There is no mother without a FATHER. When can we stop demonizing teenage mothers and start asking "What about the father"? "What about the guy who got her pregnant and walked away"? Seems like a double-standard to me.
I think initially they are judged harshly, but ultimately there needs to be concern for them for this overwhelming task that they are about to undertake, I wonder looking in retrospect if many if not all of them would've planned differently, it is a life changer and I fear that so many of them are ill-equipped to handle it...
My personal opinion is that they have delved into parenthood way too soon. They are not capable of raising the child on their own. So the parents of the teenager must either step forward and take on the responsibility or the government and sometimes both. I think the teenage boy gets off lightly and shouldn't. It is a very selfish thing to do. ON both the teenage boy and girl.
I think the parents of teenage parents have many questions to answer. No, it's not always the parent's fault. But the adults in the family are supposed to be in charge of the teenagers. We are so afraid that our kids (or grandkids) will say we are "uncool" that we believe them when they (the teens) say they know what they're going. Since what generation did the teens set the standards for the family. Victorians were prudes in many senses of the word, but they DID know not to allow teenaged males and females to wander the city on unchaperoned "dates".
I think they'd be better off putting their babies up for adoption, there's a waiting list of stable, married, employed adults who can't have kids waiting for a baby to adopt. it's better for everybody involved, the teen mother who can't afford a kid, the father who couldn't pull out in time, the baby who deserves better, the adoptive parents who CAN afford a baby, and the grandparents who shouldn't be stuck helping to raise their kid's baby.
i think that they are mistreated i mean people just assume she is a slut and all and i think that there could be other aspects that fall into play that people dont know when they look at her.. also i think that the teenager mothers are very responsible because they are not taking care of another human being and they are still a kid themselves so they have to grow up faster and figure out their lives within a couple months because they have school and also if they want to go to college it all is so complicated and i think teenager mother should get more respect for what they go through even though they made on little mistake and they will have to deal with it but they are such great influences besides the sleeping around part.
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Teens have enough to deal with. Growing up themselves is a hard enough to figure out at times. Bringing another human into the world is a commitment even some "grown ups" can't deal with. I don't judge or grade them in algebra. I don't judge them on a decision I feel is poor. I would like them to live their own lives to the fullest first. A lot of them end up on Welfare. This is really not a quality way to live for the mother or the child. Where is the father? Aren't both the set of parents responsible for this child if born under the age of 18 to either "parent.?"
you know as a young lady you don't think about them things but if you make the choice to lay down with a guy then you risk what happens if you get knocked up so its time to act grown sense you wanted to be grown but I think family support is important even though they made the mistake they still need guideness.
I don't get how teenage mothers can go around calling other girls who haven't done anything or dont have kids. but have sex bad names honestly like did they even learn anything from being a teen mom don't judge people especially when you have been treated that way it hurts to judge people and its not nice for people to judge teen mothers either they try there best and they do just as. good as any mother would and i appreciate those who have took responsibility of there child shows maturity and point blank people need to stop judging people ur not a judge in a court room so ur opinions can be kept in ur head and ur mouth but other than that lol everyone respect each other
One, two hundred years ago women had children while they were young , because people's life expextencely was so low. Times have changed. I don't have children so I can't judge. I would hope that a young woman would listen to older parents , fathers and mothers, about their experiences of having children at young age.
I think they're the byproduct of a jacked up society. From a young age, girls are assaulted with media images and unrealistic expectations to be a sexual object for men, and to garner more attention from men than the next girl. This is how they've been taught to assert their femininity and independence as a female. Trashy clothes, tacky tattos, and girls trying to wear makeup to impress boys, before they even stop playing with dolls is the result. Another disturbing example is grade school aged girls, for some reason, trying to wear two piece bathing suits. Throw in overly liberal parenting, and the desire to be 'popular', and we have the recipe for teenage pregnancy. Teenage mothers, thankfully, usually develop the insight to prioritize their children after they're born, but teenage fathers, more often than not, don't realize the true impact of having a child. They'd still rather live it up, as teenage boys are known to do. So, are teenage mothers judged unfairly? Sometimes, but it's important to understand. . .disappointment emerges when we see our potential future leaders, potential business owners, and potential future neighbors, lost to their own lack of restraint, or inability to understand that sex is worth putting off an education if you get pregnant. I was a father at 18, my ex a mother at 17. Neither of us regret a single day since our boy was born, but every teenage dream and goal had to be sacrificed to provide a decent life for our kid. I guess, if by judged unfairly, you mean disheartened, then yes. It's a long, hard road. (As you can tell, I feel a tad strongly about this, lol)
I got pregnant at 17. My children are number one in my life and always have been. I grew up when I got the news. I got a job and graduated. I don't regret getting pregnant young nor do I condone it. I was well prepared and well aware of what I was in for with being a teenage mom. Not all teen parents are the same.
I think that considering the fact that by the age of, say, twelve or thirteen, most people know that there is a huge risk of getting pregnant if you have sexual intercourse, and the availability of birth control for both males and females, it's terribly irresponsible for both parties involved. If they're being judged it's because they have put themselves into the situation that they are being judged for. But that should apply to not just the mothers but the fathers as well.
A human female should not impregnated until a female human has reached an age of maturity and to where she is responsible and willing to put its life on the human infant and must have a human biological father. If a human male and female are going to have sexual intercourse as teenagers then they will rush toward maturity soon but it will take awhile for them to understand that it is a human infant and cannot do anything so the human mother has to put her life on the infant and so must the biological father of the human infant. Some of Americas female teenagers should not be having sexual intercourse until it reaches maturity and has the responsibility for a human infant.
Sometimes. But I feel like they brought it upon themselves, even though they might have not wanted it that way. Once someone jacks up one time, it is hard to believe they will do something smart again.
I'm a teen mom, just had a boy two months ago with a guy I've been with for three years. You guys are sitting here saying age matters. Really? What about the 12+ kids that go doing drugs? What about adults that date 5-10 years older than them. Apparently age don't matter in those categories. But its a crime for two teens to make a mistake. I love my son to death and wouldn't trade anything in the world for him. We have jobs, depend on ourselves, &go to school, & the father is getting ready for college. I think we honestly get made fun of, or supposed to have lower standards, but if it happened to you, you wouldn't of posted anything. Put yourself in a teen moms shoes, and you will see that mature ones work their ass of to support their family. We grow up faster, and it sets our mind to our child, not doing drugs, or getting trouble. If you sit back and look at some of your family members, probably was a teen parent, or a child to a teen parent. Judgment shouldn't base on someone to have a baby, or their weight, or the family they come from, or do drugs. I'm not getting religious or anything, but if god didn't want it the way it was, then it wouldn't of happened.
The truth is simple to understand. Teens will be judged now because they are teens... their life is meant to be monitored and subject to disciplinary action until they are 24. Yes, 24.. No one talks crap to a 24 year old for having a kid. That is a consequence you have to prepare for. If you're pregnant right now and are still in highschool you will be judged no matter how hard you complain or think it's unfair. Just deal with it... ignore it... once you're older no one will give a f*ck. However, I have no sympathy for a mother who focuses on who did her wrong and desires attention for her "misfortune" or her being judged.
My wife has a 7 year old and 1 year old. We're 23. If you're a teenager and you're pregnant. Learn to be strong 'cause now is the perfect time.