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Why relationships do not last long?

3 years back when I was in school I had a very best friend, we used to hang out, spend a very long time talking, share our stories, love each other as a friend, frequent calls etc were actually common.

But now we both are in a different college, He is in my facebook friends list and the level of friendship between us stops with facebook itself (liking photos) that's it. No text messages, calls, hangouts and moreover I don't even care to think about him anymore and we've developed a very great gap between us.

This makes me thinking that why relationships (especially friendships) won't last long? I had so many good old friends and now they all are busy living their life. Why do they play a part of my life as my friends an vanish as time goes and new bunch of people interacts in my life?

How am I supposed to behave with my present time friends? Do I have to get closer and improve my friendship with my current friends or treat them as if they are JUST a part of my life and move on? But that's difficult. :(

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The older we get our life changes, priorities change. It's not that we stopped caring about certain people, life just takes different turns, our jobs take up most of our time leaving us with little free time. I may not get to spend the time I would like, but I still stay connected as much as possible.

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sweet
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because they are NOT made for each other

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Friends come and go but you have to remember that you might find another friend and then that friend might become you best friend.

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We change a lot as people while we go through life, especially in our younger years. So do other people. So a couple, whether friends or a romance, may be perfect for a while and then one or both of them changes (but not in the same way) and the relationship sort of fades out. As we get older, more mature (hopefully), we change more slowly and have a better idea of who we match and who we don't match. Don't lose heart because school-age relationships don't last. Get to know yourself really well, and you develop a better idea of who you should be with, as friend or romance.

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It's exactly what you said, life happens......priorities change, people change, life goals change......in this age of technological connectivity we really have to go that extra mile to try and make the effort to keep ACTUAL interaction with friends and family alive instead of always using phones or computers to keep in touch......I'm sure that things in your life have changed as well as of late.....shoot your friend a call, I'll bet they probably feel the same way as you do......8)

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good morning...Naf.... cupcakes
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Well Good Mornin!! How have things been?
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true friends are the ones that stay till the end

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How you have been!!!
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good& u? i missed u :)
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life.... choices... growing up.... looking at the world differently as the years go by.... needs and ideas change... lots of things..make a relationship not last long... and lots of things will make one last for many years...

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Your so right girl, I don't think we ever mean to drift apart from really awesome friends, it just happens.
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I hope you are having a great day today!!!
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That is why it is always good to reach a mature age before u start dating.At least u will know what kind if relationship is good for u and u will not be dillusional.

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People grow apart..... They have different views on life... Its not personal it just the way it is

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That part of life really does bite sometimes, we get busy with our own life, there just never seems to be enough time.
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Yeah thats true
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