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I want my dog to live on campus with me but my roommate said no because hes "aggressive" since hes a Doberman how can i show her he's not?

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fritzmerde

Have your dog make her an offer she can't refuse. You can have dogs in your dorm rooms? Wow, I mean I had dogs in mine but they only had 2 legs. A buddy of mine had a huge Doberman, I mean HUGE. Shogun scared the doodie out of people, he was a horse. He wouldn't hurt a fly, unless told to, great dog, just take her out with your dog,toss a Frisbee around, light cocktails, dinner catch a show (just not CATS) she'll warm up

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Shogun sounds like your typical Dobie!:-). Impressive-Non Aggresive!:-).
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That's great Fritz! lol
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Tell her that your dog isn't aggressive, and show her videos of your dog playing, bathing, napping, licking you, etc. Then, at the park, introduce them and let her play with him herself.

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How would you feel if your roommate had a pet rattlesnake?

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I like animals as long as its in a cage
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A Doberman is in no way comparable to a Rattlesnake!!
They are great Dogs!
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try asking your roommate not to judge before she meets the dog and spends a little time with him. she's judging and doesn't even know the dog. breed plays a minor part, since most dobermans do tend to be aggressive. notice how I said most and not all dobermans. so that means some could be like angels, but most of them are agressive.

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Think saying "some" would be more accurate; they are actually Very loyal, trainable and have to taught to be aggresive.
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in my experience with the doberman breed, most of them that I've met have been a little on the aggressive side. playful, but aggressive.
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Ok, my bad sry.:-).
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it's ok, thanks for the feedback anyway. I'll remember that for next time...
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She said no. You can't force someone to like a Doberman. They are scary to a lot of people.

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I think Dobermans are scary, but that doesn't mean I am gonna base my opinion on an idiot's basis. I do in fact KNOW that they are very sweet dogs.
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I know it doesn't seem fair, but Dobermans are big dogs and can be intimidating. It isn't fair for your roommate to feel intimidated in her home either. Some people just are not comfortable around large dogs, and dogs can feel fear, which makes them uncomfortable. In this case I think it would be best to keep your dog away from what can turn into a bad situation.

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Sorry but that's a major decision that you BOTH have to agree on, if one roommate says no then it's no. If it were a poster you wanted to put then you don't need her consensus, but for a dog you do.

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However, she is basing her opinion on dobermans by their looks and media scares. It's just like what everyone who hates pitbulls do.
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And that very well may be the case, but if she fears dogs (even if irrationally) she still shouldn't have to live in fear in her home.
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Okay, apparently you did not read the question correctly, so I am done with you. The asker said that she said no BECAUSE DOBERMANS ARE AGRESSIVE not that the roommate hates dogs. Therefore, there is a false judgement in the midst of the question.
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No ma'am I DID see that, but it doesn't matter, she fears THIS KIND OF DOG, therefor she should not have to be subjected to one in her home, even if the dog in question is a big ole teddy bear who would only lick her to death.
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She has probably never even seen one in person, let alone actually have hands-on with one. Besides the fact, you said: "...but if she fears dogs..." which includes every breed of dog on the planet as it is plural, versus saying "...but if she fears Dobermans..." which would be correct. Therefore, what you said read as "she's sacred of dogs and hates them" because you used the plural of dog instead of the plural for Doberman. that makes all the difference in a comment. Bye-bye, dude!
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Wow, so much anger because one person doesn't agree with you and it's not even your dog. I never said she hates dogs, please don't put words in my mouth ... uh ... keyboard. What your brain can't seem to comprehend is that not everybody loves animals as much as you do. I love animals too, especially dogs, ecspecially BIG dogs, but if my roommate was afraid a certain dog or breed I wouldn't subject them to that fear, even if it's unfounded fear. Stoip being so selfish, think about the other person. What if your roommate wated to get a gun and you had a fear of guns? Or if she wanted a giant camel-spider and you were afraid of spiders? What if it got out of its cage? Or whatever it is you fear, irrationally or not, you wouldn't want to live in fear in your home.
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I didn't put words in your mouth, you produced them.
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Copy and paste where I said the word "she hates dogs" ... yeah, didn't think so.
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Hahaha you're the one crying, all I did was give an answer, you went on the atack because you didn't like my answer. You're so spoiled and used to getting your way that when somebody ON THE FREAKIN' INTERNET gives an answer you don't like you freak out about it hahaha grow up, child.
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"However, she is basing her opinion on dobermans by their looks and media scares. It's just like what everyone who hates pitbulls do." Is not an attack. You're stupid if you think it is.
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No genius, this part ... "Okay, apparently you did not read the question correctly, so I am done with you." And then you went on in your next post to infer something I never indended, well it isn't my fault that you don't have the phuqqing brainpower to understand what I'm saying. I even tried to be polite but you kept on with your illogical screech.
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There is a difference between being formal in speech and being polite. Formal things like Ma'am are not cool to use with some people, alright? Another thing, it would have been nice to have explained what you said. I'm sorry if I'm being what you think is "irrational" but I love Dobermans even though they scare the crap outta me. I see one and you know what I think? "Oh god, a doberman!" And I get scared. But I know they're gentle, loving, sweet, and great comforts to have in your home. they want what any other dog wants: To love and be loved by their human companion (I don't use "master", "pet", "owner", etc) for their life, however long or short it may be. So, in other words, after calming down after being offended from stereotype-based fear, I re-read everything and now know what you meant. However, I still believe the roommate should give the dog a chance and that will never change.
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It would be great if the roommate gave the dog a chance, but as a dog-lover I have to remove my own preconcieved notions of what a wonderful blessing dogs are and put myself in her shoes. Maybe petting one at a park is one thing, but if she has a fear of this dog then it's not fair to her to have it living in her house. I'd imagine her having a hard time getting to sleep at night or gettuing her homework done, it could affect her grades drastically.
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Well, perhaps if you read what I POSTED four answers up above yours, you will understand what I am trying to say.
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Your answer is irrelevant to what you've said here in my comment section, but it's cool, just all a big misunderstanding.
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Like I said, I'm sorry. Perhaps we could start over?
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And I DID say that. "However, I still believe the roommate should give the dog a chance and that will never change." Sooo yeah :P
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Or just forget about it and move on, I've got other conversations going on, have a nice day :-)
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Well so much for starting over... Bye. =|
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The dorm will allow you to have a dog? Huh... nice!
Try having your roommate meet your dog. Take them both to a park so she can see what the dog's temperment is like & how he acts around her. If the dog likes her & is friendly with her, maybe she'll change her mind. Bring some doggie treats that she can give to your dog, that'll definitely make the dog more friendly with her. Good luck! :)
(BTW & just my opinion... I don't think I'd want to take my dog to live in a dorm, even if your roommate & the college allow it. Dorm rooms are generally very small, and for a large dog who will be left alone a lot... eh... doesn't seem like a very good idea.)

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does she have a dog?

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She does she has a poodle
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ok do u have a park or something like that around u?
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does she have a fear of dogs?
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If the roommate has a dog, I don't think she's scared of dogs. Just believing stereotypes about them.
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MistySerra has a good point
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thank you, dhs for not hounding me about the obvious thing that people would take in offense. Its nice to know some people appreciate corrections, point-outs, etc.
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YW no problem
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:p
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hey r u any good at chemistry?
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Familiarity. That's kinda pushing the bounds though. Could be the nicest dog in the world, still in such close quarters. Especially a good sized dog is kinda asking a lot of a roommate's good will.

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Having rotties I am familiar with your problem. My mother is Afraid and could never get over the fear. The only way is if your room mate agrees to interact with the dobie away from home and realizes that they can coexist. It's a frame of mind thing don't force the issue. His/ her Fear will cause the animal to be dominate causing problems.

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I've had rotties too! My last dog was a shepard. My sister has dobies. My mom has standard poodles. Ironic? Yes. I hear your point and totally agree. Great answer!
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Hi. It's unfortunate, but Doberman's do have an intimidating reputation. I would have them meet each other. If she already feels hesitant, it would probably be best if she met him in a public place where she could see how he interacts w/other dogs and people. Also, there may be a size variation. Depending on what size her poodle is, the Dobie may be bigger. It will also depend on the gender. Even if your Dobie is fixed, if her poodle is a male also, there could be conflict. If the poodle lived there first, he is going to have a territorial issue and your dog will feel submissive. A lot of conflicts to overcome between you and her already. It's a tough call. I wouldn't suggest putting you or your dog through it. You may not be happy because you couldn't have your dog. She might feel your resentment. Be cautious, either way.

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Good advice M2!:-),:-)
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thanks witt! Happy! Happy!
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Just straight out, is your dog aggressive or not? It's not like he/she can say "You're dog is still aggressive!!!" if your dog really isn't aggressive. I mean, my dog is part, only part, doberman, but he's not crazy aggressive. He's only protective of our property, but perfectly friendly anywhere else. So, if your dog is like that, then your dog shouldn't be living on campus.

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BENNY!! He's such a CUTIE! He didn't look dobie-ish in the pic w/ his sunglasses (love that!) & didn't look mean at all.
We haven't talked about getting a dog for a while. I want one, then I don't... can't decide. I don't want to deal with all the negatives -- sickness, vet bills, a multitude of different "doggie messes" all over... on the other hand, I wanna snuggle with a big, cuddly dog -- love 'em!
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Lol! I'll help you find one and I'll train 'em. :o
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I wouldn't have any trouble finding one; we've decided (IF we get one!), we're adopting from the ASPCA... 99% sure I don't want a puppy 'cause of housebreaking & they chew everything... well, I guess that's when you'd have to move in for a while & train my puppy!! =D
IF we do get one, it'll likely be an older dog who has less chance of being taken off "Doggy Death Row"... aww... :(
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You have nothing to do if he say no, bc you're sharing with someone else, you have to respect your roommate, be cooperative.

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Dobies like so many big dogs have a erroneous reputation for being aggressive and dangerous; you may be able to convince your roommate to accept your Dog, but what about the rest of your Dorm? Would it really be fair to your Dog to have you be on constant watch and nervous about the reactions of all those others? Dobies are at heart very gentle and sensitive and I worry that so much tension around could make him nervous and jittery.. Not a good thing for the Dog.:-(.

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Beautiful thought... especially that you took the dog's point of view.. and the other's in the dorm. "Very Thoughtful." Hapeeeeeeeeeeeeeyyy!
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Youre allowed pets on campus? Wow. How progressive. If youre in a dorm better check with the Housing folks first.

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If you mean on campus in the dorm, they won't allow dogs. Getting caught with one may get u kicked out. If in an apartment, many won't allow big dogs, and may charge extra money. Would take a big place, and they need a place to run/exercise. I have owned them before, they are good dogs but many people are scared of them.

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Have her meet your dog and she could just watch you interact with it first. Then after seeing it, she could start seeing its nice and will hopefully start to interact with it too. Good luck!

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