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Would it be wrong to date an older guy then you?

I'm 13 and he's 19 cause we both like each other but he's my brothers friend so it would be weird cause me and him always hang out together

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Depends on HOW MUCH older. Women live longer than men so when it comes to marriage, go for a younger guy.

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OK, not that you've added your ages to the question, 13 and 19 makes you "jail bait".
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On a dangling line with a shark swimming below.
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My pop-pop is 105....
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I think (and this is just personal beliefs) that he's too much older than you right now. If you were both adults it would be different. My dad is 12 years older than my mom, but they were both adults when they met.

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Yes, it's wrong.
The law doesn't allow that

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Yes, it would be very, VERY wrong. By the laws of most states, if you were to have sex, he could be arrested for statutory rape. You are below the age of consent, and he is, to all intents and purposes, an adult. So, don't do it.

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yeh agrred
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I dont know. Loretta Lynn married at 13 i think. She had a long happy marriage. For what 60 tears now?

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60 tears? That was comically ironic.
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Yet profoundly truthful in an overwhelming amount of cases
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Lol yeah years
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If you guys are happy then go for it your brother may feel weird having his best friend and sister date and probably might worry about it affecting his friendship with him cause i don't think your brother would stay friends with him if he hurt you but if hes not going to and you trust him and you both like each other and he doesn't pressure you into anything then go for it do what makes you happy life is to short to miss out on stuff that maybe good for you or make you even more happier as a person so i say go for it

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It is wrong because when he is 21 and your 15 it is illegal for him to do anything to u which makes dating boring

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It's illegal now

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it would be fine if you were not still in high school. there is 6 years age difference. he will move in while your still in school.

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13 & 19??? Yes, that's way too old for you at this age. I know he probably makes you feel very grown up, but your childhood is such a small portion of your life, you should enjoy and treasure it! Not to mention the fact that he's an adult, and you're a minor... In the eyes of the law, he's a pedophile.

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dont get pregnant what ever u do dont
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You are too young. He could be in legal trouble since you are under age. Give it a few years. If its meant to be waiting wont matter.

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Thanks for adding your ages to clarify the situation. He is legally an adult and you are a minor. It's not only wrong, it's a criminal offense.

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Honestly there is something wrong with a 19 year old who wants to go out with a 13 year old. He's a man.

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Age doesn't matter! Well.. Unless your 20 and he's 50...

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It does in the courtroom between a legal adult and a child below the legal age of assent.
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*consent.
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kazarina
20 & 50 is way more legal & acceptable than a 13 & 19 year old. What could he see in her. She's only a baby & he's an adult male. I'm sorry but it's wrong on many levels. Maybe the most important one morrally.
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Still.. Its gross
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A 50 yr old doesnt need to marry a 20 yr old! But 13 and 19 is better.. Still weird though lol
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kazarina
At least at 20 you have some worldly knowledge. You know the role of partners in a relationship.
At thirteen your dolls are barely packed away in the cupboard. You believed in Santa & the Easter bunny till recently too. What is wrong with society if they think this is acceptable. Thank god for laws against adults taking advantage of young children. I would like to know what the parents think of this prospective relationship.
A 20 year old understands about the plumbing of her body. A 13 year old is still learning about the birds & the bees out of a book or from a sex education film night. I would like to see if you thought this way if it was your 13 year old sister asking the question.
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I was just saying, and i totally agree with you and i know that its like illegal. But.. Um yea lol ^^
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Sorry I didn't mean to sound so stern. It's the seriousness of the question. Sorry.
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I think it's too soon because he's an adult and your still a kid. If you wait till your 18 it would probably be better

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6 years is a big difference. Plus, knowing many people your age like to "woohoo", he can be charged for statutory rape. Because he's a legal adult and you're a minor, I don't want you to get into any trouble. I know you like him, but I think you should find someone your age.

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That is a road of complete ruin
for the both of you...
Just a crude but factual observation you should both be reminded of.....
just because you have new boobs..
Doesn't mean you are woman

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kazarina
Hi Blades, I so whole heartily agree with you. this is such a dangerous situation for her to be in.
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It amazes me that children want to trade in their youth for what will inevitably be anyway..
Then sadly wake up to see all that has passed and will never be again
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Sorry Hello :)
these questions have a way of setting my manners aside
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She is SO fortunate I'm not her older brother!
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Blades, I can't pull up the question with the name of the book you mentioned. Will you tell me again, please? Thanks so much!
Btw, I cannot believe this question even had to be asked!
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The Re-education of Little Tree
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kazarina
At thirteen does she see herself as an equal to this man, emotionally, lifestyle & maturity wise & what does she think she would have in common with him to carry on a relationship. It was only a few years ago she was learning to tie her shoe laces. Will she understand his responsibilities to his job when he cant be on school holidays with her. If this wasn't such a serious question you would think someone was having a lend of you.
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@blades, thanks! I am not getting all of my notifications so I didn't realize you had given me the title again! I went to the library yesterday while I was out running errands and couldn't remember the title. I tried to pull up the question and couldn't. So, all that to say - thanks! Have a wonderful day! :)
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kazarina

At 19 he should be dating women not little girls. Your brother should step in & give his mate a good talking to. I really hope for your sake you see the danger you may be in. At 13 I was learning to apply makeup. Don't let any male rob you of your childhood innocence. Give it a couple of years & look in your age group or at most a year or two older. You are so in need of being protected in this instance.

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Thank you for bringing up the roll of her brother!
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kazarina
They aren't only born your brother to tease & taunt you. Her brother should think his mates a sicko creep to want to be his 13 year old sister' boyfriend.
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I agree kazarina!
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Unless he wants be charged with having a relationship with a minor Jesus people are stupid

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He is an adult, and you are a minor, in the eyes of the law. That being said, I think it is extremely inappropriate that a 19 year old want's to date a 13 year old, and you will find that most guys that do this have controlling behavior issues. My strong advice to you is DON'T DO IT. Look for someone your own age, I would say no older than 15.

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Glad you brought up the control issue. Guys like that often use their advanced years and experience to manipulate the young. They can't get away with that with women their own age. Star!
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Thanks Happy. Anyone can control a child, but it takes a real man tp handle a woman. lol
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I think you could date a guy that is about 2 years older than you. So........i wouldnt say over 3 years.

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thatoneguy97

no, 13 and 19, is not only illegal, but looks more like babysitting

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You're too yong, he'll get in trouble with the law.

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siesieu

probably wrong depends what you do. just be friends. if you were 15 and he was 19 that be different

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Actually, it would still be illegal. So it wouldn't make a difference.
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siesieu
i know but just saying its not as weird. im 15 i like an 18 yr old. but were not dating. and we dont talk no more. i knew him 4 ever. i am 15 lol . ur just crazy.
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FL12

You are to young to be dating a man of that age... he is an adult now and it would be illegal.

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