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My boyfriend keeps on ditching our plans, on the day we are supposed to hang out. Im starting to think he doesnt like me anymore. Answers?

We made plans today and he all of a sudden made other plans over ours.

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Trust me plz stop calling him and when he calls make your conversation short like ya ya ok well I gotta go and hang up ... He will call back when he does don't answer ... Send him to voice mail when he wants to hang out tell him your busy that day.. He says how about this day .. U tell him your not sure u just been busy... Trust me men hate when u act like ur to busy for them .. He will start thinking

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Ditching out a plan at the last minute simply means lack of interest. It could be that that he has lost interest in you and he doesn't know how to approach you. Just try and observe him closely to be sure.

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Or it can mean poor planning. Young people are very, very busy these days and sometimes schedules just get messed up. Ask him in a non-accusing voice why he frequently cancels plans, don't use words like "ditch". He may have a solid reason or he may just not realize he does it as much as he does.
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What exactly do you mean by "observe" him? But thank you.
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Well you should stop trying to make plans with him and see if he makes a move to spend time with you. If he doesn't....talk to him. Don't be confrontational...but just see what his issue is.

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But im worried he might break up with me if i don't make an effort with trying to hang with him.
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Then that's a chance you are gonna have to take. If he wants to break up...then it will inevitably going to happen whether you do this or not. Things happen for a reason. Wouldn't you rather figure it out now and know the deal than let paranoia start manifesting itself to a point where you just lose it. You have to be calm and take control of the situation. If he breaks up with you...at least you know. I have been there. I just wish I had said something instead of letting it sit.
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I suggest you just talk to him and ask what is up. Ask if he doesn't want to do what you had planned on or if he is avoiding you. In either case he needs to man up and explain himself. If he doesn't want to do what you had planned, you can change them. If it is you he has lost interest in then he needs to admit that instead of stringing you along.

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Sorry about that. He is not being considering your feeling. I'm going through the same thing. Don't know what to do either

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Talk to him about it.

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I think your boyfriend is upset about something. So ask him whether or not he still likes you. Instead of messaging him ask him face to face what he meant. Or call him and ask. You won't come off as clingy if you’re ready to move on if he no longer likes you. Clingy people have difficulty of letting go. Your answer to the question about whether he likes you or not can only by given by him.

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hes not interested im guessing. im sorry

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Find something REALLY fun to do he might think the things u want to do r boring go to the beach or something

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Do something that he loves that you hate and usually won't do. See if he calls it off and if he does, ask him about it. if he doesn't, he was bored about the stuff you planned so he wanted to do something specific.

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Dump him and find someone who cares about you

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We just started dating...
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Your screwed

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