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Why does a guy back off of a girl if he likes her?

I have a guy friend I met last semester in college and I am very attracted to him. He has a habit of texting me and goofing off (practically flirting) and then the next day he's distracted. I mean he still responds every time I text him and when we have breakfast with a bunch of other friends he'll talk to me and pay more attention to me than anyone else, but he seems very distant. One of my friends says that because he's a guy, he doesn't realize he's flirting. Another friend said that because he went through an awful break-up last semester where his heart was crushed, he's trying to keep his feelings in check. Does a guy back off from a girl if he really likes he to protect himself? Or is James backing off because he doesn't want to give me the wrong impression when we get too close emotionally?

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There's two things that might be happening here. First, you might be assuming too much from him. Be practical with your assumptions too and think that he may not like you as much as you think he does. Talk to him about things to clear the air. Second, you might be right with your theory about the breakup from before. If he knows you like him it CAN be a bit awkward for him to interact with you full on as it's not easy stepping in back to the dating scene after going through a break up. It all depends on how you deal with it. So? If you really want to know suggest you talk to him and ask him what's his deal is so you don't let this get to you too much. Good luck.

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he's scared you make the first move

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because he's shy

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do go with someone else or to surpise u or get bribed from someone

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If he is like me, he probably is protecting himself.

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Make the first move,ask him out :)..and are you from italy?

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Honestly, there are lots of reason. Maybe he doesn't really like her. Maybe he wants to keep his options open and play the field. Maybe that's just him being friendly. Maybe he's afraid of commitment. Everyone is different and you're going to go crazy trying to figure out why a person does what they do. If you like him, ask him out or move on.

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because he is rather waiting for u to make a move or he is scared that u dont like him like he likes u

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Lack of balls.

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Because he doesn't think you like him

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