talk to her maturely and remind her she was a teenager once. Ask her to please "consider" letting you and him earn her trust. (Maybe for a while, just phone calls. Then later, maybe he can visit at your house; sometimes you might could visit at his house. Always stay in view of your parents until they feel they can trust you. Best wishes and congrats on using protection! Very mature!!
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thank you :)
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I know U want to obey ur parents but if u 2 love eachother then the heck with them. Make them trust u. Say " I know u guys are trying to protect me but, I love him and plz understand" Comment below so I can tell u Some other tips. Hope this helps!!!!!!:) ;) GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!

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thanks...but my mom and dad arent the understanding type,they threathening to cut off my hair if i remain in contact with him...i knw what we did is wrong but i have known this boy for 2 years..im scared that i loose him
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my step dad got a retraining order on my gf after he found out we were intimate so i know how you feel, the only difference is, i didnt have a choice whether i was going to see her again or not, you do and if you talk to your parents and tell them that you feel you CAN be mature about it and handle intamacy like an adult then they will let you see him, if they still say no then you have no choice but to go out with him and carry on the relationship under their noses completely which means if u want to go over his house or something you get one of your friends to drive you over there and tell your parents you are spending the night at a friends house the one that drove you to your boyfriends house, but make sure your friends are good friends and would lie for you to your parents to save your butt if you need it
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Don't be. Sneek around. If u truly love eachother then I believe that u 2 should be together. If I was in your shoes I would sneek and lie about where I was. If ur friends can lie for u. I would Lie for U. But I guess I wouldn't be in ur situation. My parents tell me to be free. And i'm only 13! U need Freedom and Responsibility and strentgh and Courage and Bravery and to be who u are even if ur parents don't like it. That's what my step dad and real mum taught me. Never be afraid. U can do it. If it helps I believe u can. :) Anything else I can Help u with?:)
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thanks...but im under tight security.....they literally dont let me out of their sights
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Not even to go to your friends House?
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yes not even to go to your friends house..actually they might even be checking over the comments on this site, but thats what passwords and emails are for right? the funny thing about what i just mentioned is that im pretty sure its a violation of privacy if your parents go through your things online that dont require you to be 18, that you can do without their permission.
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yea they do go through my facebook profile and other stuff online...my dad is very much into technology
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my dad goes through all of my stuff all the time and it gets annoying so i literaly delete the history on my computer everyday because he does that i also delete all messages on my phone and sometimes pictures haha
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i also log out of anything that i log into that i rtalk to people on like facebook myspace and twitter and make sure that the password is something hard for anyone else to understand but easy for me to remember
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Best things in life are worth waiting for...

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Don't listen to them then.

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