You have to look at life as a balance sheet. My wife died about 9 years ago, one of my children died 7 years ago and I had cancer. That's enough devastation for one lifetime and enough to put someone in deep depression. On the other side of the balance sheet, I have 3 more loving children, many relatives, financial freedom, a great dog and super friends. The positives don't erase the negatives but the positives surely out number them. That's what keeps me happy and positive.
Realizing the better in life helps me stay happy and positive. Doing what I love keeps me happy and positive. Cherishing what I have now makes me happier, knowing I and many others have had less and have been through worse. "The sweet doesn't taste as good, without the bitter."
Well, I hide all of my pain. I tell myself that tomorrow will be better, there are things to look forward to, and there ARE people who love me. The poeple who hurt me still care, the things that scare me will turn out alright, the problems I have will turn out for the better. I have faith in God and know I'll be okay... I WILL be okay. Plus, I have to stay strong for others, right? :) "If you are alive, you have reason to be happy. If things are really bad, they can only get better. Everyone has a purpose on this planet and you can find yours. Somebody out there needs you and is thankful that they know you."
What keeps me happy and positive is my beautiful soon-to-be fiance ;) she's the whole reason I chose the right path in life, if I hadn't have met her, I would be out there somewhere living god knows where and in jail. My motto, "Don't let others criticize what they have yet to understand about you. They call you down and you just keep looking up" -Elvis Presley
I just don't like being outsmarted by dumb machinery or happenstance.
"Somebody scoffed: "Oh, you'll never do that; At least no one has done it"; But he took off his coat and he took off his hat, And the first thing we knew he'd begun it. With a lift of his chin and a bit of a grin, Without any doubting or quiddit, He started to sing as he tackled the thing That couldn't be done, and he did it."
I count all my blessings everyday. I'm not a very healthy person, but I know I can look down the road no more than 1/4 of a mile & there's someone a lot worse off than me. I also think about the things I have that most of us take for granted that a lot of people don't have, especially in other parts of the world & even our brave men & women that are in our military. I'm thankful that I have a warm home to come into in the winter & a cool one in the summer; for my soft pillow & warm bed I get to sleep in each night..when others maybe just have the hard ground; I have clean running water to drink; that I have not just clothes, but pretty clothes to wear when some may have none or very little; I have food on my table every day for every meal when some may go days without having anything to eat. I could go on and on. And I guess my motto actually comes from 2 verses out of the Bible. One says, "Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance." And the other one is, "Rejoice in the Lord always, again I say rejoice."
I do what I must to be who I want to be. I realize that suffering as someone I don't want to be is worse than suffering to be someone I want to be. I don't get discouraged because my heart is ripped out of my chest and stomped on- I just go do my thing anyway.