Once you realize who you are and what you are, other people's opinions are just that, their opinion. We can't control what others think about us and how they judge us. Just do your best to be yourself, some will like us for who we are, others won't, concentrate your time and effort on those who do and you won't have too much time to concentrate on those who don't.
Well my friend:p . If its not true you shouldn't let it bug you. Come on shay your a smart girl . It also helps to not over analyze everything . Next time someone says or does something just shrug it off and continue on with your day .
Ignore em and try to divert ur mind!
I really don't care what anybody thinks,I know who i am,and what I'm about.In the words of an old friend of mine...yeehaaaww,get bent!!
pay 'em a lick of nary no mind atall
Haters gonna hate. Ignore them or kill them with kindness :)
As a brony, I own some MLP merch and whatnot. I have random Fluttershy stuff in my room and a few MLP shirts. I have worn these shirts for months without getting any flack, let alone any comments. The only criticism I got was from my sister. She was convinced that I was gay and liked furry porn. I told her otherwise and that she shouldn't be quick to judge without looking at what I'm actually looking at. She was bugging me about it for a week after finding out, but I just kinda ignored her. She started to get less annoying, and to this day, she doesn't harass me about it.
The trick is to not give a crap about other opinions. Also, don't feel like what you are being judged on is something that is SUPPOSED to be judged. I wear pony shirts, but not because it's a statement. I wear them because I like it. Hope this helps.
Whenever the make a judgement about you or something you or your friends, just remember who it came from. If they are always judging people (or you), there probably isn't anything wrong with you- that person just needs to change their attitude. Just be who you are and don't worry about other people's opinions of you.
Simple. Do this, 'when they talk too much, you act too much'.
'The only way to answer your critics is through actions. Because critics use words to discourage. Critics use words to minimize in order to equalize. That is why I said, when they talk too much, you act too much. While they waste their time being judgemental, you use your time to do what you think is right and proper.'
Alright then, that is what I meant. Again, it is not must to agree with my ideas. Everyone is trying to say according to his or her views. Please, dont make it a big deal. If it doesnt make sense, skip the comment and do other things.
Unfortunately, I have three or four of them in my family. In my case, it's not so much judging me, as, well, basically anyone and everyone, so yes, I am included. It's more sarcastic remarks, with me, and put downs, at times. They, with the exception of my mom, (and yes, she's very judgmental) think they're the cream of the crop. I can't bring myself to speak my mind, even though these people need put in their places, so I just bear it.....though it aggravates me, immensely. I'm just glad I'm not like they are.
I am sorry for your past situation, merrill, and your still present, shaylen. Read your answer and comments, merrilltom. That is absolutely horrible. My heart goes out to you both. I didn't have abuse anywhere what you two did/do, but the mostly emotional abuse was there, growing up, especially with my dad, but so much less, I am sure. The best of luck to you, shaylen. Btw, nothing to be sorry about. :)
Guys, I have had the same problem growing up. My Dad is a wonderful Dad in many ways, but emotional abuse can come in so many disguised forms and being hurt was something I struggled with on a daily basis from him. And in fact still do. I thought for a while that I was just maybe too sensitive of a person, or I could maybe someday do something that would change things. But that's just not true. We all look at our parents growing up as these huge strong pillars of wisdom, but one day we cleave (separate) from our parents and we have to realize that we are now our own individuals. We are now the ones who will make an impact on someone else's life, for good or bad. We need to be strong, and proud in who we are.
Now I deal with my Dad in an entirely different manner. I love him, but I don't let him get me down with his attitude, what he says or how he treats me. Some people are just scrooges. :P
Merrilltom I disagree (can you believe!?) I think you put it better dear. ;)
Shayla, is there anything else you need to talk about? I know just talking can help heaps.
I'm going to have to run some weekend errands, if you're going to be online in an hour or two, I'll look for you. Ttys MissRia!
and Merrilltom, I still haven't heard your age! From what I gather, you are anywhere from 23 to 90. haha.
Heck Shaylen, write that paper on Sunday! And make it the best paper you've ever written :) That will be something you can hold your head up about. :D Also a study buddy might be helpful.