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When should an adult child be kicked out of their parents house?

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When they are considered perfectly capable of supporting themselves but are obviously free loading for as long as possible. Note that children in college should not be just "kicked out" because they will have to divert focus from school and their education can suffer.

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About 18 or 21

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teenager age

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well it depends on the adults and the child

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When they choose to longer Obey their parents rules.

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when they're finished with college

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When they're 18, kick 'em out.

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Why will u kick your kid out at 18 ...that's just not good
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They should move out and be independent once they're 18.
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They should not be on their own at the age of 18
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Then what age?
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They can't live and depend on their parents forever...
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18 isn't forever
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Then when should they get kicked out?
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They should have a job or something that they're able to live on when they're 18.
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What if they are in college? Why 18 specifically? Personally I'm 24 and live with my parents. Why? I moved back after college - and yes I paid 100% for the apartment and college during that time - I pay 1/2 of the bills, and this way I can focus my income on paying off student loans in under 3 years because I can quadruple my monthly loan payment by redirecting what it would cost for rent somewhere else. It's an economic win-win.
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I think it's great you and your parents can work that out.
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Thanks. I don't think there's a one-size-fits-all answer to every situation.
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I loved having my children visiting at that age and they would bring lots of their friends and we'd all make cereal and talk in the big kitchen or if I made some chili or something they'd all eat me out of house and home and I loved it, just loved it. And they were ways respectful -we need to base out decisions on how we'll be remembered...as a good, kind person or a mean ole grouch. I'm glad I was the type of parent who really love my kids and also the friends they chose .
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When they arent in college and are sitting around getting a free ride. Kids in college deserve a break as long as they are doing well. Ditto with first job so they can save enough money to get an apartment. Set a deadline for that and insist on effort and progress.

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It all depends upon the circumstances. My Aunt lived "at home." She had an excellent job, and they always shared expenses. She was eventually able to purchase their home enabling them to have a more comfortable retirement. They also had excellent care and were able to avoid going to nursing homes! Sometimes, parents and children get along wonderfully and the living conditions benefit all. :)
Freddy the Freeloader is a different tale.

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18. (my age)

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I chose to leave at 18, but whenever the individual can support themselves on their own.

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18 or 19

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Believe it or not, but age really has less to do with it than you realize. What is more important ... Is ability.

We as parents, should be preparing our children .. Preparing them to learn all the skills they will eventually need to be able to live on their own. It's called nurturing. Nurturing hones skills that will enable a child to interact in the world. It hones skills that support independence ... Not dependance.

Make no mistake .. Once the child has learned the skills ... There also has to be a component of balance between knowing what to do as well as being able to do it. Self confidence and enthusiasm are also components that play a key role.

A parents job doesn't end when a child finally moves out on their own . There will always be a very definitive role between parent and child. There will always be a need for support .. Not as much financial support as it would be moral support.

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Such an excellent answer. That's is what I call good parenting and there's very few who can really do it like this.
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I don't believe an adult child should be Kicked Out. I believe when a child is old enough to get a job and able to support themselves, then it's time to move out of their parents house. Maybe around the age of 20 or 21

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I agree. It never entered my mind ro "kick" a child out. They pretty much want to leave when they're ready. And it's usually around that age or close ro it.
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I'm guessing at the age of 20... Or if the person can provide for himself.

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Omg!! Hey!!!
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Hey!!
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Lol I miss you sooo much.
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Lol. I was gone for a long time?
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No. xD
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Lol I miss you too. But I'm still grounded. So I might just show up in here like once a week, or maybe twice a week.
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Ok Justin.....
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Is that a bad thing or a good thing?
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Both. :(
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Why? Don't be sad. Next Friday is my birthday.
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I know....
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What?!? How?!?
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You told me when your bday was and I remembered....
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Lol. I don't remember telling you that. Oh well, at you didn't say you stalk me. Lol xD
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Oh....
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Lol ok.
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Ugh D':
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"Should" Makes the answer vary based on the situation and circumstances.

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Interesting....
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Not really........................But your amount of dots used are.
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Haha!! They're called "periods". :P
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I slightly chuckled when I read that...( I hope you don't get why )
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Because you're immature? :)
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Sure. Let's go with that.
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Lol :D
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Good day?
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Indeed. xD
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Indeed. Pip-pip. Cheerio. And a spot of tea and a crumpet.
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Are you thinking in a British accent?
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Possibly so. Possibly...............So.
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Do you think in a Mexican accent?
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No, I think in ASL
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Wait........That doesn't have an accent!
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Haha yup
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Yup. Yep. Yee-haw. Si. Orale. Simon.
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Lol xD
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Did you understand some of those?
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Yeah?
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Oh, Very surprised. Very surprised. Good job, you get a nod of approval.
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Lol don't treat me like a baby. :P
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I am?
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Aww poor baby ^3^
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I demand to be respected! Lol
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I respect you. ^3^
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Too bad. You must be older than me, (Or my wife) to get my respect. >:3
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Lol not cool.
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Yeah, because you are involved. >:)
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I love you Lauren!! ^3^?
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......Well....
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Awkward
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Hmm....I don't like being involved in between two lovers....
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^3^?!
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Huh? Since when was I a lover?
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I was joking....Let's just calm down. Agreed?
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>3<?!?!?!?!?!?!
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I am sorry....but what is that? " >3< "
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Frustrated version of ^3^
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What is that "^3^"?
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Dear Jesus... Lol
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Kissing face. I think.
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That doesn't look like Jesus...
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Oh. Why are you making kissing faces?
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Lmao
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Put it back on. No one should live life @ssless.
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Hmmmmmm
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Why the "Hmm"?
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*thinking*
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Alright. Think away.
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Yay!!!!!
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No need to be excited. You can think when I am not around.
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Haha sorry :P
I'm hyper right now, I had too much sugar. xD
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I find the conversation between Nazzy and Defiant One a good read. It is right below my answer.
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I know!!! I read it. Lol
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So...are they .....to put into non-light terms, "Obsessed" over Ms Lauren?
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Apparently
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Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
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Why no ^3^ Lauren?
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Oh I get it now! You are asking for a kiss! i am learning....
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I'm not allowed to kiss boys while I'm dating. :P
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If you are a lady, then why are you kissing boys? That is statutory!
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Your not dating anyone!!
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Soooo how are you doing?
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Great. Being kicked out of my own convo. Now I know how it feels.
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Haha now we're even.
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Well....Sorry! Lo Siento.
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Can I have a cookie? Please?!
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Sure. Here you go, A virtually cooked cookie by Margo herself.
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*Marga
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Lol yay!!!!! Nom nom nom.
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Hm. Guess it was good?
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Yeah!!
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Alright. I will Pass the word to Chef Trevino that her cooking is great.
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Tell her I said gracias. Lol xD
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Woah. You just assume she doesn't speak ENGLISH! How offensive!
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Hah! Don't be offended. :(
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Well, she doesn't speak English, so no offense taken.
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Mm mn ok
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This conversation is going nowhere fast. What's your favorite color? :p
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Yellow and yours is blue.
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Mind-reader. That is you.
Awesome. That is me.
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Lmao!! ^_^
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Ugh. Again! You really should see a doctor about that. If your @ss just falls off, that is never a good sign.
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You really think it's serious?
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Maybe. I would be concerned if Marga's @ss just fell off. Or my own.
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I would assume..... O.o
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Assume what?
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Nothing.....
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Nothing....Like the rain in the Tijuana.
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Huh?
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Nevermind. -_____-
This conversation is going nowhere fast!
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You say that a lot.
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Well, I take my leave!
I won't see you for about a month. Bye, Lauren Ashley. (I remember) :)
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Wait, a month? Why?!
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Legally, 18..

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Ha! Lauren is gonna be able to
Move out in a year and then WE will be together!!! >:D
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..If you say so...
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Bwahahahaha!!!!!!!!
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So whats up?
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I'll move to where she lives then we will be together FOREVER!!!!
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...Sure.
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She will be mine forever!!!
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What makes you think that?
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Cuz I'm an adult. And you're just a kid! >:D
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Kids are awesome. :D
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Yeah we'll are you paid $10 an hour? NOPE!!!
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..What does money have to do with anything?
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I can take care of her. AND I love her :)
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But I love her more.
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No you don't!!!
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Yeah, I do.
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How do
You know that you love her more than me?
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Well, how do you know that you love her more than me?
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Touch.
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We are evenly matched.
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*Touche
Hey, I'll brb.
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Except I'm older and more mature than you!! XP
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What does age have to do with anything? Lol
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I'm more developed than you!!!!!
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Hey Andrew, Nazzy is at school right now. :P
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Hahaha. I'm in spring break!!! Why aren't you in school Lauren?
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if their in college dont kick the out yet untill they finish studying or untill they are ready 2 leave the house but have 2 follow your rules afer they are 18 if they dont do as u say kick them out dont let them be lazy

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I'd say give the kid enough time to learn how to stand on their own two feet. Unless you're me, I am an exception...

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Why?
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I'm recovering from brain surgery, I lost all ability to walk and couldn't feel most of my right half afterwards
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Damn dude. Are you gonna be alright??
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I'm here aren't I?! Here, and left-handed...!
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But are you going to get better?
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It looks like it so far
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Were you right handed before?!
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Yes
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Woah that's crazy.
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It's not normal
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It depends on the situation. Can he or she afford or is capable of living on their own?

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It should be at age 18.... :)

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