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Is it ok if i have plans that go against my family's point of view?

My family expect me to fall in love and eventually have kids, trouble is, my plans are no wife and especially, no kids, how much trouble can this drop down on me? (if any)

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Once you're 18 , then any decisions are yours ! They might be upset at first , but they will come around . Lot's of people don't want to do what their parents want them too . I had three kids and they all chose what they wanted to do . I never got mad , just had to give them their freedom to choose ! You'll be fine !

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You sound like a great parent :)
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They wouldn't have said that years ago , but now that they are older , it's different . I wanted and offered all three to go to college , but they wanted other things . I understood . Although my daughter went back to school and eventually became a lawyer ! I'm still proud of them , no matter what !
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It's awesome that she went on her own! Very cool :)
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She went through a bad marriage that we knew wasn't going to work , but we didn't say anything . Now she is happily married and a Lawyer to boot !
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Hi mr.Wayne! I got ask on my iPod and wanted to say hi!
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Hi , Captain ! Hear it's raining there ! You should have come to California ! Sunny and warm here !
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You have what a lot of folks lack as parents, wisdom.
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It sure took time ! Kind of on the job training !
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Totally. If you always went with your family how would your life be?

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Chaos :P
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Exactly! :)
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none its your choice bro

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Live your life, don't allow anyone to live it for you.

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That's perfectly fine. You might have problems if you try to voice your opinions while still living with your parents though.

Once you are more independent, your family will be forced to accept you as you are, or lose having a relationship with you. Chances are, they will choose to accept you and your opinions.

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stephan31

it cant go with you heart no one can say what to do but the might be a lil fight with you and your mom wanting grankids

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She better get used to me as a no kids guy, cuz i don't pretend to change :P
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it is indeed your personal choise

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It depends on the family. Just FYI, you can plan all you want not to fall in love, but sometimes it happens anyway.

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Good morning blu
No truer words than those
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Yea too bad i am able to ignore my feelings...
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You don't have to be outspoken and aggressive about your plans in life, but you shouldn't live how someone else wants you to live. That said, keep an open mind and simply do what makes you happy. Maybe one day you'll change your mind, maybe not, but don't try to create rules for yourself about it.

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Too late mate no kids nor marriage are top rules for me.
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My point is just focus on being happy, not focus on following rules. Make sense?
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ok now i get it
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I think that it is OK if you don't want to follow that sort of stereotype of getting married, and having children, being single is great as well. Try explaining things to your parents, they should understand. If not, wait till your 18, then they cannot boss you around. If you already are, still try to explain. GOOD LUCK :)

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I've tried but they won't listen and i'm 20 now X_X
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Live your life the way you want to and if your family doesn't support that, screw them.

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no trust them talk it out

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I would talk it out if they ever listen at all.
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Once you hit adult hood you may have a change of thoughts.

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I hope not
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How old are you know?
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20 years
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going for 21 at April
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Trust me if you date someone by then you may have a change of thoughts in maybe your early 30's my dad didn't want kids but when he met my mother that all changed and he try's to spend every second he can with me and my brother. It's just one of those things that you didn't want but find out it could be the best thing that ever happened to you.
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I don't care i want no kids nor marriage and i'm able to ignore my feelings after all do it's not a big deal to me :)
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Gosh that "do" before big deal ain't suppose to be there :P sorry.
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The worst that could happen is they disown and shun you once you leave their house. They could completely block you from participating in any family functions. If they cannot accept your decisions, then, from my perspective, you are better off without them trying to lead your life.

Even if they don't go to that extreme, you will probably need some professional counseling to deal with the conflict that is bound to show up.

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aaa whos life is it

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Lollipopslove

Is it your life not theirs.

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It's your life, not your Mom or Dad's life. I know how it feels to go against their wishes but you need to live your life for you. You might feel guilt, but you need to push that away and be happy. Keep your head up, everything will turn out ok.

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It's your life, no one else lives it but you. You have the freedom to live however you want to. If your family cares for you, they will learn to accept your decisions in life.

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Not really because when those "plans" don't work out guess who's gonna be there, your family! Your really need to rethink, and be open to your family's opinions!

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Not a problem if you want to do things your way. That is what I am doing myself. Just be prepared for your fam to tell you how they think you should do things on a regular basis, and be prepared to let it roll off your back so you do not fight with your fam. Just nod, smile, say ty for your opinion, and go do what you feel is best for you any way.

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U don't have to discuss this personal life decision, just listen and say we will see what happens I'm not there yet.

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