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Whats a real father to you?

Everyone in my family says my dad isnt a real dad , he apparently said that i belonged to some one else and not him:(

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A true father is one that is willing to make sacrifices for his family. He will make the decisions that aren't easy but that have to be made. A true father doesn't necessarily have to be at every little event that occurs in his child's life, however, he should be active in his child's life. He won't always give his children what they want, but would never hesitate to give them what they need. Overall a true father is a father that loves his child/children unconditionally. That's what a true father is to me. A man who loves his children unconditionally.

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hmm i dont think my dad is al that :(
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Is he just one of them?
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Yeah he gives me what i want now and then , but he hasnt been there since birth he ran away to the states
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Ah, I'm sorry about that. Then perhaps your mothers boyfriend is more of a dad to you? Does he take care of you and love you?
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My mums bf does take care and love me , hes bought me everthing i wanted , :) and its okay theres nothing to be sorry for :) its his loss at the end of the day :)
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That's the spirit :)
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hehe :)
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Father- A man who is had you,
Dad- Someone who raised and cared for you.

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well my dad aint no dad then becuase my mum has raised and cared for me for 17 years and everyone say oh your dads not a real dad , but deep down it hurts me because if he hasnt been there for 17 years he will always be my dad :(
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He will be your Father and only your father, imagine a girl who's father had died, and she was raised by another man, who happened to be her moms best-friend, she called him her real dad, because even though his blood did not flow in hers, he had raised her and loved her, and she loved him
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Yes i know what ur saying my bestfriends dad had died and she wa raised by somone else , she dosnt even care :(
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She doesn't really have to,
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She will never know him, she doesn't need a splinter in her life, if he died young and never knew him, but was raised but somewhat a dad to her, then she can never say "I have no father or ever will".
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ahh okay :D
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It's about the heart, not blood.....
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yes i get you :)
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Fathers.I think a lot of us got short changed in that department.Oh the misery they put us through.Either by not being there or being there and we wish they weren't.

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You aint kidding , oh but i love my dad , but he isnt a real dad , he has never been there for me for 17 years my mums done it all with 3 kids :)
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My dad was awful but I guess I love him too.
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yeah and u only get 2 parents and once theve gone they gone , n i hate falling out with everyone of my family . its soo annoying
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I wish a lot of Dad's would realize how important a role they play in their daughters lives. It means so much and makes such a strong impact for a father to simply make his daughter feel wanted and beautiful. To hug her and tell her she is pretty all the time. A few simple words and loving look go such a long way.

My Dad has a lot of trouble in this area too, I don't think he should have had girls. lol But I love him too ^_^ I will make sure I marry a man that will treat my little girls like angels.
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Aww thats the sweetest advice . and yes we should all love our dads no matter what :) I have done a lot of naughty things in the past and my mum said its beause i neveer had a man in my life before but i regret everthing i have done and will not intend to go back there:)
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I has the same problem when I first became a young teen. I had what we like to call "daddy problems." haha. It wasn't that my dad wasn't there, it was just that he was too gruff and did not show the love and attention I needed as a young girl. Girls crave male ettention and love. It's just a fact. Girls seek to feel cherished and loved. If we dont' get that from our Dad, we may go looking for it in other places, that may not be good places. A lot of girls will take the first man that comes along and looks at them. Whether it be for the right reason or wrong reason, it just feels good to hae that attention. I'm not saying all of these problems are the fathers fault, but a lot of it could be prevented. I know I got into a couple bad relationships for that reason, for not feeling loved or good about myself and seeking a man that would just act like he cared.

:) i know better now and will be marrying a man that loves me for who i really am and will treat me and my daughters like angels. I'm not settling for anything less!! hahah
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You do right , i hope u find a nice man that will love and treat u like u wanted to be treat when u were young , i regret wat ive done but mostly its because my dad wasnt around , but my mum will always be here for me no matter what , But i am old enough to look after my self now , i see my dad 1 day a week because of the court , and if i didnt want to see him i dont have to cause im 17 and they sed i dont have to if i didnt , but i still see him as i might never get 2 one day :)
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That's good, I agree with that decision on your part.
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well its the truth no matter what he has done , he will always be my dad , and no one can replace him :D
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A father is someone who takes the part of a man in your life weather its his or weather its not he is willing to care and take the part of what a man should be and guides you and stays in your life not because he has to but because he wants to and enjoys being in yours or playing a part in your future.

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Good answer , and my mums bf has been more of a dad to me that what my real dad has , and its annoying becuase there is soo many things i wud love to do with my dad , like shopping and holidays , he does take me on holiday 1 a year thought :)
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awe well its always good to have them both in ur life then to have no one and im happy that they both come around in ur life cause all girls need there dads :)
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yes they doo :) i would give anthing to have them in my life forever but that wont happen but ill spend as much time with them as i can :)
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thats good :)
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haha it is , hey do u mind me asking do u use twitter ? :D x
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The real man the cause of your BIRTH.

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Let see other way , all your mother 's husband you called him dad or father . But he is not your real dad or father because he doesn't made you .

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no my mum has only being married once and she has a bf but i dont call him my dad never! , but my dad is sort of a part time dad he comes and then he goes if that makes sense :(
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In future if your mom would married , her husband will be your step dad even if you call him dad or not . Your parents are not living together anymore but they are still your real mom and dad and they still love you always . I understand what you are feeling but a lot people out there have the same situation . Not only you , so try to positive in life . Focus on study and enjoy what you have . You still have a long and happy life . Good luck !
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Thankyou , ill try :) x
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NancyJune said it well! I would add: a true father acknowledges you, acknowledges his responsibility for you, and steps up by loving you, providing for your needs, and protecting you even to the point of self sacrifice. A true father also (in the least) respects your mother for (if nothing else) giving birth to you.

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Your blood father is the one who shares DNA with you. Your Dad, or real father, is the one who has nurtured you, cared for you, fed you, raised you, protected you loved you, spent time with you,and made you feel wanted and beautiful. If my bioligical dad did not do any of those tihngs, I would not consider him my Dad.

Who cares who's blood you are. Real family are those who love you and are there for you. This could even be a close friend.

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Actually I think everyone's definition of family is different, so this is just mine :)
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Well my dad ran off to the states and dragged my mum in court , saying he wanted custody , my mum said no and he stormed out , my mum told me months back that he said to her that i wasnt his child and i belonged to someone else :(
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The father of my child has never been there. I left him when I was pregnant but when I did, I found the love of my life. He is who my daughter calls Daddy because her loves her as his own. He's been there since before she was born and will be there for the rest of her life. Her biological father missed his chance. She better off without him though.

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aw thats sweet . yes she dosnt need a daddy like that , your bf/husband will be pefect for her , u all seem very happy now :) x
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I agree, THAT is her daddy :) The man that has loved her.
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awwwww , and he will carry on loving her forever , aww :)
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Aww thanks y'all!!!
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And I'm VERY happy!!
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aw you should be happy :) x
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I've never been better!
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:D glad someones happy lol x
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Unconditional love is very important to learn early as this forms your self-esteem and how to learn to love others unconditionally! it don't matter who the man is, what is important is how they show & treat you! my real sperm donor was a worthless jerk who left my mother w 4 children & never once did he take care of us in anyway, that's not a father, man, or person you want any part of. but my step father was there thee for all four of us kids & still there for us, took responcablity on that wasn't really his now thats a man & father!

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haha I love how you call him a sperm donor! lol Sometimes that is true. Simply creating a baby does not make you a father.
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a real dad is not who made you its that guy who gave up his life his dreams so you can have a stable life ..its that man who without an obligation what so ever to you or your brothers and sisters and mom..sacrificed himself for you that's a father.......

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nice answer Hawk
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This kind of gets to me because i have several friends who raise kids that are not theirs they sacrifice so much and some people don't get it
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Well my dad isnt that , he left me and ran off to the states , but then he felt so guilty he came back after 4 weeks :(
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lol really....
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yes , i wouldnt lie about that :(
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Wow
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I don't know never met mines......

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Really...?
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Yes.
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Aw im sorry to hear that :( my cousion has never met her dad too
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I worked with kids for 20 years! I was good at it because I thought myself as there father! Just like a mother murres here kids being a father is something you feel that's right!

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A person who protects you and loves you for who you are no matter WHAT you do

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