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What is the best thing to do when you live with the deaths of many because of war. If they lived we would have died

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As a Vietnam war Vet , I've lived with the deaths of relatives , friends and foes for many years . I often thought that maybe I shouldn't have come back and others should have . It's a deep feeling that I will take with me to the grave . I try to think of the good times we had and remember most of them in good ways . As far as if they would have lived and I would have died , has crossed my mind a few times . But that is life and war . War IS hell and the fact that I lived through it and went on to a successful life is what keeps you going . Mourn for the dead , but be happy that they gave their lives , so you could live .

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Thank you very much for your answer and service to our country
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Thank you from me as well for your service and dedication to our country. Enjoy your weekend!
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As a civilian who grew up in this great country we are all indebted to you for your service. And I for one am glad you did make it back.
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You're welcome ! Now this will be on my mind all day .
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Well big brother, I hope the part that stays with you today is the successful life. You're the best! I mean that! :)
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Thanks , little sister ! I've been real down lately and haven't been sleeping well . Always the faces ! After 40 odd years , I still can't forget .
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I've been a bit down too. Different circumstances, but too much loss in two short a time. This latest with cancer has taken a toll. I go back to memories that don't help.
So here we are. Sigh.
I'm glad I have you around. :) You can always make me laugh! I start to smile when I tug on that finger. (Sorry I broke/dislocated it!) Laughing and smiling makes things better. It really does change my body chemistry and set me straight. Hooray for family! The Fart Family rocks!
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I saw Marcus yesterday explain to shaylen that I was his Fart family brother ! Got a kick out of that ! Finger is starting to feel better and will be in action again soon ! Hope all goes well at home for you ! My best thoughts are with the Happy family !
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Dolce was laughing about being "little, little sister." Too much fun! Thanks for the well wishes! Back atcha!
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Be grateful

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The best thing to do is whatever brings you enough peace to get on with your life. If you saw your buddies die, as I have, you remember what they fought for and how privileged you are to have known and fought and lived beside them. You honor them. If you're considering the killing of those fighting against you, it is important to remember they would have readily done the same to you. It is not a sin to be glad you're still alive, it is cause to cherish that you are.

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cindysonthenet

Talk to them and thank them for what they did. Tell them that you are doing something with your life and how you are helping others. Tell their family members how much they loved them or something that you knew about them.Talk for them because they can't talk for themself. And yes they will hear you.

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your welcome. My husband was a pow in the vietnam war. and my father was killed in the same war. He invented a club called vietnamese americans for freedom in which they strive to fight communism around the world. It is now an international club. He has seen many people die as well and saved many lives too. I see him pray many times to the soldiers. and soldiers have contacted me and told me about my dad who died when I was like 4 or 5. that makes me feel better. Ppl might tell you its good to forget but its not and you cant and why should you. Just make them happy that they didn't die for nothing.
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Pray for their families to heal from their losses. Be grateful they did what they did so we can do what we do.

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Be a coscientious objector. If the government tries to force you to fight in war go to prison if you have to. That is my answer and I am sticking to it.

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