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Is my friends 7 year old daughter getting too close to me?

Ive been getting close to my friends 7 year old daughter. i like her. she's gotten very compfortable with me. jumps and climbs on me whispers in my ear she even wanted to cuddle when watching a movie with me. but in this day and age of sex offenders and kids can say anything and the police will believe the child. im only allow myself to be with her with another adult present. but even with another adult present what is an appropriate amount of touching i should allow her to touch me. when she wanted to cuddle when watching a movie i was honored cause she likes me and i like to cuddle but it scared me also cause of way things are today what would be considered appropriate and inappropriate?

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Nah, unless you don't want to get close to her. Kid will attach themselves to any adult they get to know. :)

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The fact that you even have to ask, tells me it is inappropriate.

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I can understand his concern... I "used" to be that way...
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It just means you have a shadow which is good. He/she thinks of you as a roll model. If I were you though I would limit time with them. Good luck :)

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if you have to think about it this much its wrong there is nothing wrong with telling kids to get away from me and the way it sounds it might keep you out of jail

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I'm going to be very real with you.
Calm the F*ck down...lol
It's only awkward if you make it awkward.
My wife has 2 children that aren't mine. I love them very much and although my situation is on a different level than yours. I felt the same way but then I learned to get comfortable and not really think about it.
The boyo hugs me... I'm not really into young boys hugging anyone but he's a sweet kid.
The daughter has fallen asleep multiple times on top of me while we watched t.v. and I throw that little girl in the air and catch her, dance with her, and spin her around until she can barely stand up straight.

Before my wife I had a friend with a 10 year old daughter who loved the crap out of me... I was her "big brother". I did the same stuff... I even gave her raspberries (blowing on the stomach) and she kissed me on the cheek for goodnight.

only awkward if you make it so.

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sooo true you should explain to him not to put sex offender and kids in the same onversation

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Oh yeah, don't ever joke or even mention... infact! don't even think about SEX OFFENDER! They will freak out and then trust will deplete quickly.
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It's too bad that some sickos have to ruin things for the rest of us. Just treat her naturally and don't worry about it. I understand your concern I used to be pretty close to a 4 yr. old girl. You kind of do have to be aware of others perceptions but not let it get in the way.

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It is better for you and her to keep the safe distance.

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kids only do this with people that are In fact good people if you have won this child over so much you ARE a good person kids know. as long as you know you are not doing anything wrong its fine or ask your friend if he has ho problem with it. you and your friend are obviously close chances are your kids will love him like his daughter love you.
your friends daughter considers you a second dad. that is a real honer.

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But.... To be on the safe side(because there are some people out there that are always looking for something to lookinappropriate!) hug her from the side! Not front to front! No lips!
Always pat her on the head!
Little girls have no clue how they might look to others when they are so enjoying this'father figure'. Its all up to how YOU behave!
If you tickle or touch.... Do it only for seconds.... And then STOP. Tell her YOU need a break!Or just get up and move around a bit!
When she is 10. TOTALLY back off. Treat her like a young lady and tell her so:" you are a you g lady now- not a kid".still hug side to side/ cheek kisses .as she gets older:
Take her on a 'daddy-style 'date to a fast food--- to talk and enjoy each
others company/-across the table.
You will be developing a life long friend. And teaching her what to look for in a future boyfriend!

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