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I'm in a relationship where me and my girl have set rules for dealing with the opposite gender.

If i deal with women, i get much grief over that fact. However,it doesn't seem to her to be a problem to deal with guys. Same type of conversations, but for her, her need to talk about any topic with the guys are justified. If we agreed not to talk to opposite gender, what should i do?"

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Tell her that she's being a hypocrite. Everybody has to deal with opposite gender customers in their job, if she's that insecure about what you're doing, then what is SHE doing? Maybe she's projecting, she thinks you'll cheat because she knows it's not below her to do it. The Beautiful Mrs.737 and I always tell each other about who we saw at work and what they said and how we flirted back, we can do this because we're secure in our relationship.

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"Stormy" Tony737 Good answer. Made me smile, thanks.
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If she is not following the rules that you two agreed upon, then you need to have a serious discussion with her. Both of you or neither of you should follow that guideline. If she doesn't stop this behavior I would break up with her.

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Patience is a virtue, Ninja-Jackie-san. Sometimes not, "kick" the chick. Agree.
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Thanks wolfie!
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don't worry about if you know what your doing just trying to be a friend to another girl be her friend don't let another girl choose who you should and should not talk to

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talk to a chic. she'll be angry. then she'll talk to a guy. then you can tell her you don't give a crap

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Tell her how you feel, and talk it over. She may not know its bothering you. Also, after you talk to her if she still does it, go and try to talk to other girls because if she can't change one small thing like that bothers you, then you need a new girlfriend. She obviously doesn't care enough about you

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Let me guess, the rules were her idea?

Have a discussion on the rules and make sure you both clearly understand what they are. Make sure they are equal for both people. Tell her you have the same expectations of her behavior as she does of yours. Tell her if she doesn't want to play by the same rules you are expected to play by, then you are going to go play somewhere else, with someone else.

Personally, I would steer clear of anyone who thought I should have a set of rules. They either trust you or they don't. And if they don't, the relationship isn't worth the time and effort. It is doomed to fail.

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She's being jealous. It's kinda an auto response from some people, which doesn't make her a good or bad person, but it's really not worth the grief. My opinion, it's pointless to be over protective and jealous - if a guy is going to run off with someone else, they'll do it no matter how overbearing I am.

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Address the situation without yelling at her because women are smart and if you yell she's going to use that as an excuse to not listen...tell her how you really feel and what you guys agreed on and if she doesn't take how you feel serious then there's a lack of respect there...relationships are never suppose to be one sided...if it's not okay or good for you then it's not good for her either...she's definitely has to follow those same guidelines.

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What should you do ? Find a cave and be prepared to live on berries and grass.

It's a very unrealistic approach to living in a modern day society where interactions with people of the opposite sex is 'forbidden'... not to mention ridiculous.

Let's call it what it is .. She is being shallow, selfish and severely controlling. She wants you to 'trust' her .. but refuses to trust you. There is no balance in that equation. An unbalanced relationship can not be harmonious and is doomed to fail.

TRUST is a key factor in a relationship. Yours is completely lacking. THAT is something you will need to work on .. otherwise, you are in for a bumpy ride!

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Sounds a bit controlling .. You guys shouldn't have rules on your relationship of what you should and shouldn't do .. I know it's always a jealousy stage where you both will think talking to the opposite sex could lead to cheating, but if you trust her she should be able to enjoy have friends of the opposite or same sex (same with you) without there being any grief on why both of you shouldn't and shouldn't talk to certain genders ...

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Thank you, this question is not about cheating. It is about the rules.
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