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What if your mom doesn't want you to hang out with your best friend but you have been friends with her for half of your life? What do I do?

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you do what your mom says,unless you are paying fir the house and food

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see her less and ask for moms reasoning.

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I would find out why... but you still need to respect your mothers wishes. At least until you are on your own and pay your own way in life.

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Your mom does not let you go out this time but not forever, so I think the best solution for you is just to wait for another time to go out.... She might change her mind later on

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You get upset, argue, attempt to negotiate, find out there is no winning, and accept your mom's judgement in defeat.

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Never.
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You would tell this to my 12 year old daughter! Here's the rest of the story the mom to the BFF is never home, the 16 yr old sister takes care of their house who just gave birth to a child she can't support, when I did let her stay the night there she watched the hills have eyes part 2! No this BFF is three yrs older than my daughter wears make up n is into boys after me repeatedly telling her and her BFF my kid not allowed to wear makeup she comes home with it on. No this BFF is not a good influence on my kid!
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Yeah, I've learned to trust my mom. There's no winning with her! No matter how hard I try.
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"Wears make-up and is into boys"... Well part of that is backwards...
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No u r backwards
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Tell whether your mom is thinking of you, or herself.

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I am her mom! I have a life but 12 year olds are a little young to lie, wear make up and watch the hills have eyes so no she is not allowed there and she will be in trouble for being on here at 1am when she has exams in the morning!
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Okay, first thing; your question is asked in the eyes of your daughter, even if it's just me.
Second thing; your daughter has been lying since she could break a vase, you probably just never caught them. Plus, you lied throughout childhood as well, even if they were small ones, so... yeah.
I do agree with you on The Hills Have Eyes, I wouldn't watch it even now, aside from how cheesy most horror flicks are.
And have you tried just talking to her? Letting her know what you think instead of grounding her for getting home late when you didn't give her a time to be home? Most kids don't pay attention to the time, unless they have an obligation.
You could also try rewarding her, though it never worked for me.
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That's a tuffy. I would probably still stay in touch with that friend and talk to her just to keep her friendship. Don't invite her to your house your go to her house because this will just make your mom not trust your friend more. I had a friend who drank and did drugs and my mom didn't like him. I told him to stop and eventually he did and my mom started to let me talk to him more. Just let your mom understand this is a friendship you don't want to lose and if your friend truly cares about you they will do whatever it takes to make your mom like and trust them. It's a tough process but don't give up.

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Ok this is her mom! This girl is 15 yr old into boys makeup and lies also always unsupervised that's why her 16 yr old sister just popped out a kid now a drop out. Oh and they allowed my daughter who was 11 to watch the hills have eyes so no she will never be allowed there again period
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I would find out why and see if there is a compromise you can come to.

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She knows why we have talked about it. The girl is older three yrs lies puts make up on my kid and both girls I do allow it and oh they are unsupervised at the other girls house
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Oh this is her mom!
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I would let them hang out at your home only where they can be supervised. And I would reach out to the older girl. The fact she is older and wanting to hang out with your daughter is a sign she needs and wants help and guidance. You need to give her a set of guidelines to stick to in your home. If she breaks any of them she will not be allowed back at least not for a set amount of time, kind of like a reverse grounding.

One of two things will happen, she will get tired of the arrangement and move on, or she will hang out more because you are giving her the structure she needs and wants. You could be the key to her not turning out like her sister. I realize you are not her mother, but she doesn't seem to have much of one.
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why isn't she lettn you hang with her

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Cuz she is three yrs older, into boys makeup and lies. Oh and they allowed my kid to watch the hills have eyes which my kid knows is not allowed.
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Oh this is her mom! Lol
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take your moms advice it seems like your mom is sensing something about your friend she does not like or want around you and especially because she doesn't want you getting hurt or dealing with drama from someone else shes simply just protecting you she cares and all moms want there daughters happy and not dealing with sadness or drama or bad friends

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don't tell your mom

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But u will get caught by your mom like my daughter has done!
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risk have to take. did when I was a youngun.
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And did u pay the price? Cuz she will!
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lol, believe me, a many a time behind the wood shed with a switch in my mother's hand
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when you can't spend time with her, write her hand written letter's. absence makes the heart grow fonder, if she really is your BFF, then she will be. mom's have good intuition, give her a chance.

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