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Is it wrong for me to not want to talk to my mom?I forgave her for all the bad things she has done and for never showing me affection....

or much love am I wrong for not wanting to talk to her? she called today but I didn't answer whenever I talk to her I become sad and stressed

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I don't get along well with mine. But I also understand that she won't be around forever. I do my best to keep the peace. If your mother were gone tomorrow, you'd regret not speaking to her.

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It's definitely not wrong.

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No... I never want to talk to mine because she nags. Like if we r talkin she will be like do this and that.

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Exactly!!!!!
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mine too. :/
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FunnyLittleFrog

It's not wrong, just sad.

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Read the book by Dr Laura Slessinger, Bad Childhood, Good Life. I think it might help you as you struggle with this.

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ClaraListensprechen

Yes it is wrong. One mother is all the mother you'll ever have. Ever.

Mothers do what they do because they care, and you're basically jilting somebody who loves you.

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Really you should deal with the issues with your mom. You don't have to talk to her but I think a counselor of some sort would be very helpful to you

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I don't know, one day you might miss her.

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If u really forgave her u wouldn't have a problem of not wanting to talk to her u have unresolved feelings between her that u need to decide what to do with, u can't tell her u forgive her and not talk to her

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She is the only one you will ever have and no one will ever love you like she does. When you have children, hopefully you will understand this. Parents do make mistakes.....

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Sorry shane your pretty sharp only you know whats best.... Good luck

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Thanks man I would try to talk to her , but she is very manipulative and not receptive to anything I say it's like talking to a wall have you ever tried talking to a wall. There's no getting through to her . What she thinks is right and nothing else. People on here are saying well she is your mom and you should talk to her trust me I have tried . I have tried to the point of exhaustion to the point were I cringed and cried . She is not like any person I have ever encountered . Yes she is my mom , but there has to be a line and I have to draw it somewhere. She needs to work on her own personal skills before she interacts with me. I moved to my dads for a reason and that reason being my whole life I have just wanted to be loved and not treated like a weirdo . It's just hard to love someone that doesn't know how to give it back . A relationship is give and take not give and give or take and take . The giver will eventually stop giving if the taker just takes and gives nothing in return. I'm happy here with my dad I have learned more about myself , life , and what it is to feel in the past two months that I have lived here than I have my entire life.Im just being pissy and venting . I feel better now though. Thanks for the words man(:
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Its ok ... I understand completely ,venting is good ,space and time is what you need right now from your mom .... Don't second guess yourself your doing everything right its your mom who needs to check her priorities your her son you come first
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i complete understand wat ur going through shane. my mom is JUST LIKE THAT.she is very very stubborn,she can also be very cold and mean person.she can get violent and wat she thinks is right is right.i get very mad at her sometimes.her and my dad get in to fights a lot.their is lot that she has done to our family and me. if feel sometimes like she doesn't even know i'm her kid she treats me like a stranger and sometimes a outcast.one lil thing can just make her exploded.so wat i learned to do over the years is just to step back and breath,look things over and if i can work on anything to make my life easier and my moms too.and if i can talk to her about it even tho she acts like she does not listen i still talk to her about it.i hope for the best for u. : )
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wow fun2draw sorry but your pretty together your smart
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awwww thnx hawkmann ;D xD i like ur answer too...
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Thanks fun2draw sorry about your situation .
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thanks Shane.. hopefully i wasn't depressing xD
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Thanks hawk man your one cool dude(:
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Thats what they say = }
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lol xD
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Haha (:
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It's ok you weren't depressing if either of you need someone to talk to here's my email Shane1231995@gmail.com. Sometimes there's comment breaks on here and it drives me crazy
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If I don't respond it's probably because I'm out of wifi range .
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lol okay that makes me feel better...and okay i'll email u here is my email disneycrate@hotmail.com its a lil kiddish cuz i had it for a long time ;3 :D
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I think it's ok...

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ClassyLady23

no its not wrong....dont hate her because it'll just keep you miserable but you dont have to be best friends

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Dam dude you just don't know ! That a mother is the best thing in the world ! If you don't know you may be to young to know ! One day u will find out hope it's not to late if I had a chance love and huge your's quit all ready?

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You must at least try to leave the past in the past

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You have every right to feel your own emotions. Your experiences are different from hers. Allow yourself to hurt, then forgiveness will come.
We all deal with hurt differently.

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