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How can I tell my mom a friend I met online wants to come see me?

So my mom always says not to talk to people online I don't know, because she thinks I'll just find pedophiles. I'm smart about stuff though and don't give personal info and stuff.

Anyways. I've been friends with this guy since he was 17 and I was 14. I know he's actually a real person because we've video chatted, called each other, and I've seen tons of his pictures. We're really great friends and he wants to come see me so how can I tell my mom? I mean should I just let him show up at my house and tell her then or what? Thanks in advance~

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Take a friend with you, meet in a public place! and tell your mom!

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just tell her the truth. it may get you in truoble but its the best way to say something

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Tell mom and don't expect her to be very happy the way you went against what she told you.

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I would have to agree with Hector, have another guy friend with u or atleast a few woman, and then go somewhere. Then u can tell ur mom u met him for real and then Later when/if u guys see eachother more u can tell her then. But anything gos wrong and do what Hector said lol!! :)

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My answer was removed awww no ur answer is a Q cuz ppl are going to say " what did Hector said" I'm sad now hahaha
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why was it removed
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Idk haha it had nothing insulting or sexual
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He said to kick the man in his (very sensitive spot) if he tries something stupid! Lol hahaha but ya that stinks.
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Oh yeah well that was my opinion. And sowy if I insulted someone
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I don't see how, it's self defense people! Lol
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I know right and even on school they tell the girls to punch the guy In their &$@) and run if they are being sexually assaulted
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Exactly!
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True
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I liked Hector's answer best! haha too bad it got deleted.
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Ya I know. :/
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You moms right! I wouldn#039;t meet him anywhere other than home. How long have you known him and not by your age. If its not 2 years than no. If you can#039;t meet under those terms then you are taking a risk. And if he won#039;t meet you at home he is up to no good. And if you ages are still you 14 and him 17 then you could be considering statuatory sexual assault if anything occurred consenting or not. very bad idea to meet without telling your mom even with your friends. then se will never let you meet. or have him charges with sexual assault depending on your ages. dont sneak around if you want to be treated like adults then do the appropriate thing an adult would do. i still have pics from missing person cases like this

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Thank you. I was asking How I should tell my mom, so don't worry I'm going to tell her one way or another.
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thats very good make sure you tell your mom first and just tell her the complete honest truth and never go alone i lost a very close friend from something like this
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you never said how old he is now, so if he is 18-- that makes you jail bait. ask Mom what that means when you ask permission for him to come over. If he will not come to your home for at least 6 dates, then blow him off. You still do not really know him. ask to meet his family also before an actual date. 3 years is pushing it at your age; believe me , I know and remember.

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He's 19 and I'm 16. We're friends and nothing but. I would meet his parents, but he's traveling from another state. Thank you for our answer though.
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Dont' DO NOT give out wheree you live! pedophiles are smarter than you.. belive me! &&
if you your hell on bent meeting him I STRONGLY say you need to first tell your mom!
Take a friend with you, meet in a public place! and make shure someone your ''mom'' knows where you are cus if something did happen to you, and you didnt tell anyone where you went and who your with something bad happens then no one can find you cus you didnt tell any one where you wher going or who your with / your' mom loves you shes not trying to be mean.. You know if a 5 year old wants to eat only cake for dinner / well you would say no cus they are going to get sick, but they dont know that they think cake sounds good!! you understand what im saying.. yo mom been there done that and knows more than you think.. ps. and dont go to his house either!! [guys that age want sex dont give it away] GOD BLESS:0

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Thanks for the advice, but I'm 100% sure he's not a pedo.
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Your welcome:) I meet a guy that i became firends with.. or i thou anyways, we talked back and forth for almost 2 yrs and when i meet him he was a real nut!?!?!?!?! nuthing like he was on line .. all he wanted was sex:( and i feel for it.. I know your going to do what you want but plz be safe!! if your not going to tell your mom tell your best firend where your going and show them a pic of the guy your meeting okay chica:*
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And We're just friends. LOL He's gay.
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Haha that must have sucked. Yeah don't worry all my friends are facebook friends with him and they know what he looks like and even talk to him sometimes. Thanks again!
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even tho he says he is gay STILLLL be very very cautios
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Haha don't worry. I am.
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I would tell your mom and have her come with you to meet him in a public place. That way you are not alone so he can't try anything and so your mom can become comfortable with him, and eventually with you being alone with him.

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Good idea. (: Thanks.
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First, she's going to be PO'd because you didn't listen. If and when she agrees, listen to everyones advice above. Go with a friend to a public place, letting mom know where you are. Bring phone. It's possible he's legitimate, but there are too many crazies out there to be so trusting, good luck !

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you should tell her your going to the mall to see a friend when you go to the mall have alot of friends with you and tell your online friend that your gonna have friends with you for your protection just be very careful if he is ok with that thats a good sign if he is not dont meet him it could be bad but if you do meet him make sure you have lots of friends with you

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Thanks! Good idea.
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