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Am I being abused? Am I crazy?

I'm a junior in high school. My mom says I'm a slut, worthless, I'll never find someone who will marry me, a failure etc. she mocks me over my Christian faith although supposedly she's a Christian? She tells me I don't deserve to be a part of this family and I'm the Devil's child. I've had things thrown at me. I've been shaken and pushed. I've been dragged by my hair and kicked outside for hours with no coat or shoes. Sometimes I'm not allowed to sleep. My father said he was gonna help me but instead told me that I deserve it all and that I'm not worth being protected cause I make too many mistakes. And I do mess up. I try to do e everything right. It's never good enough. She's now started hurting my bro. My dad can be just as bad. A few trusted adults think it's time to call Child Protective Services. But my parents always say it's my fault and that I'm crazy. And I do make mistakes. I'm so confused. And I'm so worried that maybe it is my fault. I have panic attacks and flashbacks. I don't know what to do. 

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Phlorence_602

You should call child protective.
This is not normal, and it doesn't mean you're crazy.
You're actually being abused. You need to let people know NOW!

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Contact your guidance counselor, NOW.

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they are probably trapping you on purposes
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It's her, not you.

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Well you don't seem crazy to me. I think that it could be considered abuse and you should probably go to a guidance counselor to talk so stuff out with them. If it's really bad then I think it would be wise to call the Child Protective Services.

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you didnt do anything wrong

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It means hello welcome to my profile lol...:D
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no it means eliforp ym ot emoclew olleh
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Dork..-.-..
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can. i. ask. you. a. question? does. the. voice. in. your. head. make. a. little. pause. every. time. i. put. a. period?
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Ha actually yeah...
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good! now imma test my theory out
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Okay.
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Tell a teacher, a friend they can help you! Your not crazy, honestly your parents are! Its all their fault and their the bad people in this problem. (No offense) Call Child Protective A.s.a.p! You may be taken to a foster home, but at least these people care about you! :)

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get a foster parent?

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You can't just get a foster family.....
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Yeah. You have to call child protective services and DCFS.
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well im sorry for being a kid and not knowing every single little exception this world has to get something
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You need CPS. Your parents do not deserve to have ever had children. You should move in with their siblings. Call the police on your parents next time it gets out of hand. If they fail, call Chuck Norris. If he fails, call me.

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You are being mentally and physically abused, and I would advise you to tell an adult at school NOW.

No one deserves to be treated that way, and I know because I went through the same thing. Every teen makes small mistakes, but you never did anything wrong to cause your mom and dad to do this to you. The "trusted adults" should be calling child services themselves, but it might be up to you to call at this point :(

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Well they offered to call themselves. And they want to.
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And I'm homeschooled. So I don't have a guidance counselor
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Oh I see. It is not necessary to get a guidance counselor involved. If you tell me what state you live in, I can look up the number you need to call. Your life will change, but the change will be good. The abuse will stop, and you will be a happied person.
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I have the number. Thanks though.
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Fantastic answer! Sorry to read that you had to deal with that too. :(
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Thanks truckerlady. Yep, it was almost the exact same situation too.
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So if you were in the same situation as me, what did you do?
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I told the police, and they didn't believe me because I didn't have any evidence. I just lived there in fear until I was 18.
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That's not good. I'm sorry. :(
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Did you regret doing what you did? Did it make things worse?
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It didn't change anything, but it was very embarrassing.
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Because the cops believed my parents, over me
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I'm sorry. :(
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I think you are not crazy, even if you mess up alot nobody is perfect they should not be hurting or mistreating you in that way.

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Call CPS ASAP

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It's her not you. You don't seem all that crazy, and we all make mistakes. But it seems like you're paying for your mistakes, whatever they may be, two times over..
Get help.

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Call child protective services or the police. Both of them are bound to help you

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its her not you if you want to believe in your christian faith you do it i have been a christian for about 9 years now and any one who does not like it i tell them at least i now were I will be going when I die and then i ask do you know where you are going so if your mom wants to call you a slut and the devils child let her but if she is going to throw stuff at you i would call the police talk to the school councilor or call def-ax on her.

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I don't even have to read your entire description; wow. You're being abused.

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WOW, no wonder you're having panic attacks, that is an a-w-f-u-l situation! You are NOT crazy -- nobody, and I mean NOBODY should ever be treated the way your parents are treating you. Everybody makes mistakes -- this is NOT your fault! Don't ever believe it is your fault... and don't forget that.
There is no question that you ARE being abused -- verbally, mentally/emotionally, and physically. Yes, you absolutely need to call CPS, or explain the situation to a teacher or guidance counselor & they will call for you ASAP! So sorry this is happening to you. PLEASE get help for yourself & brother immediately. Best wishes...

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I think there may be some omissions in your portrayal of events, but if not, contact your guidance counsellor at school first and see if family counseling is available. Good luck.

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NEVER excusable
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Yeah. I had to cut out a lot of details cause of word count restrictions.
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"Omissions" or not, what has been described is unacceptable, and most definitely abuse.
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Look you need to tell someone think about it so u want your brother to have to go through everything you did ? Stop it before it gets to far sweety

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Yeah, definitly abuse, while reasonable discipline is allowed, this is totally out of proportion to that, call CPS

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Yes you are! This isn't safe at all! She's physically and mentally and verbally abusing you! You nor your brother deserve any of this! Call a close relative for help and call the police or child protection! Take care!

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you need to get help a young beautiful girl like you should not be letting this happen to you and making mistakes is part of life and your rude horrible parents should not be scolding you for that they should actually be forgiving and sometimes happy that you have made a mistake. Please contact your child protective system you are probably a very bright girl and you dont deserve this dont let anyone including your parents tell you that your stupid and worthless because you are NOT.

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you need to call CPS as soon as possible. i know in my heart that you are a wonderful girl that is not being treated like one.i am so sorry that this is happening to you,but god will make it all right.i know it. ill be praying for you every second i can.

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Are you a Christian?
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why does it matter? aren't any prayers or well wishes in this situation good? regardless of whether or not they are christian prayers?
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Nope. I was just curious. No offense intended. :)
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okay
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Yes you're being abused. Take pics whenever you can to show bruise. Record anything you can if possible. Contact child protective services or speak with your school counselor. You need to protect you AND your brother. You have my prayers.

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Calling the police wont fix things fast. They will look for proof first like bruises and medical records. If non are found they will return you to your parents. Then your parents will be even more upset for doing it. I would call CPS and talk to your school counselor. They can back you and get you removed from the house quickly.

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Yes you need to call cps... It is not your fault Hun...and you are not crazy.

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#1 get out NOW and go to somewhere safe! #2 start making phone calls!...

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Your being abused call CPS now! You deserve better! Best in luck

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First off yes, this is abuse. You need to either contact someone you know who will listen (guidance councilor or teacher or etc.) or child protective services.

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Dont just call CPS go to there office tell them everything and that why your not going home> Failing that the same thing but with a teacher. This is abuse, theres nothing wrong with you only them. Good luck x

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Yes, this is abuse. Don't you ever believe your a failure or crazy or anything they tell you. Don't you dare believe them. You need to get help! Please, get help. You will be in my prayers.

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Yes this is abuse O_Oll

Be careful!

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read the book A Child Called It

anyway how do u have computer access

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You should call child protective as soon as possible! It's not your fault at all. Never ever think it's your fault. That is abuse. I know we don't know each other but if you need anyone to talk to you can talk to me. I'll listen. I've been through a lot as well and just trying to survive in this world. It's hard I know it is but you'll get through this I promise! <3

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hope you get out of it

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Yes, I feel so bad for you, but the only thing I can say is call CPS ASAP!

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call 911 NOW!!!

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Call child protective services now

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You aren't crazy, but you definitely have to call cps!

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ya sounds like your a victim of domestic violence call the cops!

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Yes CALL THE COPS!

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I basically go through the same thing, I know how you feel, I always make mistakes and my parents tell me that I dont listen and that im a slut and that I couldnt keep my legs closed if i tried. I think you should call child services. I wish you luck

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i think that does count as abused. you need to call the police and the way your parents treat you is wrong, you did not do anything wrong. you do not deserve what you parents are doing. so please do me a favor and call the police. that's one less child abuser in the world

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your not crazy its just your mom doesnt love you because if she did she wouldnt abuse you. its not your fault its your moms she chose to treat you like that so its her fault not your

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Reach out for help. She has no right once and for all t treat you this way no matter what you did. Don't hesitate your brother seems to be next after you and if you let him go through this you will part of what you are now complaining about. Hurry pickup the phone and before all collect evidence. Try to record everything she says or do to you via your cell or laptop cam or even the regular voice recorder to keep yourself secure cause a women like her can lie and deny everything and the social service may believe her. God is with you child please let us know how are you doing dear.

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Whoa! This sounds totally bogus, but if not, If you have trusted adults who advise getting in touch with the authorities, DO IT! You are suffering from what is called the "Stockholm Syndrome." That is that even people who are kidnapped and held against their will will eventually come to sympathize with their captors. Weird, but true. It's some kind of freaky human nature thing. Don't fall for it. You need to reach out for help once and for all or you will be permanently screwed up and any children you have could be likewise affected. You and your brother will probably need years of psychological therapy which the government should pay for. Don't let your brother go through the hell you have gone through. It's not about loving your parents and sticking by them, it's about knowing that they are mentally very sick and you have to help them as much as help yourself.

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It's abusive, you're getting abused, call the police, talk to some trusted adults who don't abuse you. Thank God you aren't dead or severely harmed, you still have a chance to change things, talk to some adults that can help, stay at a Friend's house while everything get's resolved. Call some Child Protection services as well.

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Give me your address, the saiyan next door and I will come and help you!

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