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What do I do when I find out that my real dad is not my real dad should I get mad at him stay calm or not talk to him?

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Stay calm, definitely. He is your real dad if he raised you.

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its not his fault,he probably treats you good

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I'd probably start with being confused!...Yes?

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Stay calm, negative emotions are never good. I know it's hard now but in time you'll organize your thoughts and work things out. He may not be your dad from birth but he decided to take care of you and that's good enough. Best wishes to you.

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Thanks you so much :) I am so happy I actually acted like nothing happened :)
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Thanks, Lady Wood! Nice to see you. :)
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Alexandra, I'm glad you have such rationality in you. Keep that up and you have a good future. :)
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Life is too short to be mad. Where is your real dad? If this man has been kind and supportive of you , you have no reason to be mad ,Sit and converse and ask questions, but respect him for what he has done to make up for the dad that couldn't.

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Well keep calm no one would blame u if ur mad but stay calm and if he raised you good then he like your real dad cx

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Your REAL dad is the man who has always been there for you, loves you and cares about you. If he is not your biological dad, so what? You are lucky to have him!

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hi noreen..nice
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Nice and heart warming :)
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Hi Toni! Thanks to the both of you!
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most welcome:)
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Be thankful for the guy who's not your real dad. If you know why your real dad's not in your life, I guess you can get mad for a while, but remember to forgive soon enough.

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Well if he loved you enuff that he appeared to you as your dad stay calm and love him back

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That gentleman thats been feeding you, clothing you, housing you, loving you for all those years is your "real" dad. Remember that.

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I KNOW I WOULD MAD!!!but calm down he is your father if he loves u treats u well and helped raise u he was just trying to help survive and help u he's been your father up till now why stop loving him now?

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No because he is your father. A father is somone who rasies u.

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I don't know all the details of the situation but generally speaking, I would say that the man who raised you is your real Dad. If some other man just planted the seed and took no responsibility for you, I'd say he wasn't much of a Dad. Of course I don't know if that's what happened because you don't say.
Unless there is some other reason to be angry with him, just treat him as a real Dad. Did he treat you like a real Daughter?

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say hey dad i miss you and love you Idk why you left but im glad your hear now you stay calm and then you appreciate the guy that was there when your dad wasn't and always keep him in your heart he was there like a father figure when you dad wasn't and you mend your relationship with your real dad by talking to him asking how he has been and then ask him why and hang out with him and tell him how you felt when he left so he understands your pain.

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The man who raised you is your real dad even if you dont share genetic material. Dont be mad or stop talking to him. On the contrary sit down and TALK to him. Ask him about it. Biology doesnt necessarily equate 'real' anything.

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Before you found out how much love have you had for him ? My guess is that nothing has changed, you are just shocked. Blood does not make a father a father. It takes a real man to father a child well and a better man to father a child that's not his own blood.

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You shouldn't be mad. If he took care of you and you never met your "real" dad, well then I guess the "fake" dad cared more for you than the "real" one, no?

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Why are you going to get mad at him for.....?
He raised you .... you look like you have a nice life so ......
Just remember he sacrificed many things to raise you that deserves respect ....

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No do not get mad. He must Love you like you were his, very sweet and honorable for a Man to do....

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Thank you so muck I appreciate it :)
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Stay calm because it could be for the better or a good reason why you 're just knowing about it . Maybe to protect u and take better care of u for example.

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stay calm

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try to stay calm but its not always easy..........i would be a lil upset

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try to stay calm. How did you find out? How you found out and how he talks to you about it is SOOOOO important!

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STAY CALM. If you should be mad at anyone, your mom. Not jumping to conclusions bet what if she cheated? If he is her second husband, and had u after marriage, then idk, stay calm

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