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Is it stupid to wait for the perfect girl?

I've been single for quite some time now and I just feel like every girl I know or meet has flaws. I convince myself im waiting for the perfect girl... is that pointless? I'm not the best looking, most talented guy but I just don't want to date the perfect girl for me.

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For one thing .. there is no such thing as a 'perfect' girl (or boy) for that matter. So if you are looking for perfection .. you will be 'looking' until it's far too late even remember what 'perfection' is or what to do with it.

We are all human .. and as humans we are ALL flawed.

However, you have be able to find someone that 'fits' your needs .. and by that I mean someone who can compromise about those flaws on the same level as you do .. because you have to keep in mind .. YOU are also 'flawed'.

Besides .. if you 'wait' to find her .. how do you know you haven't already met her, but blew her off. You won't know if she is a good match for you until you get to know her first. You can't even scratch the surface of 'who' a person is on a first encounter.

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I would just keep waiting, then the one for you will just happen.

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no, it shows your mature and you'll wait for the one for you instead of just going for any whore,i have respect for you dude

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She's out there someplace and you know what, she's desperately trying to find you as well, keep up the search and I promise it'll happen when you least expect it...

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I love romance...
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If what you're saying is that you're waiting for the girl that "feels right" then of course you're not stupid. Why should you settle for anything less? However....if you are saying that you are looking for a flawless girl, yes, that is stupid.

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Everybody will have flaws so don't exactly strive for "perfect" because if you're going to be that close-minded then you'll be waiting for a long time.
Find a girl that suits you, keep in mind that she WILL have a flaw or two, but be sure she makes you happy. It is not "stupid" at all to wait for the girl you want. Don't give up hope.

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"Most people never find true love and marry out of fear of dying alone." -- Ms. Krabapple on The Simpsons

Only a fool thinks there is a "perfect" anything. The secret of not driving yourself crazy is to accept that the world is flawed, and that people are flawed, and that YOU are flawed, but that's OK and we can get by if we help people where they are incomplete and ask them to help us where we are incomplete..

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Are you seriously quoting "The Simpsons" ?
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Real love erases all flaws.

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Bingo!!!
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Sorry, but that's just not true! The flaws are still there.
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Yes they are Shelia, but flaws don't seem as evident when you're in love.
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Nobody is perfect so yes it is stupid

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Don't settle! You will have the rest of your life to regret it.

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no, if u mean perfect girl as true love

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When I found my split apart, I discovered that his flaws were so outweighed by his goodness and perfect fit for me that they were insignificant. When you meet the right person, you'll know it because if you made a list of what you wanted in a partner--they'd have it all. That's not demanding perfection, that's choosing the priorities that matter to you.

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While you should have standards, if you wait for the PERFECT girl, you'll be waiting forever. There is no perfect anyone!!!!

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Definitely. Don't give up! But you should accept someone's flaws. "Perfect" is an opinion tht varys for everyone.

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Yes, because every person has it's flaws...even you and me... the best way to love a girl is accepting her imperfections and that's the time you can see the brighter side of her...waiting for ms. perfect is just a waste of time, try spending your time accepting the imperfections of that one girl who struck you.

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There is no such person, everyone has flaws. I think you should look for someone who shares your values

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If you keep waitin for the "perfect girl" your gonna stay single forever because there are no perfect girls nor guys. So just go for someone you like and wait

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We all have flaws, NOBODY is perfect! You will be single until you figure it out! Anyone that thinks they are perfect is just a legend in their own mind!

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First of all none of us are perfect, the one you're looking for just needs to seem perfect to you.

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No :(

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I think it's a great way to put it but i think you mean the perfect girl that goes in your heart without your permission but still she would have some flaws you need to adapt with or change if you can. I am really glad that there is a guy who still think this way. Hope you find her soon and you two live happily ever after :)

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Not stupid. You just have to actively search for her.

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Waiting for Mrs Perfect is not wrong-but you may be overlooking other girls you could have fun with along the way until you find her. It may get discouraging at times, but that just means it will be that much sweeter when you do find her. Good Luck! :)

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There isnt a perfect person out there..but there is a girl who will be perfect for you. Trust me she will be worth waiting for. Maybe she is still being molded and shaped into the woman who will one day be perfect for you. If you pull a flower open before it's time for it to blossom what happens? It dies. Dont be in such a rush. It sounds like you may be very young so enjoy life. Make sure that if you are looking for that perfect girl..you are that perfect guy first. I have seen too many couples rush into things and it normally does not last. You do not want to be in such a hurry to find love that you end up with the wrong woman and miserable.

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DUUHH dude thaz what u gotta do thats ur center man...PATIENCE.. juz wait for it i bet ur gon find her in no time, im in NO place to say this since i (a girl) have been dumped by stupid guyz cuz im not a ROMANTICA well guess what? u cant change me dammit! n juz cuz i play basketball 24/7 wid my friendz...well atleast i spend quite a dam fukkn time wid him!..so ya wait for er

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there is no such thing as a perfect anyone... girl or guy. If you have that has your expectation you may be alone for a very long time. Find someone that brings out the best in you and you do the same for her. Never let friends determine your GF, if she makes you happy, that is all that matters. No one is ever going to be perfect...

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