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Who should walk me down the aisle at my wedding? (Read details)

I'm not getting married soon, but this has been on my mind for a while and it worries me a bit. My dad passed away two years ago and I always envisioned him and only him walking me down the aisle at my wedding and giving me away. I'm not really close with my uncles or anything. I think I really have two options. Should my brother who is a year older than me walk me down or should I allow my groom's father walk me down? Please be honest on what you think about the brother option, because I've never known anyone else to do that, but I think I prefer that idea. Thank you!

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First I'm sorry about the loss of your dad. I think it would be most appropriate for your older brother to give you away at your wedding. I think he'd be more than honored to do that, your dad would be so proud.

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Thank you so much. :) That was really helpful. When I mentioned the idea to my friend and mom, they both said they had never heard of that idea before and my mom told me that when her mom got married that her father had also passed before then and that the father-in-law walked her down since she couldn't pick between her two brothers. But I only have one brother so I don't have to pick or choose! :) Thank you so much! :)
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You're welcome. I chose your brother since he's a blood relative on your side, not at all siding against your future father in law. Hope your mom understands as well.
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It depends on what you want and who you are closer too, if you're closer to your brother then have him walk you down the aisle

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I think your brother should walk you down with a picture of your father in one in a way of showing my father in spirit is walking me down the aisle, just an idea

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Definitely your brother, of course no one can ever take the place of your father but I'm sure he'd want your brother to do it.

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I agree. ..
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It's very appropriate for a brother to walk you down the aisle (and common, I've seen it done myself, in the same circumstance). I, too, think your Dad would be very proud and touched. :)

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Definitely, your brother my dear, since your dad passed away (sorry for that anyway) your brother is the junior. I mean, of course he is the one can take the place of your father. :)

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I'm getting married in May and my dad passed away when I was 11. I'm having my younger brother walk with me. Mostly because I don't have an older brother and I feel like at least a part of my Dad will be there. It seemed awkward to me at first too but maybe you will have the same comfort I will knowing he's the closest I will come to my dad being there.
Also I don't know what your plans are for a reception. But, I found a candle with some writing on it to burn during dinner in his honor. I'm just going to put it on the card table along with a few pictures. Just an idea..
Congratulations by the way!

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Since your brother is family, yes, he should be the one to give you away. Don't feel at all awkward, the circumstances are special. The idea of the burning candle in your dad's honor is a beautiful idea! Best wishes to you!
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I've always known it will be my oldest of three older brothers. It is a natural choice being that my father is gone. You having your brother walk you down will be a beautiful sentiment to the memory of your father. He would be very proud to watch from above to see his son take place for him.

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What a beautiful way to put it. Your response brought tears to my eyes! Bless you.
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I have a friend whose father died before her wedding and her mom walked her down. Another friend, same situation, walked down by herself. I like your idea to ask your brother. As far as fatherinlaw I would say no to giving you away but ask him to dance the father/daughter dance with you at the reception.

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Sorry for your loss. In regards to the question I would say your brother. I have a sister also and if she would ever ask me to do that I would feel so honored.

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