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Why do people like to bully me? What makes me the easy target? What should I do?

I've been bullied since the 3rd grade, I lost all of my 9th grade friends this year (I'm in 9th grade) except for maybe two or three. I weigh 140 pounds but I have a skinny tummy. I moved to where I live now about 3 years ago. I'm going back to the place where I moved from 3 years ago, where I was bullied the most. What should I do? Because of the bullying I have really, really, low self-esteem. Anything helps.

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They bully because they themselves are insecure. If you are being bullied, I strongly suggest you tell a trusted adult. I really hope things work out for :)

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Ask them why they like to bully you. And then think of what to do...

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shy, loner, smaller, bigger, red hair, black hair, EVERYBODY gets bullied at some point - It is how you handle yourself when bullied that counts

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Mostly because you let it happen... If they come across someone that won't take their sh*t they usually leave them alone.

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I'm guessing your a nice person. They probably are just taking advantage of that . Just ignore them don't even respond if you do they will feed off that. Just tell them they are wasting there time and yours . The reason they're doing that is because they are insecure and feel weak , but if they touch you don't put up with that . What I did to this kid in my pe class was ignore him. he tested me so I told him " I know your insecure and I'm sorry for you trust me , but you can't blame me for what goes on at school or at home ." He has not bothered me since . Most bullies can be outwitted its not very hard . Use you brain not your fists .

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Good advice Shane ;)
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Shay shay hey what's up(:
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Nm-it was really hot today-so I changed into shorts and a t-shirt, but now I'm freezing and too lazy to get up to change into sweats-so, "bed bound." Lol. How are you?
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Ummhmm (: I'm good today I looked outside and a tree had fallen down in front of my house :o
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So now we don't have cable);
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:O :O if didn't damage your house, did it? That's scary!
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No. Don't worry about me. Worry about the house(x
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LOL! Oh I didn't mean it like that :P obviously you're fine, minus the cable :P
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Haha (:
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:P silly silly
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Hmm(:
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You sure do know how to make me smile shay-^_^-
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Aw well good I'm glad ^_^
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I was supposed to get a hair cut today , but plans changed so I'm probably going to get one tomorrow or and a cell phone to.
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Your so sweet shay I'm sure some guy is pretty lucky to have you.
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Aha that was random :P I just got my bangs cut, but I'm hesitant to get the rest cut, because she always cuts more off than I ask, and I love having it long :P a cell phone eh? Awesome!
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Aw well thank you :)
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You do have a bf right .
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No, not right now actually.
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You have got to be kidding me that's strange. I'm guessing you live in castle or up in the tower:p haha
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Lol! Something like that!
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Haha something like that(:
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Aha :P
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Hey guys, you two should get together. Sorry for interrupting, but seriously. Dude...ask her. ;)
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Lol, he's got a gf, and he's a tad bit young for me :P
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You never know :p
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I'm single right now because I have been hurt very badly by girls. Shay is a very beautiful trust me all I do I do is smile when I talk to her(:
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I don't know if I'm ready that's even if she did like me I'm sure she just likes me as a friend and that's ok.
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Haha okay:) that's sweet. Maybe some people in the world are good after all, because I've pretty much just given up on the rest of the world:/
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You shouldn't give up on the world . It's not all bad you just have to know where to look . Trust me you have to look reeeealy hard to find someone good , but when you do hold them close and don't let them go .
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Still here guys :P @shane-Ohhh I thought you said you had a gf. I'm sorry you've been hurt :/ aww you're so sweet :) and I'm sure you'll find a girl who appreciates you for that.
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@love-there are Unfortanitly quite a bit of nas.ty and heartless people in this world, and I use to think most people didn't care, but I've come to see, that as a general rule, most people are good, and do care. You have to believe it's still a beautiful world with beautiful people, despite some of the ugliness.
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That's very true .
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Seriously though Shane, that comment just about made my night:P thank you :)
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If I ever do find a gf (; I want to take it slow . The girls I have dated before didn't want to . Idk I want to be loved I'm not just there for the sex.
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I hear ya. People these days seem to have no morals. I'm personally an old fashioned type: I think s.ex should wait till marriage, and while physical affection is important, it's not the key to the relationship. It's more than that. Or, at least, it SHOULD be.
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I'm pretty good looking and I realize it , but I don't use that as leverage . I'm not a jerk I don't have anything to prove . I know who I am and what I'm capable of.
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I agree with you shay sex should wait till marriage that way it means something and its special .
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Girls at my school tell me I'm cute and they want but I'm not into the whole one night stand thing . I'm looking for a relationship and a girl that will respect and love me for who I am.
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Except for you two, my two closest friends, my best friend, and this kid i know<3 practically the rest of the world sucks. Try living in my high school for one day (it's in the like, top 10 richest planned communities ever) and then you'll see why i hate it here. I'm serious, it's horrible. I don't like people.
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@shane-that's true, not only that though, is people fail to realize, not having s.ex in your youth, is more than avoiding becoming pregnant-it's just messy: there are so many emotions involved, it's an adult act, and it's meant for love and commitment, which is marriage. And ahh yes, hoping for the same time of relationship. My life circumstances just don't fit that right now: I need to better myself first.
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@love-I grew up in a rough town, I hear you. I was bullied very heavily in kindergarten...freaking kindergarten! That should be the best grade ever, right? And 1st, 2nd, and 3rd grade, I was bullied. In kindergarten my teachers even picked on me. I hear ya. Jr high and high school is horrible! Just hang in there! Teens are drama and just straight up mean. You'll realize how ridiculously stupid it all was when you graduate. Just hang in there! You'll be a stronger and better person for their garbage, but they'll remain the same: useless.
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Only if you knew shay my childhood was trash. No I actually wish it was good enough to be called trash . I think the sooner you accept things for what they are the better . My whole life I have tried to make things work weather it be a relationship with a girl or anyone for that manner. I have tried to the point of exhaustion to the point where I cringed and cried and wallowed in self pity wondering what I was doing wrong my whole life . You know what shay all along its not been me it's just people that don't know how to react towards me or understand me and that is not a flaw it's a gift . I see greatness in myself I have just not been given the chance to apply it or show people what I'm capable of mentally , emotionally , or physically .
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Aw shane I'm so sorry you've had to go though that :( by bettering myself I didn't exactly mean that I've been treated badly by others (outside my family) and need to change, I just meant I'm not currently ready emotionally, for a relationship. I'm waiting to move out. I have a bad relationship with my dad an right now, it's su.cking the life out of me. I actually had a bf in high school, who was really good and sweet to me. I kinda miss him. At the time, he was probably the only person I felt cared for me. Things didn't work out though, but I'm not ready to try it again with someone else.
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Why didn't things work out with that guy if he was nice to you?
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And by the way it's ok you don't have to feel bad I'm a very strong person mentally , emotionally , and physically . Realistically we probably wouldn't work anyways you live far away and I'm only 17 which is not even legally an adult. I reflect on what I have done wrong before and I'm learning just don't push people away because you are having trouble at home or don't know if your ready . You just have to let things flow because if you have your guard up or take things to fast you will never find someone . Some people don't get that some people come along when were not ready and it's to push us along to get what we deserve . I told myself no girls until after high school because all the girls in high school think they know act and talk like they know , but that is all a show they are really just lost. You deserve a good man shay you really do I'm glade were friends trust me its nice to have a friend that thinks like you do you are a pretty logical person .
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Things changed, and he changed.
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You're impressively wise for a 17 year old. I agree and you're probably right. I just don't feel ready or that it's fair to bring anyone into my messy life right now. And thank you:) you're very sweet and I'm glad to have you as a friend as well.
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With experience comes knowledge . I just don't want you to be the crazy lady with 50 cats (x Jk I just care about you shay shay ^_^
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No matter what you will always be my dork:p
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But kitties are so nice! They go "mew mew!" Lol. Jk, I won't be the crazy lady with 50 cats :P I'll probably and well thank you: I care about you as well :)
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I mean, I'll probably have like 12 cats, tops, I won't get to 50 though, that's my limit! (Kidding totally kidding!!)
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Ahhh she's crazy run(x ....... Hahajk
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I meant to say in the first comment, "I'll probably find someone" that was a weird cut off, lol. And oh lol well ok then :P
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Even if you can outrun ME, you won't outrun my cats!!
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Your still my cute little dork your not scarring me away haha(:
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Why aren't there girls like you were I live for my 18th birthday can I have a shay clone (:
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We would just have to buy a cloning machine that shouldn't be to expensive .(x
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Lol that would be kinda weird :P
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Haha yea just a bit (x
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Jk I'm not the crazy one with the cats :p
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Don't be hatin' on my kitties! They will hiss at you!
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Haha your cute shay. A cute little dork :p how's that for logic hmm
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I'm more of a goldfish person myself (:
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Soweee about responding so late I keep getting put on comment breaks .
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My cats DO love goldfish.....
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Shame on you shay your evil:p
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First off, there is no good reason for bullying. How do you present yourself? Bullies look for people that act "small". Ones that keep to themselves or walk around looking down. You have to walk and talk like you are important, because you are. Walk with your head up. Walk like you have a purpose, because you do. Be proud of who you are. When a bully says something just shake your head and keep walking like they are not worth the time, because they aren't.

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Best advice yet gator. They defiantly pick the "easy" targets.
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Well, I'm pretty outgoing. It's just that people don't like me I guess. I don't talk to anyone anymore. I don't know why people are mean to me. Is because I lost all my friends this year? I don't know. Thank you though Gator!
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Gatorblu essentially hit the nail straight on the head. I was bullied most of my childhood until I moved at age 11- really rough town, and a lot of "toughies" there. I was the shy quiet one, the "odd and insecure girl." Bullies are just insecure people, that feed and project their insecurities onto others. I'd recommend gators advice, stand tall and confident, and smile a lot, even if you don't feel like it, it makes it seem like you're not easily affected by others. Be nice to others, and be kind. It will make you feel better about yourself. unfortanitly, bullies don't seem to get that concept... Also, just know you're not alone: bullying seems to be on the rise: my sister and cousin are getting bullied this year. Life gets tough, but know you're tougher. Sometimes it helps to talk to someone you trust.

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Thank you!:)
i wonder if bullies ever got bullied themselves.
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You're welcome :) idk, possibly!
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