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how to ask if my mom hates me?

so I want to ask my mom if she hates me, cus it feels like she does. I'd ask her straight up, but I'm afraid that she'll stop acting like she likes me.

whenever I'm sick she doesn't care, and when my dad tells her to care for me or help me, she has the angriest tone towards me (when I was rushed to the ER, she kept complaining she wanted to go home). or when I ask for help she uses the excuse "idk how". I always try my best to get good grades, and only my dad seems to congratulate me, while my mom is rewarding my siblings just cus she felt like it.

I just turned 15, I am the eldest of 3. and I'm scared and worried.

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Sounds like you need to sit down and talk to Mom And Dad with no one else around ! Explain how you feel and how it is hurting you ! Most of the time , a good family talk can work things out ! She could just be stressed out ! With three kids , it's a job to take care of . We had three kids and both worked , so it gets hard to spend time with the kids . Try to ask them if you can talk to them ! Hope this helps you !

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Poor kid needs to talk with them and work it out , don't you think ?
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First of all your mom doesn't hate you. Just tell her how you feel and I'm sure she will understand. I have the same problem with my dad and I know how it feels. I'm so sorry you feel that way~!

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I don't know why she would act that way; it's not the right way for a mother to act, I agree. But flat out asking her if she hates you won't help; you may feel a momentary satisfaction in confronting her, but I'm afraid it will only make her angry and possibly make her behavior worse. You've lasted 15 years in this situation; only 3 more then you can get out of the house if you have to. Do the best you can in school and life for your own sake and don't let her "odd" behavior discourage you. Something has apparently soured her life; don't let it sour yours.

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Parents in general start to care less as children grow up. Also since you are the oldest, they'll focus their time more on the younger siblings. Don't forget that your mom can be stressed from work. If you do still feel like she hates you , sit down an talk to her 1 on 1. But say "mom do you still love me ?" Not " do you hate me ". If you are too scared to ask her yourself , ask your dad to ask for you.

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Most of the time my mom acts the same toward my little brother

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I'd says she does. But a least you have your dad, right?

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There is nothing wrong with you. Your mother is the one who has the real issues. Are you a female? If that be the case she is just jealous of you. My mother was the same way. What she is doing is mental abuse. She is jealous of your youth and beauty, from what it sounds like you are saying. I could be wrong for I am no expert, but when I got older it affected me in many ways to the point i had to seek an experts advice. Needless to say, focus on the praise from your father, do really well in school be the better person and better than your mother. Have and raise your own family. Don't worry about her for now and just focus on bettering your life. Her karma will soon come trust me.

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OH oh sounds like a Family meeting time set up a family meeting and ask her then

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