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Is it wrong to propose via text message?

We have been dating for seven years now, and I want to pop the big question, but I am scared to face her. Is this socially acceptable?

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That's the worst idea I've ever heard. Man up...How are you ever gonna deal with going to the store to buy her tampooooons?

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That's the worst chore a man has to do.
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I dig it... Oh the compassionate looks I get from the other ladies on that aisle...
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Lmfao! Why on earth don't I ever remember you doing this?!
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You were having cramps...member?
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No...
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Is it wrong: Yes, very. Very.

Socially acceptable: Absolutely not. No.

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You gotta do it face to face, she'll love your nervousness, you'll seem like Hugh Grant in a romantic comedy. Plus, if she's to be your wife, you'll have to face her with everything. Don't do it by text.

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No but i think it's a little impersonal. If you really love them show the effort.

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Dude, no, just no..

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That is completely pathetic. Do it in real life.

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no no let him do it = )
i want to hear when he comes back and says she turned him down in a text lol....... a f... Ing text wow
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You like have to do it face to face. Otherwise she'll think you're to intimidated to face her an day no.

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REALLY?!? You only get to do this once. Make it special.

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No this is defiantly not romantic and she will not say yes! Proposing shroud be something planned or that was thought out for awhile

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That's like proposing at Micky d's

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That is totally un-romantic. There would be a higher chance for her to say "yes" if it is face-to-face...not through a text message.

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Wow. If you are afraid to ask her to marry you face to face, maybe you shouldn't be asking her. You need to be totally comfortable with the person you plan to marry.

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stargirl_28

Do something more romantic like put in a poster/ cake/ wall or whatever something that will surprise her

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OMG.. Man, make it exciting! Not on a text message.... What would you do if she said no on a text back? How would you face that? Look in her eyes, be sincere, and mean it... :) good luck!

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If you're too afraid to propose to a girl how you going to survive living with her for the rest of your life?

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Damn straight...
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oh gosh if i was your girl i would dump you if it was over text! maybe do it in a romantic way spell it out with flowers something cute

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What if it was via ask.com?
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your asking me?
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nvm & thats not cute at all it just means your not a real man you dont got balls
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Yes will you marry me? :)
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yeah
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lol no jk i think you got your girls mixed up get a life your not funny
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I'm not funny..? :'(
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not at all..........im surprised you even got a girl
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Whatever. You're not even a princess. YOU'RE A LIAR!!!! A FAKE, STUPID LIAR!!!
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I've seen a bunch of people do it via text message an I'm like -.- (You're kidding me face). I think everyone being proposed to wants to be face to face, because the reactions are definitely priceless.

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After you propose via text, what are you gonna do, email her an engagement ring and take separate honeymoons?

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And make whoopie on Twitter...
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no its ok its the new thing now a days = /

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RedRose
:O please tell me ur kidding
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yes = )
Its stupid who does this lol
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RedRose
PHEW! yeah its so incredibly pathetic i cant believe someone would actually ask this. ALMOST laughable
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almost .... lol how are you
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RedRose
im great! going to hawaii next week and im super excited :D how are you?
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ohh wow thats great ... are you going with your boyfriend or family...?
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RedRose
haha nope i'm single. going with my family and good friend.
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remember the most important thing rose is have fun ....
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RedRose
of course :) and i plan on having lots of it
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Uhhh yes! Make it romantic or something!

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Yes. Don't do that...

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RedRose

GOOD LORD ABOVE if a man proposed to me over text I would march over to his house, knock on the door, push past his mom and make my way to her basement where I would take the guys phone from his weak, pathetic hands and SHOVE IT UP HIS ***!!!
If it wasn't clear THE ANSWER WOULD BE NO.
SO VERY PATHETIC. If you are that immature as to even THINK of this being an okay thing to do, you are no where near ready to get married.

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ha ha yep i don't blame you thats so tacky = )
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plus, his facial expression would be pretty hilarious once the cell phone was all the way up there >:)
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Why you are scared dear.... in my opinion text message is not suitable, these are the most important moments of life, proposing the someone special...so make it special...

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thats really special
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In which era r u in? Dont propose thru text ... choose the place you go often. You can consider the following - candle night dinner, sea shore side, bunch of roses, her favourite chocolate, once she is comfortable just kneel down n propose her preferably with a ring.. she will love it... all the best...

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it's not romantic to propose via text, and it shows lack of seriousness..

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that is so dumb (no offence) if i got proposed to like that i would be really mad it would be like "umm no man up and talk to me dont do this over text this isnt a game!!'

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thatoneguy97

How is it in this question, you're asking if its wrong to propose in text message, and in another you're 14?

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How is it that you're creepy enough to stalk my questions?
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Because its a public site, and I can
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a text message is so cold and distant.. besides don't you want to be there to see the joy on her face? if you ask her via text "will you marry me?" what is she supposed to say? "yes!" and then what? you say "great! see you later." - thats so unromantic. but everyone has different relationships and she might like it. i personally would be pissed off if my boyfriend did that. p.s. however you do it i'm sure she will say yes :)

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No, it's hard to propose when your bride is looking at a bunch of pixels you sent, go up to her, open the box and say, "Will you marry me?".

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you should like both be on your phones sitting next to each other and then send her a text saying will u marry me and when she looks up you'll be on your knee with the ring

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YES....... u need to do it in person to show u really care

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You should make it more romantic !!!!!!!! <3

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It is mush more meaning full if you do it face to face rather than over the phone. I think your girl/boy friend would be more likely to say yes if it more personal to them

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si porq la otra persona puede darse cuenta de tu temor de decirle cara a cara lo q realmente sientes, aunque no quieras mostrar eso......es preferible q se lo digas denlante de esa personita

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i wouldn't say that it is wrong per-say. i was proposed to via text message 2 years ago. i would have preferred it be in person though. we were engaged for a while though, so i would say if she's the right girl for you then she shouldn't mind, but the gesture of doing it in person would be a lot better.

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I would ask her in person, in my opinion, you would look like a coward if you did it over a text message, and she probably wouldn't take you very seriously

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