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There's this girl that I like, and she knows it and she calls me her "hubby". I asked her out in October last year, and she said she didn't want to be in a relationship. But we talk a lot now, and I want to ask her again, but don't want to ruin our frendship. Am I "friendzoned"? If not, should I ask her again?

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I think you should ask her again:)

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Ikr? I'm just afraid toi soon.
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Don't be:) if she truly was her friend... The relationship wouldn't suffer... She'd still be friends with you... So just go for it!
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Is asking before a week long break "wimpish" ( lack of better word)
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No:) that's perfect... It will give her time to think....if she needs it.
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Do what your heart and gut are telling you to do

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I'm a girl, so if I was in that situation it could go two ways. First, if you asked her out, she could say yes and you would go out. Keep in mind that if you do break up things could change drastically. Second, she could say no. I'm going to say give it a shot. I can't say you have nothing to lose because you could lose her as a friend but you will never know if you never try. Good luck! Question, how old are you?

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Oh. I see. Well, I'm going to say you are too young to be dating. Wait until later but talk about it with the girl. Tell her how you feel. Don't worry we've all been through that situation where you're scared.
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You would be shocked at my school. Over half have had sex, and almost everyone dates starting in 6th grade.
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You would be shocked. Almost everyone starts dating in 6th grade, and only about 40% haven't "done it"
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It's ok. I know how it is. I was in school once too, you know. Just because they have doesn't mean you have to. I think that I went through that as well. What do you plan on doing?
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It just the feeling of wanting to fit in so I proabally will. Just a question, do you find it patetic or sad or something that the only questiins I ask are about girls? Haha
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Ask! Not the other stuff. My bad.
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That's good. I still think you should wait. I don't find it anything. I know that everyone needs help every once in a while.
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There's a difference between flirting and talking. Bring up the situation in October and say you said then that you weren't ready for a relationship but how are you feeling about that now? If she tells you she's ready then you could probably ask her out. If not then what's wrong with being just friends?

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Well maybe it was a bad time for her the first time and I maybe she likes you to I say go for it and if she sayes no then well at least you have your friendship still

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do what feels natural and if she says no well you have to keep the friendship going. you should ask her out and if you do let me know how it works out for you. good luck! :)

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My opinion - be her friend when she needs anything....without being creepy and stalking her. Let her know you are her friend at all costs. Make it a point to be happy, and make her laugh. Tell her stories of your day, and be relaxed. For friendship is the basis of the best kind of love. You would go to the ends of the earth for her. When she needs to talk, laugh, go places, and before you know it, or suspect it, she will begin to think of you with out her knowing it. She will pick you if you are special together. Forcing a relationship is awkward and you will wish you had played it cool. Truly, this is all subjective, only you and her have the combination, however, if it is meant to be, as the saying goes, it is always better to be patient and let things happen naturally. Worrying about it, and smothering a girl to the point to where she avoids you for the fact that she doesn't feel the same way is destructive to your goal. And worse, she can smell it on you. The human instinct of love and companionship is a gift. Allow it to happen.

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If you're afraid it's too soon, then wait another week and think about it :P

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