9 months ago
Last edited at 10:02PM on 3/10/2013
id like it if feelings wouldn't come up in the way. more then likely feelings will follow after you "bang" so many times. I've never done it my self but i couldn't see how it would ever work. but if it does work i guess its better then finding some one on the corner of the street late at night.
Personally, I think it is stupid and shallow. If you cant commit to a real relationship then you have other things to work on besides having sex. Work on your personality... Work on interpersonal skills. I would never marry someone that had a friends with benefits relationship with someone... because that person is going to have other problems to bring into the relationship besides the STDs
as much as some people enjoy it your really not benefiting anything from friends with benefits because would if you do it with the guy and you end up knocked up and he leave you and would if you start actually developing feelings for that person one or the other will get hurt or would if the other person is not only doing you but someone else whose to tell that person wont have anything also and would if you get into a relationship its goodbye friend and down with the relationship either way it wont work out for long
If both of you are single and your not getting together for benefits more than an occasional romp it can be great. If either of you start to develop feelings for the other it needs to be ended immediately or it may end badly. Find someone you love and stick together is my best advice.
Once you share personal intimacy, it's very hard to remain just friends. The platonic nature of friendship excludes the intimacy of a sexual relationship. So friends with benefits is perhaps just another word for an uncommitted sexual relationship- one where you retain positive regard and limited expectations of exclusivity. It's almost impossible to keep from developing feelings for your "fwb" and thus expectations. And since it keeps you from having a secure relationship in which a child can be raised, it's not the best for self, family or state. Sum: Hard to do, hard on two, not good for you.