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What does my ex want with me?

if you read my my questions you will understand im being mentally abused...my question is IF in fact there is another girl like i mentioned in his life, what does he want with me??? why is he still bothering with me and saying things like i love you i only want you????

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Tony is absolutely correct ( not a big surprise)!!! You say you are being mentally abused. Perhaps, but on this case IF you are being a used its only because you are allowing it. Drop the victim attitude, realize that you deserve so much more than this jerk is either willing or able to give you and MOVE ON!!!!

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good job cookie...
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Alll i am asking is why is he still bothering with me?.
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Why does it matter??? MOVE ON
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its doesnt matter what iam trying to say is if i was with another guy i would not be bothering my time on him so i dont get what he gets out of it thats all
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Thanks Cookie :-) Yours is good advice too! Especially the victim mentality part.
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Why are you putting me down saying iam playing a victim? I am hurt and confused. I loved him and having this happen is the worst!
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Melly, you are a victim. A victim of a manipulator who selfishly would like to control you for his own benefit. No abuser is mean 100 percent. Many are charming and make you feel very loved. Displays of abuse throw you off and cause you to question reality, especially when they apologize and say it will never happen again. But it does happen, over and over... Pretty soon, you are operating from the perspective of a traumatized person. What many here are saying is get free and start thinking clearly. You can do that by getting help from others who are trained in this field. A women's shelter will have resources to counseling and support groups. The more you do to empower yourself the stronger you will be. Again, you are hurting and these are normal responses you are going through. It is a process.
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He never apologized once for anything he had done or done to me. He always blamed me:(
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I said victim because you claim to be being abused. This isn't like some woman stuck with small children, totally dependent on the man for her and her children's financial survival. This guy is a jerk!!!! You need know nothing more. Just move on!!! This isn't being mean. This is telling you the truth that you need to hear!!!
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He wants have his cake and eat it too. You're his fallback option, tell him to take a hike.

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As stupid as this sounds i really never understood the meaning of this?
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It means he wants her, but he also wants to keep you hanging on as his Plan B.
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Mornin Tony!
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He also mentioned once about 3 weeks ago he talked to a girl in a bar and he thought he could see himself marrying her and he is love he took her out on a date.. then the story changed...he said he liked her not loved her.. and he was like you stopped talking to me thats why i did that .
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melly..forget him EXCUSES EXCUSES AND LIES
..Hi Tony.Have a good week
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Thanks Toni :-) Hi Candy!
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Wants a back up plan ignore him otherwise he will know that he could have you back whenever he wants and that gives him his power trip stay away

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Agreed
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The guy is going nuts. Report the police about sexual and mental harassment.

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Yikes. Seeing that you've asked this 29 times in the past month, you have many options and choose to do nothing. Move, block him, don't respond to him, get a restraining order....

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Are you ready for tomorrow ?
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No. :(
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It is hard but you need to move on....Please ignore text, emails etc..You deserve better. He can be trouble..You don't need and deserve that. Plenty of men out there..Take your time and learn from him. Good luck and be strong minded!!!:)

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I didnt do anything to deserve this:(
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Exactly. He is abusing you mentally. It is hard to get over it, but unless you be strong and cut him off all communications, you won't have peace.Trust me..Move on..Keep away from fast movers..They can be very abusive and controlling.. You are better than sticking to this guy..BE STRONG THO..ONLY YOU CAN DO IT!
Everyone here has said the same thing so if you apply this question again..it means you did not pay attention or do what we suggested..
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Please get the book, or borrow from your local library, Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft. This book will explain so much for you. It will help you understand why your ex is treating you badly. I've answered several of your other questions, pls don't be hard on yourself and get the help you need. Your local women's Shelter will also have resources for you. Did you know there are many other women who go through situations like yours? Statistically 1 in 3 women will experience abuse in their lifetime. Reach out to others for support. It is ok to ask questions.

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well said :)
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well stop listening to him

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You've been asking this same type of question for nearly a month now around 30 times, in a nutshell your exbf is dealing with you out of his life after way almost 15 years of being with you. Even if he is over you and doesn't want you back it seems like he's either mentally unstable if he hasn't gotten the drift by now or maybe he's just doing it to annoy you, obviously it gets to you and he likely realizes that. Your what 30 years old, you've stated your case to him, block his phone number, block his email, change your phone number, if all that fails and he still "finds" you then get a restraining order. Take control, stop letting him control you. Also from reading your comments to others who posted on this topic it sounds like you are stuck in victim mode, you take some advice as a personal insult or attack against you. Maybe deep down you really aren't over him or maybe like many others you've gotten so accustomed to the "drama" that you haven't learned what a drama free life is like yet. If I were you instead if dealing with his crap for as long as its gonna take him to decide he's done with you I would just call the cops and get a restraining order and if his dumb ass still doesn't get it then have him locked up.

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Yeah , I knew one like that , he do things and and say things with no brain . I hope I can donate some .

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I have to agree with Tony ( of course)

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keep your distance

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