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Should I go to my ex boyfriends birthday party tomorrow night. His new girlfriend (that doesn't like me) will be there with her friends.

I still have feelings for him and he knows that. he cheated on his girlfriend with me for a while but we stopped because we both knew it was wrong. he also cheated on her with somebody else too. we have been friends for almost 9 years.

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no thats stupid don't go...if you go your going to ruin his party plus he has a girlfriend ......

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How would I ruin his party?
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fine f... Go
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It was just a question
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yeah well , if you want to go then go i just gave you me opinion based on what you said...
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all I'm saying its not a good idea.. Because chances are theres going to be drama maybe not from you but for sure his girlfriend ... Just think it through
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agree with you hawk. specially when his present girl friend is there.
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Okie dokie
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good morning im curious did you go....?
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Yes I did.
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how did it go
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It was okay. He came over to my house unexpectedly after the party with my friends and wanted to fool around..
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wow thats sad and he still with his girlfriend
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Yeah.
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I think it would just be drama and heartache for you. My opinion is NO!

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Drama?
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yah I think they would not treat you well at all. :(
I think it would be just drama for you, not fun.
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Well they clearly dont like me? I know that already. Thanks for pointing it out tho
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your welcome. its hard when you've been friends for nine years. im sorry you have to go through this
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I went
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No! not even worth it.... Most likley will turn into a fight or something...AGAIN...not worth it...;)

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We are still friends and stuff. And we fight all the time anyways. As much as a couple except when we dated we didnt ever fight. But he cared about me enough to invite me because he had to ask his girlfriends permission to invite me
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Well then in that case then that would be ok..... i hope everything goes well!..;)
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Everything should be fine...we still talk everyday
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no. do not go. have respect for yourself and avoid the trauma/drama

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How does not going make it so I have respect for myself??
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You have feelings for a guy who you yourself said is a two timer. Why would you put yourself in a position that either you would need to defend yourself to his now girlfriend and her friends or even worse to defend his actions? If you are friends then tell him happy birthday but stay away from the party. Respect yourself enough to say I am mature enough to recognize a bad situation and stay away
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His girlfriend knows that he cheated on her so I dont really need to defense anything
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oh but your being there makes a statement even if you don't want to admit it. What type of statement do you want to define yourself with. The party is 1 night out of 10,000 nights of your life. It is your life choices not ours. I would choose not to go. On so many levels.
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What do you mean statement?
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His girlfriend does not like you. You have admitted he is a player. I am not sure how old you are but if you are at least 13 you should be able to figure it out. Ultimately it is your choice. Choose wisely and with the focus on your well being.
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I'm not 13.
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nopenonononnope~ thats just wrong

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Why?
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i'm sorry, i read the word 'cheated' and it doesn't matter who cheated, it's just wrong to know that you were 'with' someone who already had a gf~
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It happens. It's in the past. I clearly know it's wrong. Thanks ?
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NO! If you don't want a fight to break out or any bad you should not go at all!

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A fight? Between who?
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This question is bringing back memories from like yesterday. my best friend broke up with his girlfriend who was going to his party on Sunday, but no you shouldnt.

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Is she still going?
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no she's not thank god
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You need this guy like you need a bad cold.

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I need boys like a fish needs a bike
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No, it's time to move on and find someone new.

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We still talk everyday. He's one of my closest friends.
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It's not exactly the easiest thing to move on..
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Nothing in life that has to do with love is easy, but it seems like you two would be better off just being friends. Remember, he cheated on her with you, and then cheated with someone else, is this really what you want to end up with? How long would it be if you two got back together that he cheated with someone else on you. See where I'm going with this?
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Yes but when we dated we hung out EVERYDAY. Went everywhere together. Even camping. Spent the night at each others houses. He didn't have time to cheat. We were really open about everything
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You can't be with him 24 hours a day, could you trust him not to cheat?
The problem with this picture, and I understand you still want to be with him, but the biggest problem I see is that you're not together now, even if you hang out, he's with someone else, not you.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, if he wanted to be with you as a girlfriend, you would be together right now, he's in the friend zone with you. And that's still not a bad thing, it's just really hard on you watching him with others. I think if you seem to be moving on, you might get some sort of rise out of him to say, damn, I'm gonna lose her. He might just see you in a different light, one that he doesn't want to lose.
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That actually helped a lot. Thanks ?
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Good luck girl ;)
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And actually I do trust him a lot. If we dated again I would trust him to not cheat
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true
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Well I've been talking to other guys. He gets mad when I even look at any boy that's not him. He's a really jealous person but it doesnt work like you think
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Ooh, it will, give it time.
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I went
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So, how did it go? I really would like to know?
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It was fine. His girlfriend and her friends didn't say anything to me. They gave me dirty looks but that's it. I sorta had a good time. Not really. I cried when I got home. Took a shower and when I got out of the shower he called me and told me he was coming over with four of his friends. I thought he was joking but they really came over and he tried like touching me..
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No, don't do it!!

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I went
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What happened?
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Neither him or his girlfriend said anything to me. It wasn't great but it wasn't bad..
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