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My parents can see my every move. Everything I do on my computer, Phone, Messages, Calls, and what programs I open. I'm 13 about to be 14, do you think that they are overly protective? I do. It really sucks because I tell all my friends not to text anything they might regret because my parents will see it. The creepiest part is that they see all of these things without even needing to go look on my phone or computer. THEY CAN SEE IT FROM THEIR OWN COMPUTER! I'm also not aloud to have my phone in my room or be on electronics after 10pm. Someone please help me!

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DukeCityMuscle

(Remember, this answer is coming from a 52 year old man) I think your parents are being excessive but not evil. Consider all the news you hear these days about online predators, sexting, runaways, online scams, super-violent video games, etc. Parents get scared, and when they try to keep you safe, they can go overboard. Ask your parents for a sit-down talk and tell them you would like to negotiate a little more privacy. Tell them the freedoms you would like and tell them the things you will do to make sure you stay safe with that freedom. Be prepared for them to say no to somethings, maybe to some things and yes to a few. Remember, it has to be a NEGOTIATION-- you offer some flexibility, ask them for some flexibility in return. Maybe you can't get all the freedom you want but maybe they'll meet you half-way on a few of them.

BAD example: "I want to text whoever I want whenever I want, it's none of your business!"

GOOD example: "You've met a lot of my friends, are there any you would feel OK letting me text with and not monitoring our texts?

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Thank you!
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Not too shabby, Duke!
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It is very common for parents to be concerned about the activities that their kids do especially when they are your age. This is meant to protect you. Once you are old enough, you will get your own independence and your parents won't have to watch your every move.

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Same with me!!!!

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It's normal! Be thankful for them! They are protecting you, and don't say "there's nothing I be protected from" or "I can protect myself" I'm here to say been there seen that and don't care to ever again! My parents are not like that and I almost wish they were! As long as you don't do anything wrong, it shouldn't matter weather they see it!

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Course that's annoying, my friends dad can assess her computer and move her mouse and all that from his computer. Usually he just annoys us by googling thing we don't want...

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Dude your parents are crazy that just means that they don't trust you! You should give them a reason to think that you are responsible and they would eventually trust you and give you more privacy and freedom.

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I am a parent of three kids. They are 22, 21, and 13. My 13 year old feels like this too. I can sum it up to this... You are very young. You really have no clue what evils the world has. You feel like you know all there is to know but really you are clueless. Remember, we were your age once too. With age comes wisdom. And as parents it is our job to protect and guide you. In this electronic world we now live in, it is to easy for you to get in over your head and not even know it. Kudos to your parents for loving you and caring enough to protect you. Don't worry, they will loosen the reigns as you age and they deem appropriate. But realize this, you will always feel as though they don't trust you and are unfair. Until one day you grow up and thank them for being there for you.
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okay i see your point
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my parents are the same as yours ...but atleast i will be moving out soon....i.m 18 going on 19

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It's totally normal. Parants are like that.

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I think they are just being parents. My parents were exactly like that, and my grandparents are like that too (I'm an adult and they still don't let me on electronics when I'm visiting XP). You aren't doing anything bad so you shouldn't have anything to be worried about.

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Voglir

get used to it. maybe you'll turn out to be a better person for it. my parents used a spyware program to track me on the computer still didnt stop me from looking at adult sites or doing "adult" things

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help you with what? there is nothing wrong with what they are doing. If you don't like it then don't use it. They are your parents. They pay for those things.

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My parents are over protective also but I don't think their that over protective. It is normal for your parents to watch what you do on the computer or what you text and what your friends text you.

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my suggestion is having a talk with them and your feelings about it. tell them how old you are and also have really good reasons first ok. maybe using examples of your responsibility! good grades records ect.! :D

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Seems reasonable to me, given your age. Take on more responsibility around the house, and show them you've earned some independence.

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Hey, did you receive my comment earlier? If so, then just ignore this...thanks. :)
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Hey, Violet:) No, where?
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Under your Brown S. q...sorry.
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I commented there and on the ST. Pat one. I didn't know if you did receive the alerts or were just ingoring them. (I didn't want to bother.)
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did not, I meant.
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Lol, no, wasn't ignoring you. I don't receive all the same comments with the app, as with the web page. I'll be sure to look now:) .
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Hhmmm, I'd more likely share my entire name. I'm confident in the security of my identification. But I enjoy the anonymity of not sharing:)
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You're funny...but I get it. (I just wanted to ask since you read that question earlier.) All right, thanks. Talk to you later. :)
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Later, Violet:)
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It's a dangerous world for teens these day. Parents that don't keep a sharp eye on their teens often end up visiting their kids in jail, the hospital, or the graveyard, and asking themselves why they didn't pay more attention.

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Sounds good to me. What they are doing is called PARENTING.

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Sounds like your parents are doing their job as concerned parents. I congratulate them. My guess is .. When you have a young teen of your own, some day, you will do exactly the same thing...hopefully.

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My parents used to be like this.
They loosened up though.

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Try approaching it from a positive place. Instead of arguing tell them you would like a little more independence. Prove they have nothing to worry about and that will come around. They are being good parents, a little extreme but good. You need a little independence to show you can handle it. Technology might not be the way. Good luck!

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They are very over protective and unreasonable. Are they seeing you ask this question right now, though? If you're trustworthy, get goods grades and all that, your parents should grant you SOME privacy. They are being way too overbearing, and need to realize that you're growing older, need to be more independent, and the coddling has to stop.

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I agree with DukeCityMuscles. Tho, I think they are a bit over-protective. Ask them what their reasons are and why they are doing this, then come up with an agreement that will allow you privacy and them not to worry so much. Keep the communication with them open.

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Your parents love you - your parents just do not want you to fall into the hands of someone who is out there to exploit young ones - and for those teens that was not as fortunate - suffer a gruesome death at the hands of their predator - torture, extreme gruesome killing, slow and agonizing death and the likes - they do not want that for you. So, many people today are not what they appear to be and they are just protecting you against the many evil.

Please - do not fight them - allow them to see the mature side of you to give them the confidence that you can not be easily taken by the first set of "sweet words" or deceiveful act out there. Please be careful - they may feel - you are too trusting of people.

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Hi, im 13 so this may not be the best advice. I think your parents are very overprotective and they want to make sure your "staying out of trouble". My parents are weird about who I hang out with and I cant go over to peoples houses unless they no them well, this is a lower level of how your parents are, they want to make sure your friends aren't bad and they wont put peer pressure on you. Maybe you can talk to them about it and tell them your old enough to be independent on the web now, maybe they don't realize they are overprotective.

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A question you could ask yourself is whether you've given your parents any reason to not trust you. I think that the curfew they've provided is reasonable, because at 13/14 there is nothing that you should be talking about with your friends after 10pm and if you have nothing to hide it really shouldn't be a problem. After all, it is their god-given responsibility and they are doing these things because they are concerned about your welfare. What you could do is talk to your parents to find out why they feel these things are appropriate, then strive to understand their viewpoint, think about changes you could make and then discuss it further with your parents. Don't expect that things will go your way because they are the ones who make the final decision.

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Wow, your parents sound like mine. I don't even have a phone, but make sure you tell them your feelings or ask them how you can show that you are responsible and don't need them to be so....stalker-ish.

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Naskey13

Seems like you have it good.

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i am in the same position my checks all the internet history i am 14 going to be 15 in about 9to 8 months

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