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Is there a fine line, or happy medium, between caring too much, and caring very little, or not at all?

And where do you find the balance? society, I feel, tends to embrace apathetic attitudes. I believe it's important to care about things and people, but is there a point where caring becomes excessive and debilitating? is it possible to care too much? Where do you draw the line? thoughts? (I, for one, tend to care way too much. )

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I draw the line of caring to much, when I end up taking three bullets to the chest.
Caring to much is entirely possible, but we should never be apathetic.

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I'm guessing the bullets is a figurative thing? :P I agree though: it's not good to be apathetic.
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Bullets? Unfortunately it isn't figurative and I learned from experience.
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Oh wow, no way?! Well, I'm glad you're ok!
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Thanks. Let me just warn you, Shaylen. Don't ever be in a gang war in Tijuana. Nothing good comes of it.
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Never be in a gang war in Tijuana. Check. Got it. I'm guessing that's what happened to you?
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Yep. Thought I was an "All wise Cholo". No one should be in a gang, especially at 13. Hurt too many people in those times, including family. Regret every made decision, but I at least learned from them.
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Oh wow... I'm very sorry about that! 13 is so young....But you sound like you're a much stronger and wiser person from your experiences, at least you learned from them :)
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Yep. I learned maturity. I had to take care of 4 brothers and 2 sisters on my own (Being the oldest) While a bad way to learn, I learned nonetheless.
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Oh wow I don't even know what to say... No child should have to experience that... >.<
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Nope. But better to have learned, than to not have.
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I suppose so! Life is so ironic that way.
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When it comes to politics, i care enough to voice my opinion and at least listen to yours.(even though i'm too stubborn to really agree with other's opinions...) when it comes to a friend's everyday struggles, i do what i can. When it comes to the everyday struggles of a complete stranger, i dont give a rip, because i dont expect that stranger to care about my problems.

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I care about strangers' problems... And anyway, I guess this sort of answered my question......??
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I guess what i'm getting at is that it depends on who or what you would expect me to care about. As far as i'm concerned, caring is kind of a risk. You don't want to get too attatched to something that you know is a lost cause, or something you simply can't fix.
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Ahh. So depending on the subject matter?
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Exactly. I'd never die to save a megalomaniac, but i would immediately accept the same fate to preserve an innocent life.
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Ah I see. Ok. Well, that makes more sense now so... *****
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Society is desensitized... Media raises their expectations for their life, making them think that they should be... Special?... When really they are just another sheep. Let's say, the innocent bystander in an action movie, killed, no one cares because they are not a main character... People too often set them selves up for disappointment.I try to not care about much. But that is not possible... Um, sorry... I might be slightly misunderstanding your question. caring too much, like... paranoid? or depressed?

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Caring in general.
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Humans are all important. Humans should not be compared to sheep, EVER.
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How can you be innocent when you k.ill? I'm not sure I understand your point. And movies consist of more than the main character. There are many characters to sympathize with.
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No no... The innocent bystander is killed... But no one really cares they are not important to the story... even though he/she probably had a family waiting for them...
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And I don't know what else to compare us to, you can't say every person is unique and interesting, you have leaders (shepards) like celebrities, presidents, kings. And followers (sheep), the rest of us... I think I'd be flattering everyone by calling them sheep, sheep, at least sheep that I've seen, don't murder, lust, discriminate, scam and torture other sheep.
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That's not what you said in your answer... You said they killed... But I don't see how this has to do with my question.
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Sorry then. And Neither do I it got sidetracked, my point is society no longer cares about people as much as "they should". But they do care about getting stuff, like electronics, money, sex, blah blah blah. So less and less people care what other people go through to make their, stuff. And "stuff" is getting easier and easier to get, soon no one will care. And society might get a full apathetic attitude, too many people are just spoiled.
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I'm not asking about society....
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Well you brought it up...
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Sorry I guess I'm moody today :P thanks for answering...
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You sort of have a good point about the whole "bystander" thing. That's true. The viewers are just greatful that the main character or the hot dude didn't get killed, while the main characters run right past them, not giving a care in the world...
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It is a narcissistic sociopathic world....
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@your-only to those those who are narcissitic and sociopathic.
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Well those who are influence those who are not...
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Yes, of course there's "caring too much". I've been to a therapist and they'll tell you that there's different sort of situations where you can care too much. I cared too much about my ex in the way that I became an "enabler" to her drug habit. I didn't intend to, that wasn't my goal. I was just trying to avoid fighting with her and maybe trying to use love to mask the problem.

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I think there is caring too much, I've just been surprised to hear some people say there's not, so I wanted to hear more. Thanks for answering and sharing! Sorry about your negative experience >.<
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I draw the line when I'm getting too involved. There's a difference between trying to help and getting into someone's business. I like helping people, and I do help people, but sometimes other people need to work out problems themselves. Figuratively, in your head, you can never care too much. But physically, there is.

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Not just people's problems, that I'll usually just let people know I'm there, and I'm kind to them, but with other people's thoughts, that's one subject, for example, where I care too much.
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Me too! I always wonder what others are thinking...
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Su.cks doesn't it?? You almost feel captive to their thoughts, like, you don't want them to think poorly of you, though you know you really shouldn't care!
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