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How do you move past a seperation and forgive for the very cruel things he has said and done? Living through his mid life crisis?

after 16 great years together my husband and I moved to the Henderson area. I noticed him changing pretty much from day one. he started wanting to hang our after work. the guys he wanted to hang out with we're between 22-25. he was 35. he went from a we to a me, I started feeling like the enemy instead of a team. it's been 3 more years and he is now living with his 24 year old friend and his mom in a small two bedroom apt. his very young friend that has never been in a serious relationship let alone married is making my life decisions. I am left in a house with no gas or water ad no money. he has said the cruelest things possible and has left me feeling abandoned and alone. I have nothing and they are having dinner party's. now he says he was so wrong, but he has lost his job and can't fix it at this time. be. patient. just go with it. I live him while heartedly, but I have been so alienated by all of them, how can I still be a part?

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It is possible to move past a separation and forgive him for the cruel things he has done for you. You need to assume that he is not there for you and try to be on your own. To try moving on, you will have to get a new social life because what you are experiencing now can lead to depression.

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maybe he had been using drugs, it sounds like it with the way he changed and things he said. if you do love him and you think he's being sincere then work it out but if it doesnt change your gonna have to leave and get away from that life style because i know its killing you inside.

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